I will (hopefully) be having 3 BMs, one of which lives 5 minutes away, another a couple of hours away and another er...a few thousand miles away in Dallas.
Since we got engaged in february, I haven't as much as sniffed a wedding dress because I wanted to go with my BMs and share the experience with them. They haven't really been that interested or involved and I really thought this would make them feel part of the whole thing and they would get a bit more excited.
BM from Dallas booked her flights to come and see me for a week, next week, straight away (all the way back in Feb) and BM who lives 5 mins away has organised a full 5 days worth of wedding dress shopping/pampering/eating/drinking sessions to keep us busy when we're all together.
BM who lives a couple of hours away has emailed me to ask if would I mind if she spends one of those days with one of her other mates, who lives just round the corner from us. I want to say no, that it's not ok, that we have had this planned for months because I wanted her and the other two involved, and she's bailing out. She's also asked if I would mind if she goes back home a day ealier because she has a really important meeting. Of course I won't say that it's not OK. But I'm actually quite upset.
Before anyone flames me for everything being about me and wanting the world to evolve around me or my wedding, that's really not the case. I don't resent her from wanting to see her friend, or from having work commitments...but she could have visited her friend before or after, on any given weekend. It's only a 2 hour drive away and meetings can always be rescheduled.
My other poor BM spent hours on the phone organising lots of stuff for day and evening for the 4 of us...We've had this planned for 7 months. We've talked about it for 7 months and the reason why I waited was because I wanted them all involved...not one of them, not two of them...but all of them. And if my BM who lives in Dallas, has managed to organise her trip, why is it so diffcult for someone who is a couple of weeks away? [:'(]