Am I being selfish

No your not being selfish, every wedding plan should be between you and your OH first and then everyone else after...especially shopping for rings! there is no point in her being there because surely she isn't going to comment or give her opinion?? at the end of the day it's your rings and im pretty sure she isn't going to tell you which ring you want to wear for the rest of your life

i'm suprised she wants to come with you...i'd be bored as it's very intimate and between the couple and not a 3 person job!! x

You're not being selfish but maybe she wants to be involved with the planning? How about inviting her along shopping for something else? Or asking her opinion on something?

I don't think you are being selfish at all it is such a lovely thing and something for the 2 of you to do together. The only thing i would say is would she maybe wanting to come along as she is going to offer to pay for or give you some money for the rings? If you are sure this is not the case then stick to your guns and do it another day. Hope you get to sort this out hun. MIL's i just don't get it. I would hate to one day be a hated ML. Why do they do it?!

If the ring shopping is personal to you then it's personal to you. Everyone is different and that is how you feel. It isn't selfish to feel that way. I don't know what to suggest to make your OH see how much this means to you but I do think you are in your every right to care about this.

I think it was a bit forward of her to invite herself.

You are not being selfish, ... and thats all I have to say I'm afraid x

WSS!

I don't think it's selfish. I think choosing the rings is special and should be just the two of you! Could you invite her to something else or find her a little job to do to make her feel involved?

Thanks guys. I just feel so upset about the whole thing as I was really looking forward to it but now I can't. I'm a bit miffed she invited herself when she knew it was ring shopping. I get on with her but I'm just so upset it has spoilt it for me. so sad.

Thanks guys. I just feel so upset about the whole thing as I was really looking forward to it but now I can't. I'm a bit miffed she invited herself when she knew it was ring shopping. I get on with her but I'm just so upset it has spoilt it for me. so sad.

Ur not beong selfish at all.

I'd be the exact same in ur situation.

x

You're not being selfish at all. I'd be miffed if the MIL2B came shopping wih us for rings....I'd be even more miffed if she invited herself! Choosing wedding rings is a personal thing, so it should be between the couple and no one else... Maybe she is planning on giving you money towards them or even buy them - as BridalButterfly2012 suggested..But, that doesn't mean she needs to be there when you actually go shopping for them x

Thanks guys I'm glad it's not just me. And to be honest I wouldn't want her to pay for them anyway. It's just a private thing. But argh I'm just so upset. Do you thing men don't understand sort of thing???

I agree lauriel the only reason i said that was as this happened with my MIL with the cake. I had been looking at some i liked and she said she seen one and wanted to put a dposit down on it as a present and supprise but my OH didn't understand that i was greatful she had offered to pay for it but i may not like it or it may not fit our colour theme etc. So in order for her to pay for it she took us cake shopping and basically put us off every other one till we got to the shop she wanted then agreed she liked one excatly the same as one i had seen in an earlier shop that day.

I also felt bad as i think my mum wanted to get our cake and was going to take us after xmas but it all happened so quick and i never realised till i told her we had one.

You arent selfish at all. I am always amazed at the hide of some people that invite themselves along to personal things. Even IF your MIL was going to contribute to the ring, why should she come along to pick it??? Its nothing to do with what SHE likes.

My MIL invited herself on a holiday with OH & myself. She was even happy to stay in our room! There are some rude, ignorant people around but stick to your guns & get the ring with your OH only.

Teal, i feel sorry for you i couldnt have my MIL on hol like that! my friends ended up taking the grooms mother on their honeymoon, What is that all about?!!

No i wouldnt have the MIL shopping for rings, but suggest she go with you to shop for shoes or something more simple that you dont mind her opinion on and ignore her opinion anyway! Ask your OH why does she have to go? esp when she invited herself, whats so important that her decision might be more influential than yours?! Turn it round and see what he says, just be ready for any wierd answer that comes along! lol!

My mum and dad are buying our wedding cake, my mum has already picked a few she likes - which worries me. I want to pick one with my H2B - something that WE like. Any idea I've had so far she's sort of dismissed them, which has annoyed me! Don't get me wrong we're both incredibly grateful that they want to pay for our cake but, we want to pick it! I'll have to butter her up with a large latté from starbucks the day we go to get the cake booked....... This is my cunning plan and I am going to stick to it!!! x

Good idea :0) Is so frustrating when people think that because they are paying for things they get the choice. I would never dream of it. For my sisters wedding i wanted to get her something for her i.e a part of her wedding outfit but i just told her how much she had to spend and pick what she wanted and i paid for it. why can't it be that simple lol.

I would ask him what his opinion would be if YOUR mum wanted to go ring shopping with you! Be honest and say to him, out of all of the choices you both have to make over the wedding that is the one thing that goes beyond the wedding day and it'd be nicer and more meaningful if you just went as a couple.

Not at all.

I've actually refrained from telling anyone about anything until after I've done it. It saves us from having the "we don't want you there" discussions, lol.

WEES. I wouldn't have wanted anyone to accompany us ring shopping either. I think it's a little odd of her to want to go in the first place to be perfectly honest!

We didn't mention anything to anyone until after we'd bought them either, though it wasn't to avoid anyone inviting themselves (very much doubt that would have happened). More because it's our business!

I dont think you're being selfish at all hun! I think its selfish of her to want to intrude on something so personal X

Invite your Mum along too !..................might make him realise he is in the wrong!