Am I being unreasonable???

Nah, you're not. I wouldn't want it so close to the wedding, I'll need at least 2 weeks prior to get myself together and sort any last minute bits. Also, if you're having an alcohol based Hen party, you may want a little while to recover..

If you want it a month before your wedding then you have it then!

It's not that much of a big deal travelling from north to south

surely her being your sister it shouldn't be a problem!!

Good Luck! x

I personally wouldn't want my hen do the weekend before. I'd want no trace of alcohol in my system so I could focus on any last minute things.

I understand the ease for them with making savings on travel costs and more convenient for your Sister...but it is your wedding.

Have you looked to find any cheap deals on her train fare??

I wouldn't want mine so close, and from a guest point of view, 2 weekends in a row can be a bit awkward...

I think you should do what you want. Explain your opinion& say your entitled to feel the way you do - at the end of the day, will your sister say she wont come to your hen do? no... so what do you have to lose? You should never have to do something you dont want to do, no matter what it is!

No your not being unreasonable at all. Can you have it even earlier than a month, this could coincide with another visit from your sister possibly.

I don't think you are being unreasonable, there is no way I'd have a night out so close to the wedding.

You can get some very cheap train fares if you book well in advance, for a few pound, wouldn't that be a possible solution?

You're being perfectly reasonable... "Not wanting to travel from North to South twice" is making your life difficult, and hardly an inconvenience.

I would suggest, since your wedding is still quite a way away, to set the date early on for your hen night (which means less squabbling later, and less chance for continued "complaints"), and suggest that your mum book trains on thetrainline.com or some such in advance. I would frequently travel from Yorkshire to London for 20 quid return if I booked in advance.

Haha Tricks! I didn't think I was being unreasonable but you know what mothers can be like! That's a good idea Vikster, hadn't thought of that. From a guests point of view I wouldn't be happy with it, but my mum couldn't see why it would be an issue! I knew she was talking rubbish!

Thank you, I'll make a note of that website Melissa.

Virgin trains .co.uk also has some offers on in advance for their own trains (2 singles can be cheaper) - I've had a single to London for £7 before.

If you want to be REALLY unreasonable you could always change your hen do so it's in sh@galuf so they have to fly to get there - shock horror! It's your wedding & your hen weekend. If you have decided you want to be in a fit state to deal with any last minute panics & not feeling like poo from getting plastered the weekend before then your sister & mum should repect & understand your reasons for wanting this.

LOL @ Panda2011 idea! I wouldnt want mine so close either I think I had mine about 2 months before!

Claire