Am I becoming a Bridezilla ...??

You're not the most brideszilla poster I've come across today so yay for that.

That is natural, and with 2 years to go you can bet your bottom dollar you will find another dress you like better over the next 18 months and change your mind a gazillion times.

I got engaged 3 years ago this week and had a 2 year wait for my wedding and I too was very impatient for it to hurry up and get here, but needs must!

I think you are being a bit bridezilla tbh.

You could all wear exactly the same dress and it wouldn't matter, it's not about the dress, it's about the people getting married. Plus once you add different guests, different venues, different styles...

Agree with TT. It is hard to not try and compare with other people- something that a lot of people do with most things in life I think- but as you get in to planning your wedding hopefully you will find that you are more focused on your day and not what it might be like compared to anyone elses!

Yes you are.

question answered.

I think you're very much over thinking things, particularly if your wedding isn't for 2 years. You can't help what other people choose to do, so try not to focus on that. After I got engaged, I enjoyed going to other weddings to get some ideas and to see what worked. I've changed my mind several times as to what I do/don't want. Try not to get too bogged down in worrying what other people are doing on their day. When it's your turn everyone will be focused on you and your day, not remembering small details from someone else's wedding months previously.

I'd say 50/50, or otherwise completely normal :-)

It's normal not to want to see anything in your wedding copied by a friend. But if it happens, you have to make 1 of 2 decisions, go with it or change things. I tried on easily about 14 dresses, did I buy one of them? Nope! I tried on a beautiful lacy number but I wasn't parting with £1475 for a dress I'd wear once, twice if we renew our vows. I did what nobody would advise you do and I brought my dress from Ebay for £225 instead. I had to wait 8 weeks before I could try it on and I was going out of my mind by that time, but it was just like the dream dress I drew when we got engaged and it looks absolutely fabulous! Keep the dress in mind that you tried on, but please, please try on others like it. You could save hundreds and find something even nicer!

My other bit of advice..shh about your wedding! Don't tell anyone anything about your wedding who is not part of the wedding party. I say this because a friend of a bridesmaid asked me about my wedding, and she's now on about getting married in the same venue! I have no problem with that, but when she was asking me for prices and to see our paperwork so she could see what she had to do, hmm...really?! Keep it as your wedding, share all the bits and recommendations AFTER the big day, not before! It prevents you looking like the copycat and you run less chance of seeing your wedding at their wedding :-)

Good luck!

MrsStobe13 xx

Deffo Bridezilla.

Don't concern yourself with what others may or may not do/have/wear. It has no impact on your wedding. As it's not for another 2 years, you'll drive yourself (aswell as your OH) mad.

OK so at the risk of being controversial, dresses in my mind fall into 4 basic food groups - lacy and slinky, lacy and big, silky and slinky, silky and big, with differentiation around straplessness and diamantes. I will be one of 8 brides in my group this year. There is a chance that others will choose a lacey/slinky/strapless dress like mine, but the chances of it being IDENTICAL are close to zero, and anyway with different accessories, hair, make up, styling, body shape and size, NO ONE will compare. There is only so much variation in a wedding dress, unless you decide to go short or coloured which is def becoming more popular.

Let it go. That way maaaaadness lies. No one will choose the same dress as you. If you are really worried, buy a dress in another town? Also I would wait a bit and look at the new dresses coming in - I bought mine 12 months ahead and have seen at least 3 I love as much (not prepared to admit love more).

Focus on your day and create your dream and let them create theirs. 20 years from now you will still be dreaming over your wedding, you'll have forgotten theirs, so make sure you love yours and focus on that. :-)

xxx

The cheek!

I agree hcww. I think there are a few 'types' of dress with variations on a theme. I always amazed when brides can identify a dress designer at 20 paces- I wouldn't have a clue!

I wouldn't worry about it too much but look at what is different about your wedding. For example we have four weddings to go to this year so far before ours next summer so I know there will be some similarities.

However I have tried to keep it different. Most of them are going to be really formal affairs like spending 20k and be in posh hotels etc. Ours is at a barn complex run by a charity and I plan to spend less than 5k and be a lot less formal. We are planning loads of lawn games and a pinata, trivial pursuit cards on the table.....

Nah you're not being a bridezilla - it sounds like it's just a bit of anxiety because you're hugely excited/consumed by the prospect of your wedding BUT it's still a long time away and as such you have the luxury of time which often leads to over-thinking things. If you were getting married in six months, you wouldn't be thinking like this, but as it is, you can only do so much at this stage and then you are left to 'stew' unfortunately! I had moments like this - but don't worry, it won't matter one jot nearer the time. Having said that, don't book anything too soon, as you may as well leave it as long as possible before you commit to any choices; this will help you to get back to sleep when you inevitably wake up at 3am convinced ALL of your mates have bought the same wedding dress as you!

Very much so.. my brirdesmaid is on about making me MOH if/when she gets married because I'm so organised. Kind of take it as a compliment but I couldn't do this all over again!

MrsStobe13 xx

Tinie tiny bit. :/ don't worry at least u know your doing it and can correct it now.

I wouldn't say you have a bad case of Bridezilla the fact that you realise you might be getting carried away shows that. I think it's really easy to get wrapped up in wedding planning and develop some Bridezilla tendencies!

I can guarantee that if you go to or look at pictures of other weddings there will be things similar to yours but nothing will ever be the same as your wedding with you, your OH, your guests etc. Even exactly the same dress looks different on different people, add in accessories and you've got a big difference. As a lot of others have said you should try other dresses; you may still end up with that first one, like I have, but you'll be sure that you've made the right choice.

I do disagree with one thing that's been said; being really secretive about your day and not tell friends and family about your venue, dress, flowers or whatever will just make you come over as more self-centred and Bridezilla-ish. I'm not saying post every detail on facebook but when a friend asks you about the venue or if you've found a good florist there's no harm in sharing.

I think when you get any thoughts of 'stealing my thunder', 'having my dress' and the like then just tell yourself that your day will be special because it will have you in! This should help keep you off the Bridezilla path!!

Just do what you want and plan the things you love and don't worry about anyone else.

I have seen a hell of a lot of weddings around these parts and I can honestly say I don't think I have ever read a report or looked at a flash and thought to myself 'that's the same as xyz had' your guests wont either.

I had several weddings close to mine, but no worries about dress copying, largely because my shop told me they hadn't sold another one in the UK (they were the sole supplier at that time).

If you're thinking your mates might pick the same dress as you (unlikely), perhaps it means you both have excellent taste. Or are you worried you might not be expressing your individuality fully?

But I'm sure that there were other similar bits. I couldn't have cared less if anyone thought I'd copied them (mutual friends or the couples themselves). There's only so many colour combos, or hair dos, or whatever.

From another point of view, I was very jealous when a family member got married but only one I upset really was me and I came across as a brat to everyone else. Also now my wedding is getting closer if someone I knew was funny with me about my wedding then I would resent them. I know it is hard but for whatever reasons you're not getting married yet, there could be people who suddenly announce they'll marry in a short space of time and there's nothing you can do. Most guests don't notice as much as you think. Try and relax and enjoy the lovely times ahead.

I really wouldnt worry about other peoples weddings compared to yours, 2 years of that will do your head in!

As other people have said, its unlikely you'll have many elements that are similar to others' weddings as there are so many choices.

Just chill, enjoy and do what you want