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Welshthistle

Aisle anxiety

Welshthistle, 9 August, 2010 at 12:25 Posted on Planning 0 11

So, throughout the planning, the bit I've been most calm/blase/naive about is the actual ceremony itself. It's the most important bit, but I always thought I'd be calm, happy, relaxed, serene, saying my vows with just the right amount of emotion in my voice, looking lovingly at OH...you know, perfect?!

However, (bit of background) over the weekend I went to see my friend in Les Mis. Now, I don't know if it was the long day, the pride, the intensity of the show, the bl00dy heat in the theatre or what, but I was on the verge of tears through the whole thing, cumulating in a mini freak out (just in my head, thankfully) during SPOILER! Marius and Cosette's wedding. Mini freak out being:

How the hell am I going to walk down that aisle, alone, in front of 150 people, without dissolving into tears and subsequently sobbing and gulping my way through the vows? If I cry at a musical, what chance do I have at keeping it together at my own wedding?!

I'm normally quite reserved with public displays of emotion, but am now pretty worried that I'll be either frozen with nerves and won't be able to walk down, or I'll just be a snotty, snivelling mess during the whole day!

Any advice, especially from OMs would be great!

PS I missed the whole forum-wars thread since I was away. Pretty hilarious though, and I'm glad I'm on hitched with the sensible, reasonable, honest (and often hilarious) posters!

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Latest activity by Welshthistle, 9 August, 2010 at 17:02
  • mrsjbw2b
    Beginner August 2010
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    Just look at your husband to be, nothing else will matter , if it helps i fell up the stairs just b4 walking up the isle , made me giggle , that helped lol

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  • LollyB
    Beginner September 2010
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    I'm a hard faced cow and I even I cried when I saw Les Mis!!! (.....both times..... but sshhh!!!!).

    Chill out and on the day go with the flow, I'm sure you will be just fine! AS mentione din the other post, just focus on you H2B and enjoy every moment xx

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  • MrsBear2b
    Beginner August 2011
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    I've been worrying about this too, I'm weepy as they come and get nervous easily. I'm worried that i'll turn beet red with everyone looking while I walk up the aisle. Also have the most annoying habit of pulling a face at my OH when I see him across a room when I'm nervous. Sounds silly, but I don't think me sticking my tongue out at him or having a silly cheesy stupid grin will go down well with everyone looking!

    we might be worrying too much though...

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    I went to a wedding and the rehearsal the day before. The bride couldn't stop crying at the rehearsal, but she was fine the next day. I'm sure you will be fine x

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  • sarahjolley
    Beginner September 2012
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    I to am soo nervous about that, I never cry in public but cry at everything, like adverts on tele etc

    I'm hoping that i will be fine on the day but if I cry then I cry, not the end of the world, just need someone to touch up my make up lol

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  • GEMINIBEBE
    Beginner August 2010
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    OMG I hadnt thought about crying? All Ive been thinking of is I will probably feel faint/sick/gut ache, I probably watch too much 'You've Been Framed' ha ha!!

    I dont know how I'll be, depends on peoples reactions mixed with music. I know H2B will be emotional, cos he always is!

    I cry at everyones weddings on TV so dont think theres much hope for me!!

    XX

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  • bluewater
    Beginner August 2009
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    Two words - rescue.remedy.

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  • GEMINIBEBE
    Beginner August 2010
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    Oh yes, its in the bag already!! ?

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  • BumbleBrat
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    I'm so worried too! I hate attention, bit tough on our wedding day though with all eyes on the bride!! Smiley sad

    I'm Soooooo emotional too. I was listening to songs the other day for our playlist and I started blubbing at the one I want to dance with my Daddy to, I'm gonna be a snivelling wreck!

    I started to try writing my vows too but I was way too teary!

    Thing is, when I cry, the whites of my eyes go bright red really quickly and for ages - My photos will look awful!!

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  • GEMINIBEBE
    Beginner August 2010
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    I hate attention too!!!! Im dreading everyone staring at me and having my photo taken ALL DAY by EVERYONE!!!

    Dont worry about your red eyes in your pics, ask your tog to photoshop them for you!!

    XX

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  • Polkadots_and_Pincurls
    Beginner June 2015
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    AISLE say! Bazinga! ?

    ...Ahem. Sorry, that wasn't very helpful. Or funny. ?

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  • Welshthistle
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    Ha! I may just do wedding puns all day to distract me! Either that or tie my ankle to the BM that's going down the aisle just before me so she can yank me out of my nervous frozen state.

    Thanks for the advice all - glad it's not just me, and I think I'll have to look into this Rescue Remedy - why have I never heard of it outside of this forum?!

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