AIBU? wedding related

I think if it's your H who wants them to stay over then you should pay for it tbh

i think if your H wants them to stay he should pay tbh, prob not what you want to hear though

It is a bit cheeky but perhaps they don't see why they should spend thier money staying at your venue if they can stay somewhere cheaper, and use the money for holiday.

If you want them at the venue I think you ahve to pay tbh.

Can they not stay at the Travel Inn and just join you for brekkie the morning after - This is what all H2B's family are doing for our wedding....

Yes, you're being unreasonable. Your OH wanted them to stay so he should offer to pay. What they do outside of your wedding arrangements is none of your business.

If they've said they can't afford it, then they can't afford it. It's not up to you to judge how they spend their money.

Perhaps they've budgeted for these holidays for a while, maybe they've been saving up?

I doubt they'd not stay at their Son's wedding for anything other than a genuine reason.

yes, i think you are being a little unreasonable. you don't know how long the holidays have been booked for, or if they were very cheap or very reasonable, or how they have budgeted for them. alternatively, they might have just thought that staying in the hotel for the wedding was an unnecesary expense and would have rather spend the money on their own holidays rather than for one night's accommodation.

if you (and/or your OH) want them at the hotel overnight because you (and/or your OH) want to see them in the morning, and you offered to pay for the room with no exceptions or caveats, then you'll have to bear the cost.

Hmmm it's really up to them what they do with their money. If they were happy to stay locally in a cheaper hotel but your H2b wanted them in your specific hotel which was dearer and fofered to pay I don't see the problem.

Personally I wouldn't have been fussed where ours stayed as long as we didn't have to pay for it as we were so overbudget with everything else ?

thats true hepburn - but i wish they had just said they would stay at the travel inn. He has a big family and the rest of them are staying at our hotel, it was only them that wasnt going to, thats why we offered to pay.

MG - i dont expect you to agree with me, i wanted an opinion?

WHS. You have no way of knowing how carefully their holidays this year were budgetted/saved for.

I think you are being unreasonable sorry, how they spend and budget their money is their own business.

If your H wants them to stay then I think its only fair for him to pay.

But they did ?.

It was your H who then suggested paying for them to stay with you. They were being polite by accepting.

I think it's him you should have the issue with if anything. ?

right thats it, i am being unreasonable?

ignore me, there are other 'issues' that are in the background that are adding to this, so maybe i am a bit blinkered

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Plus, your wedding is going to cost them anyway...present, outfits, travel, drinks etc

so maybe they thought the hotel was an expense too far?

KTC - i know, as i said there are other things in the background that annoy me and this has all got my back up.

his mum is also buying 2 outfits so she can get changed at night, i would prefer her to put that towards the hotel?

oh god!?

anyway i am off home in a flounce now as none of you gits agreed with me?

Unless you are actually expecting his parents to stay in your room with you, what's the real difference with them staying elsewhere but coming back to join you both for breakfast? I really can't see the problem here?

You're not losing any time with them, and they're saving a bit of money. Surely everyone's a winner?!

Have a good evening zilla ?

I must have missed the first?

Do tell... ?

this is coming from hepburn ?

she of the 'my H2B has seen a cartoony cardboard cut out that looks remotely like my dress. my weddding is rooooooo-ined' thread ???

I missed this too?!

? i didnt like to say!

anyway, i am off home, my other bridezilla moment was a full on proper one so feel free to search for my posts?

thanks for all your replies <said through gritted teeth>?

'twas today. still on page 1 of WP i think...?

Oh dear lord. That has to be a wind up? ??

Have you seen the picture she's on about?

That's quite a 'zilla moment, to be fair, Hepburn ?

Took the words out of my mouth ?

Okay I fully admit it was bridezilla, but then I have had plenty of those moments! It does upset me that he knows what my dress is like even though it's ott!

Bridezilla moments are rare for claires so it made me giggle ?

With all due respect, all cream strapless wedding dresses look the same. To blokes. When made of cardboard.

I really wouldn't worry ?

I know I know. You are of course right.

I think that was about my 15th bridezilla moment so feel free to <slap> me.

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It's not your place to decide what gets spent out of someone elses pocket.

If your MIL decides to go to Chanel & get a dress made - so what.

You have chosen to stay at a place that your IL's feel does not warrant (for whatever reason) the money, regardless it's their Son's wedding.

Use the night at the hotel as a Thank You gift to your Husbands Parents.

I am going to agree with you. This would get my goat as well ! I presume its not about £350 a night but they should have thought in advance seen as I am sure you've not been planning your wedding since last week and you' thinking of their enjoyment in booking them in to be with everyone else. I'll get a b*llocking of everyone now too. ?

We ended up helping my MIL pay for a more expensive hotel than ours (with her cousin) just so she didn't end up staying in the same one as us!! ?