Aghh help .... Need support ... :'(

I really wouldn't worry. If I were invited I'd love the idea of a mini break in Oxford whether it was for family or friends! Even if I was local I would be booking off the days after the wedding to make it a decent break. Although maybe I'm just too old to face the thought of work the day after a good party. ? I would certainly always choose to attend the whole celebration and take the next day off rather than leaving early.

I think that what someone was saying in the other thread about not the possibility of not having enough days leave was absolutely spot on BUT since you've sent out your save the dates a year in advance and the invites will be going out 6 months before then I imagine that people will have plenty of time to make sure they can book the time off. Most people I know have their new years allowance of annual leave starting in either January or April so you should be fine. I'm having a busy year for annual leave next year but that's only due to the wedding. Most years I'd be dead chuffed to have something special like that to book time off for.

Thank you Trish , it just suddenly dawned on me , had I made a massive mistake ?

I guess time will tell ! We just fell in love with our venue completely - weekend was a no go as it was nearly £5000 more for the same 'package' x

I think if you've sent out invites a year in advance and reminders 6 months prior, you should be fine

And Oxford is a lovely place to have a mini break in!

If most of the folk you love most in the world can make it, you'll be fine. I was a bit negative on that threat (I call it realistic lol) but if people find it fits in for them, that's great!

Don't worry, it's all booked now and you've sent out save the dates. I think you would've heard from those who "object" to it being a weekday by now. Don't worry, just enjoy that you haven't got long to go and that it saved you all that money which can be put to good use during your married days :-)

I wouldn't read too much into previous posts and opinions it is your wedding, your guests will have plenty of time to get time off work the next day if need be, as you say it is cheaper for a mid week wedding and all that matters is you and you OH.

I just want it to be perfect .... I only have a couple of worries! This now being my main one ! :/ but from what you all say - hopefully - I've given enough notice !

my other concern was my mums just moved house , after printing all the invites with her RSVP address !!! So she's got one if those redirection things ... It best work! How selfish of her xx

I think if everyone has already said they're making a mini break of it, you should be fine!

That thread put the frighteners up me too, my wedding is a Monday. There was absolutely no way on earth we could have EVER afforded a Saturday. We saved thousands. I watched an episode of Four Weddings last week where the bride got her dream venue with only 25 guests on a Monday and in the evening it was so quiet. This has also freaked me out!!!

We're having a monday wedding too but as its only close family I'm not too worried. I was worried about the evening reception being on a school night though, so we're having that the following Saturday!

Hello! Your wedding is just 2 days before mine!

I have been to weekday weddings before and they have lasted just as long as weekend weddings! And as a pp has said, people would most likely have spoken up about possibly not making it when you sent out your STDs! I think as b2b, we will always find something to stress over...always!! But I really don't think you have anything to worry about!

(Btw, we get married on 11th April which for where I am, is the last day of term before Easter hols, but my kids have an inset day that day...you must break up earlier where you are!)

Try not to worry too much. I think a lot of us on the other thread were mainly thinking of our own annual leave entitlements, which understandably are low due to our own weddings. I imagine it wouldn't be too much of an issue for you.

I would always book time off for a friend's or family member's wedding, and I should think many others would too. The only thing I have found is that where the next day is a school/work day, a lot of people don't tend to book that day off too so they either hold back a bit at the reception do or some have left early. But as someone else mentioned, if people are already talking of making a nice mini break of it then you have nothing to worry about.

I am having similar worries as we are getting married (blessing) in France and worry that no one will come because of time off work etc. My OH reminded me that our nearest and dearest will be there, and if anyone else can make it, it will be a bonus. My MOH also said it is a really cheap holiday (as we got a big discount on group accom prices) so people would be mad not to come!

I think if you have given people plenty of warning, it being midweek won't make a bit of difference. Also, if it is around Easter, a lot of people take time off then anyway to maximise bank holidays etc!

I am sure the people you want there will make the effort to come!! Everyone loves a minibreak!

Despite me being one the biggest doom mongers on the other thread I do think you have given people lots of notice! And that is the key.

I got married 3 weeks ago today, a Thursday. We invited 90 people to the day and 15 more in the evening. We didn't have a single decline when the invites went out (we sent them out earlier than usual so people had plenty of notice, which is what you are doing too?) Only one person couldn't come last minute, and it was because she had kidney stones and was in the hospital.

We got married at 2.30pm and partied until midnight. Some of my mates continued afterwards in the pub! The only people who left earlier were people with kids and some of the older folk, who I think would've left at the same time if it had been a weekend anyway.

So from someone who has had a weekday wedding, DON'T WORRY!

Also I would like to add that not everyone has a 9-5 job. I am a chef so I work all weekend, so anything that I get invited to on a weekend is very difficult for me. If I want to be there, I will get the time off, and people will do the same for you.

My wedding is on a Thursday in December - the worst month for people getting time off work! We worried about it initially, but know those who are important to us will be there, and those who work can come to the evening bit for a few drinks even if they have to work the next day.

So much more cost effective for us!

Thanks girls - xx