Am I over reacting?

Agreed.

I'm probably stuck in my ways and stereotyping but people who ask if they are being unreasonable usuallly are. It's all about how you phrase things (especially when I then can't see your posts as they're deleted).

She seems to have done ok speaking up about how she feels. Is it brave to start an aibu post on a forum? I start posts like that if I need help/advice.

You are right though families don't always talk but princess says she is really close to her mum so to me ( and in the spirit of offering advice) my first suggestion would be to talk to the family member you feel closest too?

Princess has had a little vent, been told that yes, perhaps she is being unreasonable but also been given advice- that's the purpose of a forum surley?

It would change nothing now to tell my mum how I feel as it would just put her in the middle and I don't want to inflict that on her. I am also very close to my brother (he will be walking me down the isle at my wedding) and it would certainly cause tension in the family and put him in an awkward situation which is the last thing I want. There is nothing to be gained by talking to anyone about how I feel. I guess as my dad wont be there, everything else seems a much bigger deal than it is. I know nothing will change that. x

Also I never asked if I was being unreasonable, I said over reacting....

Well then how about a virtual hug and we all just shut up about it? It's all a moot point if you can't, won't or don't feel you can do/ say anything then you will just have to suck it up and get on with it I'm afraid. I hope you manage to make peace with it all in your own way.

I apologise then. I took AIBU and am I overeacting to be one and the same- my bad.

If you cant talk to your mum then is talking to your Fsil an option? Im not saying you should tell her as you have posted here but perhaps reminding her that you and your Mum may like to share some special moments together without here there? Something along those lines.

If you are not willing to tell anyone (apart from us who cant help) what is going wrong then I am afraid there may be no solution and you may have to suck it up and get on with it. Am a firm believer in the old "if you do as you always have you will get what you have always got" I would hate to think of a member of my family feeling that way when it came to thier wedding and I am ausre that if you made the first step and spoke to them you may well be plesently suprised? Of course you know your family so you may feel diffirently but apart from ranting on here I dont know how else you are going to get this fixed?

Thats a rambly post I know but I hope it makes some sense?

Thanks! I actually feel a little better just for getting it off my chest x

Yes, that makes perfect sense and I wish I had spoke up ages ago. I guess I didn't want to sound like a spoilt child so I allowed things to slide and before I knew it, my whole wedding was now hers. I will suck it up and get over it, I have no choice, their whole wedding is paid for so its far too late to voice my feelings. I reached breaking point yesterday and just broke down, I needed to get it out and this forum seemed the safest option for me to do it. x

I didn't see your other response earlier, but you did ask if you were overreacting... I thought you were looking for a bit of perspective, and so I gave you mine. I thought it was constructive.