Advice needed plz re Mothers outfits

I honestly don't care what any of the 3 mothers wear. I've sent samples of the BM dress fabric to those who request it so that their colour choices don't "argue" with the BMs, but other than that it's their choice to wear what suits them.

Red's a fiddly one as wrong shades do tend to clash, but if they're not going to clash I wouldn't worry too much!

It's only in recent years that the trend has been for Mums' outfits to match the colour of the wedding. Personally, I feel Mums should wear what colour they like as long as it suits them rather than try and match but as both of your Mums have opted to wear black as well, it would tone the red down so I wouldn't worry too much. If you are apprehensive about the reds clashing, and a lot of people do have different ideas of what 'red' actually is, it's worth giving them a little sample of ribbon in the same shade as the dresses as already mentioned so that the shades don't clash too much.

Thank you to both of you for your helpful replies. I am not having a high end typically traditional wedding it is just relaxed smallish wedding and so i said everyone is welcome to wear what ever they wanted to and my BM's had the choice what type of dress they wanted and i have let them pick any style they want that suits them as long as it is in a scarlet red.

We have the men in matching suits as we got a good deal in the suit hire shop as otherwise we was just going to but matching red cravats for them and let them wear their own suits.

I don't mind if the mums fit in with the colour theme but i just was thinking of how it may look on the photo's- will it clash or will it look ok?

It will be absolutely fine. I think the black and black/silver accessories to their outfits will add a very glamourous, classic look to the photos!

I think you should communicate with them ,tell them the reason.I think they will change the idea.

My bridesmaids wore red, and I had a similar worry. I didn't want the mothers to match the bridesmaids, but also my mum was worried about choosing a colour that would clash horribly in the photos (like green or blue). In the end my mum bought a lovely plum coloured outfit, and my MIL wore a sort of wine colour - so both purples, but red based rather than too bluey. And not too similar to each other, either.

I'd say as long as the mothers' outfits don't actually clash, it's fine. I told my Mum that my BM would be wearing a blueish colour. Then when my BM chose her dress it was actually a greeny teal colour and we found matching ties for the men. I showed Mum and she looked upset and said "but that's not the same colour as the blue dress I've bought, it won't match". my reply? "Mum, you're not a fkn bridesmaid!!" LOL!!!

It'll look great, honestly!

Our colours are red / black / white, and my mum has bought a gorgeous dress with a black base and large red flowers on it. The red it 'lifted' by fresh green stems on each flower (but not overpowering) and she will wear a tailored black bolero style jacket, black shoes, and a huuuuuuge red and black hat (we've found the perfect one in a local hat hire place, just have to hope it's not been sold before the day!)

I have no idea what H2B's mum will wear - I don't know if it's appropriate for me to dictate? She hasn't got any daughters, but usually goes shopping with her mum / sister / niece. I'd be happy to go with her - I LOVE clothes shopping for others - but I don't want her to think I'm controlling!

Thanks again for all your kind replies. I feel much better about it now. I will just go with the flow and see what happens.I suppose as long as none of them come in a wedding dress then i will be fine lol. x

My mum and his mum both got a bit anxious about colours etc (with about 10 months to go!) and they happened to both be visiting one weekend so I had a good chat with them, suggesting (again because of the clashing and the fact there were quite alot of things of the key colour already) that they might like to choose coordinating colours and gave them a list, said they could have a sample of the BM fabric but also said they were free to choose what they fancies, but would prefer if they stood out as the mum's rather than wearing the same colour os the BMs (who have different outfits in the same fabric).

His mum almost immediately bought a dress in the exactl colour scheme colours... and its ivory as its base colour... I was not so happy but OH wouldn't let me say anything...

I don't understand why they would want to match the BMS, but I can understand the worry of not looking right stood witht the rest of the wedding party so fabric samples so they can get complimentary colours is a good idea.

Fortunately my mum is cool, and has already said she doesn't want a normal MOB outfit and is looking for something vintage, so I think she will stand out, which is what I want, she's my mum!

Hi Dark moomin - I am so glad someone else has the same problem and so understands how i feel.

I too don't understand why they would want to match either but i think they automatically think that because you ar having a colour theme and the BM's are following it which are usually siters and other family members ,then they should too!?

Confused- the good thing is i have said i will go shopping with the 2 of them (seperatly) and help them choose a dress so maybe i can steer them towards a dress "which is more their colour" If you catch my drift lol.

Good luck and let me know how you get on.