advice please! worst nightmare!

definatly what she said!! You should say seeing the ideas are now the same ive gone with a completly different colours and ideas so we dont over shadow each other !! hopefully she will take those !!!

unfortunatly when i was younger i had a friend like that , thankfully not getting married at the same time as me but she used to try and copy me for every idea i had , once we was going on a big important night out with loads of friends and family and i fell in love with a beautifull 1950s prom style dress and told her all about it (thinking i was safe i told her all about it as i knew it was totally not her thing) , i didnt see her for a few days before the night out and i went off the prom dress and not telling her i choose something much nicer ! but on the night of the night out , guess what she turns up in ?? My 1950s prom dress she looked such a mess it didnt suit her at all and people spent the night telling me id look better in the dress!!! well i felt good!!

i hope everything gets sorted out and you have always got us to talk to !!

Thanks so much for response ladies, its an unfortunate situation I suppose...its only the biggest day in a womans life! I know deep down I cant tell her she cant have the same as me I just hoped that she wouldn't (I think its very poor taste). I'm incredibly close with my brother and shes now his fiance so could potentially cause a lot of problems. But I do feel this bitter little monster stirring inside of me whenever she talks about her wedding! lol

I keep reminding myself that its the fact I'm marrying the most amazing man that counts not all that goes with it but its sooooo hard, I've seen bridezilla and desperately dont want to turn into one..ha ha x

Basically, in future keep your ideas to yourself or only share with people who you know will keep their mouths shut. Its a shame you have to do that but in this situation I think its the only way to avoid it happening again.

If I was you, I'd ask your Brother if he minds you asking her why she's copying your ideas... In the first instance this'll flag with him that you're not happy with her and also cover your back. His gf won't be able to "slag you off" which it sounds like she would!

If all else fails one simple trick will work perfectly... Drop into conversation with her some dates that you're thinking of (but only to her), then once she confirmed her own dates, gazump her with announcing that you're getting married two months earlier!

Sounds b*tchy, but it'll feel great!

(Or you could simply ask your Mum's advice, again which would cover your behind!)

You made appointments with venues between Christmas and New Year?! You're keen!!

When are the wedding dates you are thinking of? I anticipate they are some months away, so it's likely that when she gets her hands on some wedding magazines etc she'll change her plans several times over. I really wouldn't worry too much. In all honesty, even with similar colour schemes etc two weddings can still be very different.

If you genuinely believe she's doing it to irritate you, call her bluff - pretend to be flattered that she so obviously admires your style and she'll soon tire of copying if she isn't getting a rise.

That must be frustrating as!!! I had a similar problem with my engagement. When my OH told his family he was going to propose, his sister went out of her way to make sure she got engaged first. In the end she announced her engagement about a week before we did. This bothered my OH more than it bothered me (he was worried I'd have weddings on the brain and ruin his surprise).

If I were you I'd just let it wash over you. You can't control what she does. But what you can do is make sure you have YOUR wedding whenever and however YOU want it. If your sister-in-law 2B wants to steal your ideas then I can't help but feel a bit sorry for her. She's the one missing out on having her own dream wedding, not you.

Ooo, and congratulations on your engagement!

From a "guys" perspective, some of us look at this in a slightly different way. If someone wants to copy what I do, I actually look at that as a complement and that the other person looks to me as having a good taste that they wish to aspire to, and not that they are trying to steal my ideas.

Perhaps your best conversation is with the other bride to be.....talk and agree to do things differently to avoid replication....she probably actually wants a unique day too. If you embrace each others weddings and work to help each other, you can both achieve a personal satisfaction of a very alternative wedding as there are many choice avenues to take when deciding exactly what you want for your day.

It is a fantastic event for both of you brides to be. I hope that it can be worked out.

Peter

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