Am I being a Bridezilla?!!

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well out of order! Is she wearing a little veil as well?

Agree with everyone else - she's the knob (great turn of phrase used earlier!). That said, it's not like she will be on the top table or included in any of the main photos because she's not part of the bridal party (seriously, I you were thinking of including her in this way then UNinclude her!) and she'll just look like a bride wannabe on a guest table, and rather pathetic to boot! Vindictive, moi?

As an aside, bless her, my mum didn't know anything about the not wearing cream/white to the wedding so she was gaily declaring an interest in a cream dress... until I put her right! Ha ha We since came to the agreement that SOME cream was ok, and I meant cream not ivory, but it shouldn't be the predominant colour. Indeed I took the matter into my own hands and bought the outfit for her... honestly, that wasn't as Bridezilla-y as it sounds, I Gok Wan'd her as she was being chicken about what would have suited her and would have ended up with a navy sackcloth to hide the lumps and bumps

I came up with this as her MOB outfit and she looks absolutely fabulous in it:

Just wanted to add myself as a member of the "that's SO not on" crew!

My MIL2B picked out a plain white dress for our wedding... it wasn't full-length, but even she said to me "yeah, it does look a bit like what an older bride getting married for the second time might wear"... WELL WHY WEAR IT THEN?!?! Plus my dress is quite a dark ivory and this dress was paler than mine AND she wasn't intending to add any colour to it. I was livid, but luckily she found a new one on her own.

I agree with the others who said to act like you thought she was joking. And definitely get her husband to have a word about how it's not on.

When I had my MIL2B problem some people showed me photos of women wearing long white dresses to other people's weddings... they look ridiculous. H2B didn't really get what my problem was, although he was totally on my side about the matter, but once he saw the photos he said "yeah, that DOES look dreadful!"

I've worn a white dress to a wedding, but it wasn't bridal in the slightest - it was a tea-length cotton dress, with a big sunflower print around the bottom (sounds odd, but it works) from M&S, and I said to the bride (my cousin) that I had seen a dress, sent her a pic of it and said if you don't want me to wear it, that's fine...just say and I'll keep shopping. She phoned me right away to say "don't you dare not wear it" and as it was obviously not bridal and and I had her "blessing" I went with it, but if it was remotely bridal I wouldn't have even considered it!