Am i beibg silly

I don't think your being silly if you're upset that friends can't make it to your wedding. Of course you want all of your loved ones there. But... there really isn't anything you can do about it so getting REALLY upset would be silly. People have their own lives to live and I'm sure they will try their best to be with you but if a guy is travelling/booked a holiday to Thailand when your wedding is on it'd be a bit much to expect him to attend.

I haven't yet sent out my invites but have already had a bunch of people telling they wouldn't be able to make it - 4 people will be on holiday and some of my best friends live in Oz/NZ and it's too expensive to get back for the wedding. I'm disappointed but I know we'll still have an amazing day with all of our other family and friends! Chin up! ?

There will always be no shows - we have only set out the save the dates and are already 6 down with an expected 15 more its just something part in parcel yes its a shame but you will still have fun!

We had 50/50 acceptances and declines, leaving us with 61 guests. I'm actually quite glad we didn't get all acceptances as I think it would have been too big, although I would have liked to be able to swap some of the guests who are coming for ones who can't make it. ? I have no doubt we'll still have a marvellous day.

We had more no's than expected, the biggest shock being h2b's grandmother - that's another story for another day... It's one of those things and, even though you'd like them there, you will still have the best day ever and can share your photos etc with them afterwards! At least they'd be letting you know in good time anyway...

H2b said to me from the beginning 'if they want to be there & can be there then they will be there'... I understand your friend might find it hard but if she really wanted to come I'm sure she would find a way, we've got people travelling from all over to us. Perhaps you should talk to her asking what is making it so difficult to travel back, and if it's important to you that she is there see if you can make it easier for her maybe??Don't be disheartened though, I'm sure the majority of RSVP's will be acceptances!!x

Im actually hoping for some declines. h2b's family is bigger than mine, ive ended up with 24 to his 50. there are lots of people on his he feels he needs to invite, but this has meant many of my friends (and mutual) are on the evening list, when really id prefer them as day guests. being married to him is more important to my than the day itself, so i havent kicked up a fuss. we differ in our views really. i personally wouldnt invite (family or not) people i havent spoken to in 5 years or more, but he feels differently. so im counting on some no thank you's.

i know this is different to having people you really want there declining. you arent being silly, but some things are unavoidable. just remember the reason for this day, you get to be a mrs! xx

I don't think you are being silly, but I do think you need to keep it in perspective. These aren't "no-shows" in my opinion - no-show means that they tell you they will be there, and then either don't turn up, or cancel at the last minute with an "excuse" rather than a reason.

The two that you mention, aren't even definitely not coming - it may just be that they can't, or that they have to try and work out some practicalities before being able to make a decision. That also doesn't mean that they wouldn't want to be there if things were different.....which is as important as being there, really. Its traditional at a wedding to make a toast to "absent friends" so these would simply be in that toast - you will be thinking of them, and they will be thinking of you. You could skype them earlier in the day, or later in the evening to really include them if you wanted. We've only got about 60 on our day guest list too, and 7 of those live abroad - 2 in Kenya and 5 in Norway....plus I have one couple expecting a baby the week before the wedding. I would be overjoyed if all those made it, but completely understand if they can't....and between them, that makes up a whole table at the wedding breakfast, so it makes a big difference.

The main thing is, don't fret - some will come to the wedding, some won't....you will still have a fab time, whether you have 5 tables or 6! (or whatever!)