Sigh
Some of you may have seen my post about 3 months ago in OT about my H2B being made redundant on totally ridiculous and discriminatory grounds. Well, he's been out of work now for all this time and without a single interview, with the wedding now 4 months away, changes have to be made. We have decided to down-size our wedding from 50 to 26 (or will it be 30) guests. We've worked out this will save us over £1500. Sadly, a lot of the people who we wil no longer be inviting are H2B extended family (mostly extended aunts and uncles, he has so many, and it's not like he ever gets a birthday card from them). We are sad about this, but it has to be done, we don't want to start married life in debt and wecurrently have a budget shortfall. I feel quite positive in one respect about this (although I feel sad about some of my friends not being there, but i did always want a small wedding) it will be more intimate and personal, but H2B is getting some flak from his mother and siblings about it. Maybe I'm being selfish, I think that ultimately it is our day, it's not about his family or his mum although I recognise she will have had ideas in her head, but he's not her, he's him. Now we have to face the prospect of letting those people know who won't be invited any more. This makes me feel like the world's most selfish and unpleasant person (would have helped if we hadn't sent out save the dates last christmas, but we knew with a december wedding, people get booked up).
I don't really expect replies to this, I'm just venting I suppose. It's certainly giving me restless nights.