Hi everyone I'm hoping some of you will be able to give me some advice about a tricky issue with my step daughter to be.
When I marry OH next April I will be acquiring 2 step daughters, the eldest is currently ten and the younger is eight. We see them every other weekend and I have quite a good relationship with them despite being the least maternal person ever. When they last came to stay out of the blue the youngest had brought with her a list of her 40 favourite songs and told me that I needed to choose 6 or 7 that would make up her 'set' for the wedding and she would get karaoke backing tracks and start practising them. I was a bit taken aback as this was the first I had heard of any suggestion of her performing and I wasn't being asked if we would like her to do it but being told that she was going to. She's not a bad singer but I had no plans for her to be singing at our wedding, and certainly not a whole set! She is already included in the wedding as a BM but I think she has to understand it is our day and for once she will not be the centre of attention. OH has totally bottled this and said that I'm in charge of wedding planning and she needs to sort it out with me. They are coming back this weekend so how do I handle this situation without turning into a wicked step mother?
TIA for your thoughts