Advice please (before I start whacking annoying guests round the chops) ;-O

No. It's a complete sentence, so use it!

If you haven't invited them why would you invite yourself a long? I know it isn't wedding related but my mum invited her friends down for my brothers Christening 3 years ago, and her friends son brought his girlfriend up too and she didn't speak to anyone (as she didn't know any of us) and they spent the whole time kissing and cuddling, probably to try and block out the awkwardness. My mum also wasn't happy that she had to cater for an extra person last minute who wasn't invited.

Don't do anything you don't want to do, it is your day.

WHAT?! Pizza delivery just for her?! Madness.

Like Laura said- No, just No!

Unfortunately, these things are not only so rude, they're also common around these parts.

Just stand your ground!

SpottieDottie:

doesn't like any of our food options so can she just come and order a pizza from the local pizza delivery place instead of the wedding breakfast?

You might have a get-out-clause here as your venue might not allow this! Ours certainly won't; only hotel food can be eaten in the function room. I guess you could order a pizza if you ate it on your own in the car park??!

My aunt and uncle did the substitution thing on us too - one of their 2 daughters couldn't come so they said that the cousin that can come is bringing her boyfriend, when I'd told them that no cousins were getting plus-ones to save argument. Now feel obliged to tell other cousins that they can have a plus one after all grrrr

People are just weird sometimes.

My jaw just hit the floor! Don't think I've ever heard anything like either of these situations before!

I'm worried about this happening in the evening. I have to account for every guest in the evening as the venue will put only put out a certain number of plates and I have to pay £20 per person in the evening so cant afford to overestimate. I think I will have to RSVP for my evening guests too!! But if anyone else comes uninvited it will really cause problems.

Just go ahead and whack them round the chops!

Yup. I agree with chops whacking.

Yes of course you can have pizza - we'll set you up a nice little spot in pizza hut across the street - you can youtube the speeches -

Tell her she is welcome to leave the party at the start of the meal, to go wherever she wants to get food, and you'll see her sometime in the evening if she decides to return. That's polite and accommodating. As for the cousin's boyfriend, just no.

Easily resolved, just tell the cheeky pizza girl to come to evening only instead, problem solved.

As for the Aunt, could you get your Mum/Dad (whoever is the relation) to have a bit of a word in their ear to save an arguement to just say that they can't come? I know my Mum would have words for me, after all, it might be your right to say no, but not everyone is comfortable being so direct as just saying "NO!".

Good luck with it though!!

That pizza comment made me laugh so much, I spat Easter egg all over my dogs! I think I would just tell her to not bother coming to the day time, have her pizza and join you at 7:30 (or whenever) for the evening do.

Guests trying to invite people in place of others seems to be a relatively common problem. Someone definitely needs to have a word with the aunt and let her know that the guests are your choice, not hers. Hope it sorts itself soon!

Oh God, nothing surprises me at all...the mere fact that you even have to chase people pees me off!! Chop whacking is definitely in order here...Fussy eaters to evening only please, and no,actually people who do not have an invite are NOT INVITED ,lol

My last respondee (?) asked if we had "room for 4 more" - people who have not been in touch for 3 years,but fancied popping along for the crack as it is a bank holiday weekend,all of a sudden they want to see me !

Excuse me ! Tell her to eat before she comes if she's that fussy! I can't believe she has even suggested that. My OH is the fussiest eater i have ever met - at no point EVER would he even think about considering doing this. She sounds like a total idiot... as if you don't RSVP to a wedding because of food choice?!

Speechless!

We are - so we can work out on food and so we can make sure if some people aren't coming we can invite others? Is this not the norm lol x

I feel your pain!!

In the end I have gone for a hot buffet as I had so many people asking about food! - I just cant be ars*d with them lol! and my aunty did the same thing said one of my cousins couldnt come so could the other bring his girlfriend I replied politely that sorry no as I have not let anyone else bring theirs and it wouldnt be fair and she was fine with that x

Thanks lovelies! Well pleased to say I have resisted any chops whacking and have compromised by letting the awkward (and also rude/ungrateful!) person have a child's pizza & chips instead of the adult food menu. Then they demanded that all the kids & her have a starter of garlic bread as they're 'big eaters' (yep, that'll be why they're all obese then) which I've given in on as it's only an extra tenner. She's not having an adult dessert though - if she wants to act like a child she can have the kids menu including the jelly and ice cream they're having for pudding! I can't wait to watch her getting jelly over herself and looking like an overgrown kid, tee he :-D

Still undecided what to do about the cousin's girlfriend though - don't know whether to just suck it up as it's only one person or if it's worth saying 'no' and causing arguments.

Urgh, family who'd have 'em? ;-)

Thanks for all your thoughts / advice x