Help!!!!!
I'm in a bit of a pickle about whether to ask my oldest friend to be a BM for me. We've been friends since we were a year old, we grew up together and if the situation wasn't as potentially complicated I wouldn't think twice about it, but...
We now live 300 miles apart, we both moved away from our home town for love - she moved south, I moved north - and as a result we don't actually see each other all that much. She also has two young children and her husband has ME, most of the time he's fine but when he's not she has to look after him as well as the girls. So my concern is that on the day she might already have her hands full.
I've talked about it with my OH, my mum and my CBM, and between us we've thought of a few ways to make it work. I'm considering getting high street dresses for the BMs so it would be easy enough for her to get a co-ordinating one if I can't get down there, and I thought maybe I could suggest that if the girls are being a handful she could sit with them for the service. She might not even want to be a BM, I haven't asked her yet. At first I was going to explain to her that I thought it would be too difficult to make it work, but then after thinking about it I can't just not ask her, we've been mates forever.
Am I missing any obvious solutions? Any suggestions at all will be gratefully received!