Am I completely mad?????

Nope, if it's the venue is better for you.

It's not worth crippling yourself financially if you can move the date.

Additonally, if you push into October you might save a fortune on the venue - our Friday in October is £6k less than a Friday in September for example.

Well I always prefer to pay the price for something I love (if I can afford it) rather then settle for second best just because its cheap.

If you can re jig everything and get the venue you love then id say go for it.

I think if you are having second thoughts about the room you have booked you should seriously consider changing to the other place, otherwise it will play on your mind and you might still end up changing nearer the time. You have to be comfortable with your venue. We looked at so many until we found the perfect one - we were also on a budget and finding one that fitted our criteria and that we could afford took a while, but we knew as soon as we saw it that it was right.

If it makes it easier to afford by changing the date to September I would say go for it if it doesnt matter exactly when you get married. If you are like us we only picked a random date anyway!

Change it. I changed everything for our wedding a few months before our date, and then we changed the venue again just a few days before! It was absolutely perfect though and I'm so pleased that we did what we did. Change it.

Change it, it's only a couple of months after all. More time to enjoy the planning and the weather can often be better in September than June.

Change it,, not wishing to put out horror stories but s couple I know had a big extravagant wedding that meant them saving so hard that they couldnt afford to go out for about 2 years, the wedding came and went, they suddenly had loads of excess cash, she started going out loads and they had split up 2 months after the 1st anniversary. Now im not saying that this is the norm, but when OH and I where setting a budget this was a factor that we looked at as we didnt want to end up feeling bitter about the wedding because we couldnt go to a friends birthday just because we decided to get married earlier.

I agree with everyone else. Change it, it seems to be the most sensible option for you and you will get your dream venue !

WTS! Change it and move the date, you need to be happy and give yourself the perfect day. No one will bat an eyelid if you change things around, its your day at the end of it all ? Your OH sounds like a very sensible bloke lol

Your not mad, if by changing the date you can afford the venue you love then change it x

We changed our date!

Was originally meant to be the end of July but as the date got closer we realised that we were way behind schedule and were getting really stressed and not enjoying the run up to the wedding.. the solution was to move the date!

We had sent invited etc out and were only approximately 7 weeks away from the date but just sent a 'change of date' out to all guests and moved the date to the end on October.

Much happier now and haven't looked back. Means that the planning has been exactly how I wanted it and as laid back as it can be!!

I'd definitely change it

Thank you for all your replies We have decided to definitely change the date, just need to pick one now, probably the 28th of September x

Hi

Where are was your venue and where is the new one? I'm in Oldham and on a budget so any suggestions of places would be appreciated!

Thanks

Rachel

Do it! We changed dates 3 times and venues twice!

Yip, I agree...change it.

We changed our date and venue with 6 months to go and I'm so happy that we did.

I'd agree, change it!

Change the date. Do you really want to spend the next 20 years looking at wedding photos wishing it had been in a nicer place?

Oh it's been a while since I've been on here, just been busy with work etc but soooooo much has changed lol!!

We have definitely decided to change the date. We decided on 28th September and went to view the hotel again, we provisionally booked it for that date but they couldn't give us exact prices for our date as they were having a refurbishment. So we went back in a few weeks like they asked and all the prices (surprise surprise) have gone up!! Amazing how a lick of paint and some new curtains makes a package price nearly double!! Aside from that they will no longer allow us to just have an evening reception on that date as its classed as peak season. So we can either have a full day wedding sit down meal, drinks package etc or we have to change our date to later in October.

I felt really disheartened/ disappointed / angry with all of these stipulations and changes and my OH ( the tightest man I know) was horrified!

We've since gone back to the drawing board, looked at what is important to us, why we are getting married and how much we can realistically afford to spend on one day and decided to stick with our original choice!!! We have a meeting with the events organiser on Thursday evening to discuss changing the date and a few things we would like quotes for as extras but we are happy with the choice.

we looked around at lots of other places and just couldn't find somewhere within budget that we both liked. I was originally put off the venue after attending another wedding there that looked rubbish, but on the website they have loads of wedding pics up now that look loads better than my friends so I feel a bit better!!

thank you all for your replies / advice xxx

That's enough to put me off the 'perfect' place - if they dont want you it wasnt meant to be!! good luck with the planning! xxxxxx

Nikkihunttobe that was exactly my thought, it was like they were trying to put me off because everything I asked about wasn't possible!! X

hi rachalan,

We have decided to stick to original venue now which is Top Tier in Milnrow but the place we were looking at was The Bower Hotel in chadderton. It is lovely there but they just couldn't provide what we wanted on our date.

have you viewed anywhere yet? Where are you getting married a church or at you venue?? We get married in St Margaret's church opposite the bridge water on Manchester road if you know it??

Here are some pics, the first two are my friends reception that was just simple but made me doubt the venue as I though it wasn't very wedding like......and the other ones are of the room looking more dressed.

The room it laid out on four diff levels the first two will have my tables then working up next will be dance floor then dj at the top. Quite a quirky little place actually.

You can see layout bit better in this pic....

Oh and while I'm at it here is my church....

Hi

Top Tier looks really nice, do you mind me asking how much is it? We're going looking at Bellavista on Saturday. looked at a couple of venues, a gorgeous barn in cheshire (waaay ovre budget), Norton Grange and Chadderton Town Hall. We want to get married in April/May 2014. For the ceremony if I find a venue I like with a licence we'll probably get married there if not I think it'll be St Matthews in Chadderton.

Rachel xx