Ok, so I know this post may make me sound like a complete brat but please don't judge til you've read the whole thing.
H2B and I provisionally booked our venue last Sunday and need to confirm and pay our deposit this coming Sunday. Now, my parents had already agreed to give us a third of our budget, assuming that H2B's parents would also give a third (which they'd suggested they would), and we'd pay the remaining third. I am so unbelievably grateful for this as without it, we probably couldn't afford the wedding of our dreams until 2012! H2B's parents, however, had not confirmed an exact figure, other than to say that they would help out.
So, the six of us were at my parents' house on Saturday so I briefed them beforehand that we would like to discuss our budget and their contributions as we didn't want to pay our deposit until we were 100% sure that we could afford it. It was really difficult for me as I obviously didn't want to come out and say 'If you don't pay x amount of money then we can't have the wedding of our dreams' but that's what it boiled down to. No matter how many different ways we phrased it, all my MIL2B would say was 'Maybe we could help you with the flowers and a cake'. Now, don't get me wrong, this is very generous of them, but my parents are contributing 14 times the value!
Anyway, I eventually ended up just saying 'Look, this is really embarassing and we hate to ask you this but we need x amount of money for the wedding. We need to pay our deposit by Sunday so if you wouldn't mind, please go away and have a think about it and let us know before then if we can afford it or not' as she wasn't committing to anything, nothing was getting through to her.
Am I being completely unreasonable by expecting her to contribute the same as my parents as she suggested?
*Edited to make more sense ( I hope)! ?