Am I being a bridezilla?

Not at all, in my opinion.

I've made it quite clear that I will be having no guests staying with us in the run up to the wedding. I end up having to clean up after everyone, do extra laundry, cook dinners, and generally just spend time entertaining. Time is something I will not have that week. It will be me and H2B until the day before the wedding, when me and my MOH will upsticks and go to a hotel, and then H2B can have whoever he likes over that night.

I don't think so, I would be annoyed if Mr C invited anyone to stay without talking to me first, irrelevant of the timing or who they were!

It depends!

Do either of you normally invite people to stay without consulting the other? We often have family to stay last minute or without officially asking the other if it's ok but if we're unsure of the impact on the other person we'd make a point of asking.

In your position I wouldn't be too happy about it, particularly as I now know how many last minute things crop up, but I wouldn't go turbo at him. I'd just let him know the timing was bad for X, Y, Z reasons and ask him to come up with a workable solution.

Good luck!

Goodness no. You sound busy enough anyway, never mind in the run up to your wedding, NEVERMIND having house guests! Crikey i couldnt deal with it. Chuck your toys out the pram, your entitled to!

He should have discussed it will you first. I take it they are coming over for the wedding? Perhaps he just assumed the arrangement was that they stayed with you.

I wuldn't be happy either. It's going to be a busy week with sorting out your animals nevermind the wedding. I think they should stay with another relative or B&B nearby.

Not Bridezilla at all

Not being Bridezilla at all - I'd expect Mr kooks to run any house guests past me first and especially just before the wedding

They might be really helpful to have around though Panda and actually make it easier not harder for you. They can't be anything as bad as FIL that would be horrific!

I think that's crazy, does he not realise how much you have to do on a day to day basis, without him inviting awkward guests to stay?

I think you need to have a word!

You sound like you are under quite a lot of pressure as it is so can see why you feel like this. I guess as his brotehr is coming from Australia it will be too much to ask them to stay in a hotel but he should have spoke to you about it first. I will no doubt be having OH family from Australia stay with us on the run up to the wedding, I don't have all the animal responsibilities that you have but I do have an ASD child (need eyes in the back of my head) and will have last minute wedding preparations so will make it clear that it is an open kitchen and I won't be playing hotess with the mostess that week!

You are not being a bridezilla at all.

My future mother in law asked if her and her husband were staying with us the weekend of the wedding (including our wedding night) - to which I politely said no. !!

She assumed they were staying with us as they have a dog which she won't leave on its own or put into kennels. Quick check on google and hey presto a local B & B and local hotel that will accept the dog, sorted !!

Could you not do the same thing ? Perhaps somewhere close by so you can all meet up for an evening meal the night before the wedding ?

The day is going to be stressful enough without having guests to stay.

Hope you get it sorted.

xx

I don't think it is unreasonable to not want guests staying with you so close to the wedding. I wouldn't be happy either.

Totally not a bridezilla. My OH would get a serious dressing down if he did that to me.

Thanks ladies! It's reassuring to know that I'm not being unreasonable in not wanting strange guests foisted on me without any discussion. OH simply can't see why I have a issue with it which I find amazing after all the problems his father caused less than 2 weeks ago. MEN!!!!

My OH's best man is coming over from Australia (I have met him, but just the once for a few hours) the week before the wedding - he's going to stay with us for a few nights as he wants to take my OH out for a mini stag (I've vetoed having the proper stag that close to the wedding!) but then he's going to go and stay with his dad in the immediate run up until the night before when himself and OH will get a hotel. Could your OH's brother and nephew stay with some some family for at least a few days that week to give you some breathing space? Maybe your OH could speak to other family members about easing the pressure? Sorry if that's not majorly helpful!

Jen if OH had any other family reasonably close to us I'm sure that wouldn't be a problem, however OH & his brother grew up on the island of Jersey which is where his family is & we are getting married in Gloucestershire!

Not at all ! I think you sound like you are too capable and the people around you take that for granted !

Oldgal, you'd be welcome to come to visit in the week before my wedding if you say nice things like that!

Hi, I've not read your other post it sounds like a nightmare. It is always hard with houseguests, but just wanted to share another perspective. I travelled to Australia for my brothers wedding, having only met his partner briefly previously. I was travelling on my own, on a budget, and purely to attend his wedding ( didn't even have enough leave from work to extend into much of a holiday for myself). Without his hospitality I could not have afforded to attend his wedding, however, it was sill a fairly difficult trip having been made to feel pretty unwelcome despite many offers of treating them to dinner, offers of anything I could do to help with errands etc. I don't know how helpful or not your partners brother is, but suggest on arrival you are clear that you are delighted to have them stay and so pleased there will be extra hands on deck to help with the many demands you have on your time. You clearly have a lot on your plate, but with or without guests you have a lot of responsibilities and you must have already made provision for all the pets and other support you provide knowing you wouldn't be able to give your usual levels of time? Don't blame the guests for for taking more of your time, make it clear what the 'free accomdation' includes!

Deffinatly not being bridezilla there my OH wouldnt dare do that as he knows i will make him sleep on the sofa for a week.. youve already got worries of our own that week let alone worrying over others!! xx

Not Bridezilla-ish at all! We are supposed to be staying with at my parents house on the wednesday and thursday before the wedding - I have decided due to the sheer number of people staying H2b and I are going to spend thursday night in a hotel - so we can chat not have to share a bathroom with 8 other people! It sounds like you have land - Can I suggest that you get one of those huge tents from someone and so blow up beds and tell them so they can escape the madness and have some privacy they have a tent and a key to the house for toilet and kitchen facilities???? Also if you get them insured on a car you could get them to do errands for you picking up stuff, getting the shopping in? taking the dogs for a walk..

You probably can't univite them but USE them to your advantage!

Oh my word, is your OH testing your boundaries or what?!!! If I were you, I would put on my acting hat and say "oh yes of course no problem...now, they will need a fair bit of space because i'll be doing lots of running around and all the wedding stuff will be out and cluttering the house that weekend etc. so i'll book us into a hotel whilst they stay in the house but i'll make them a nice welcome hamper with some breakfast and snacks in" !!!