Hello again all,
I think this is something at least 99.9% of us can all relate to - guest list issue. The friends we want to invite - all fine. My fiancé's family - all fine. My family ... would love to say "all fine" but I'm having issues.
Basically, my uncle (dad's brother) and his wife plus their two sons know my fiancé and I as a couple. They're over the moon for us and sent such a lovely congratulations card which we weren't expecting. I love them all dearly and want to put them on the guest list. However. My aunt (mum's sister) and her daughter I have obviously known since birth but they haven't met my fiancé and when I see them I don't even talk about him. Not because I'm ashamed of him but because I am ALWAYS on edge around them. They are extremely religious, particularly my cousin, and I was born into the same church that they still attend. Long story short, if I invite them I know for a fact I will be asked why it's not being held in the church I was born into and why I'm opting for a Lutheran wedding. Secondly, the reception afterwards will be fun, complete with booze. Now whilst all our friends are fun when drunk, they would judge the drinking. Trust me, I've been around my cousin when others are drinking and it's not the most comfortable of situations.
Now, is it really bad form to invite extended family from dad's side but none from mum's? I really want to invite at the very least my uncle and aunt. But I know that if I invite said extended family from mum's side then I really will not have a good time on my own wedding day as I'll feel like I was being constantly judged, even though there's no bad blood there - I'm just very selective with what I talk to them about.
Has anyone had any similar situations? Not necessarily religion based but perhaps politics based? I want to send out my save the date e-mail soon but I don't want to upset my mum ☹️