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Mrs Chef, 20 February, 2009 at 18:40 Posted on Off Topic Posts 0 11

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So my neighbour is the moaning type!

there is a disabled bay outside her house. I know she does have mobility issues as she often uses as scooter to get to shops and back and i'm aware that the diabled bay is for her use (although i know bays are not registered to specific people). She does not own a car, her son who lives with her and his wife own a smart car which i've never seen her get in in the 3 years we've lived here. she mostly uses the dial-a-ride service.

a long while ago i had a tight squeeze parking and my back wheels just touched the lines of the bay and she was at my door like a shot telling me to move my car, which i did! however since then when her son parks his car there daily, and her friends park there, and her grandson parks there yet NONE of them display a badge im feeling a little miffed in fact in 3 years the only person i've seen park there and display a badge has been MY nan!

this eve my mum had parked there as no other space, wrong i know but it wasnt me, i walked thru the door to be followed by neighbour asking me to move the car from her disabled bay asap at which point i just got very angry and had a row with her about the fact that she seems to be able to use the space as her and her friends personal parking sace and never display a badge, she claimed that they did but i no they dont, her argument for her grandson was that he now lives there to which i reminded her that it's not a bay for personal use and isn't designated to a house as such. i also told her anytime i see a car parked there without a badge displayed i'd report it

am i being mean? i'm currently trying to find something on the net about misuse of disabled bays to print and show her (mainly to prove my point - childish i know) but not finding anything specific.

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Cosmopolitan · 20 February, 2009 at 18:45
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I would probably do the same as it would wind me up. Where does the smart car park? If it is on the driveway do they still have access if your mum was parked there?
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lucylu · 20 February, 2009 at 18:56
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No. Not unreasonable. You or any of your other neighbours could have a disabled guest who is unable to use the bay because her non-permit holding relatives and friends are using it. Neither she nor you could possibly know who has a hidden disability. Though your mum parking in it (if she isn't a permit holder) is no better than them parking in it so doesn't help your point
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Luthien · 20 February, 2009 at 18:57
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I think you might be being a little unreasonable. If we had a disabled bay here, I would just take it as somewhere I was never to park - and for good reason. If other people abused it, then that would befor them to reconcile with themselves. I don't think it would be something I would spend anytime worrying about.
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sdaisy22 · 20 February, 2009 at 18:58
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Well I would never, ever park in a disabled space without a badge (and if my mum did I'd tell her to move!) but I can see why you're annoyed with your neighbour if she doesn't make a fuss when her friends park there without displaying a blue badge, and I don't think you'd be wrong to report cars parked there without a badge (although I don't know who you'd report it to?)

I really wouldn't bother taking it further with my neighbour though, not worth it imo.
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WifeyLind · 20 February, 2009 at 19:01
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I'd definitely report them.

It forms part of the highway code:

216 - You MUST NOT park in parking spaces reserved for specific users, such as Blue Badge holders or residents, unless entitled to do so.

Law CSDPA sect 21 & RTRA sects 5 & 8
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Mrs Chef · 20 February, 2009 at 19:34
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Agree about my mum, she was just trying to prove a point tho but i know she shouldnt have parked there!

i didnt think i was being unreasonable.. i have no objection what so ever in there being a disabled bay for her use and i'd never park in it ,what i do object to is the fact that she does treat it like a private parking bay for her friends and family :-( which to her seems perfectly fine.. and i'm pretty sure that if her friends parked there and displayed her badge that it would still be wrong as it's being used for the wrong purpose!

i'm not trying to start an arguement with her but when she approaches me to complain that my wheels are touching the edge of her bay i find it a bit of a cheek!

(funnily enough it looks like the smart car is suddenly displaying a badge! ? )
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hazel · 20 February, 2009 at 19:35
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You've kind of lost some of the moral high ground by your mum parking there but if you think it's being abused aside from that then there are ways to report it. Just be careful you don't end up in the kind of dispute you end up having to report when you move house.
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Mrs Chef · 20 February, 2009 at 19:47
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I know and i did tell my mum off but i also didnt tell her to park there!
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Janna · 20 February, 2009 at 19:53
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Not unreasonable, no but maybe a bit unneccessary? She's disabled and has a disabled bay outside her house - if she had a car she'd use it, as she doesn't she lets others. It's not right but I wouldn't lose a wink of sleep over it.

Ask yourself what creating a dispute over it is going to solve? What is your end goal? To get the bay removed so you can use it? It's unlikely to happen, imo, so I';d not bother with the aggro.

Don't sweat the small stuff ?
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legless · 20 February, 2009 at 20:53
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<shrug> life's too short...
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