Ok, this is a bit of a long one, and background necessary, so I'll start..
My mum is Hindu and her family live in USA - vast majority that is, apart from one sister and her two sons - my cousins - so we've always been very close - almost like brothers/sisters as there were so few from that side in UK. Cousin A is about 32 and has a girlfriend B who is 29 tomorrow - they have been dating for about 2/3 years, but obviously as they are older, things moved quicker for them than me & OH. We have been dating for 7.5 years (since we were at school and are now 25 and getting married next June). My sister got married last year (and had hindu wedding in USA & english wedding here) and basically OH said that we could not get engaged until after her wedding as it would 'steal their thunder' so although we had been together about 5 years at the time, we waited and got engaged at Christmas.. now planning our wedding and set the date, as everyone in the family knows...
So now cousin A has proposed and I have just heard they are planning a Hindu wedding in the USA (as B's family also live over there primarily) and then registry office (legal part) and party over here - but she wants to get married before her 30th (next May) and so apparantly wedding is being planned for April/May next year! Ok, so I have the initial immature jealously, of 'hey I already had to wait for my sister's wedding to be over with, now it's my turn, and I want to get married first' which I understand is stupid, and they can get married before me, even though I got engaged first....I know it, but doesnt stop me feeling slightly moody about it!
But now I'm more worried about it being so close to our wedding! At my sister's wedding, all my mum's brothers and sisters and her dad came to UK for the UK wedding, and they were planning on coming to mine (I am only having UK wedding, not hindu) but now surely this will cause problems for them to come to one in April/May and then June? How are they going to afford that..or choose which wedding to not attend - I am hoping it will be A & B's as obv I'm only having one wedding, and they can all go to USA one for A & B. But it also obviously means OH and I won't see the 'real' wedding - being the Hindu one (as this will be what A & B and their families view as the real big wedding) because how can we afford to fly to USA a month/two before our wedding, let alone manage to have that time off work, with honeymoon planned for June!
Argh I know there's nothing really I can do, or have the right to do, but just really needed to vent! It felt like my wedding 'plans' (although obv wasnt engaged then!) had to wait for my sister's wedding as they got engaged and we had to hold off and now it feels like it's happening again... sorry if this is total bridezilla, as I'm guessing people will say! Would you be annoyed too??