Ok, so I'd better start off by explaining I've been married before. It was the wrong decision - we basically got married because of pressure from family, but really we were both too young. The relationship died less than a year after our wedding (if I'm honest, it was probably on its way out before we even got married), but we were too proud to split up so it lasted another 4 years before we finally bit the bullet and decided we should get a divorce.
Since we separated in 2012, I have met an amazing man. The way I feel about him is like I've never felt about anyone before (guess I'm probably preaching to the converted lol). Not only do I love him more than I ever felt possible, it makes it even clearer to me that I should never have married my ex. I have to wait another year until I can get my divorce (British law sucks), but we've already started talking about weddings - even where we'd like to get married, how many bridesmaids we'd have etc. It's only cost and the fact that I'm currently married stopping us from getting engaged now.
I've tentatively mentioned this to my parents, and they both seem fine with it - they love my new boyfriend and never stop telling me how wrong my ex and I were together. Until the other day, when I mentioned I'd been to a local Hall a few days previously (not scoping it out for a wedding - I was there for another event) and fallen in love with it: to which my Mum replied "I'd have thought you'd just want a registry office. You've had one expensive wedding already!". She made it clear she really disapproves of us spending a lot on a wedding if we get married.
My previous wedding was less than ideal. Yes, it cost £12k, but everything we chose was the first thing we looked at - the venue was "ok", the photographer was frankly horrible and overpriced, the flowers and cake were fairly basic, the rings were cheap, and the DJ didn't play anything we or our guests requested. Ok, the wedding party outfits were gorgeous and the cars were amazing, but that was about it. Add to that the fact that my husband spent all night outside chatting with mates or drinking beer the ushers had smuggled in while I did all the meeting-and-greeting and socialising, and it was really actually disappointing as weddings go.
The way I see it, just because I've been married before doesn't mean I should have to compromise on what we want if I do it again. My boyfriend has never been married before so I hardly think it's fair when he wants something big. This time, the man is perfect, why shouldn't the wedding be perfect too?
I know we're getting ahead of ourselves, but it's really upset us both. Should we have to settle for less than we want just because my previous marriage failed?
