So, my bizare family set up has come across the first hurdle. My Dad has been married three times - to my Mum, to my 1st step mum for 15 years with whom he had two children and then last year got married for the 3rd time.
Everyone is invited to the wedding which is in Cornwall next May, and that's all fine.
However....I am having a hen weekend just with my best mates - no mums etc so me and my mum thought it would be a really nice idea to get all the brides maids together (My sister, half sister, two sisters in law and two friends) for a dress fitting around April next year. We then thought we could turn it into a kind of bridal shower and also invite my Mother in law 2 be and Step Mother law 2 be (who all get on fine!!). The problem is with my Dad's second and third wives! Ideally I'd love both of them to be there but I am getting the feeling that they wouldn't be happy to be in the same room together let alone spend a couple of days together.
I feel like I have to invite my Dad's current wife as officially she is my step mother now....however my Dad's second wife was my step mum for 15 years and her daugher (my half sister) is a bridesmaid.
I stupidly mentioned it to my current step mum last weekend.....I said I was thinking of having a bridal shower for mums and step mums and she said 'I hope not all step mums!!!' I just sort of brushed over it!
I am normally really good at working out these things but I really don't have any clue what to do. I just don't want to annoy any one. I know the easy option would be just to invite my dads current wife but I am so concious that my other step mum will be so left out....someone else taking her daugher away for the weekend, plus she's not been able to be included in any of the other plans...and I'm kind of her daughter and I'm getting married.
Do I just invite them both and let them battle it out between them? (BTW most of my family live in Norwich, but my Mum is in Henley and that is where we'll be having the party and I live in London!)
I don't think talking to my Dad about it will help as he's not really great about these things
My REAL mum is being really good about it all and is going to host the party! I'm a bit like if she's happy to have two of her ex husbands wives in her house why can't everyone else suck it up and get on with it!
Any advice really appreciated!!
