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Beginner August 2014

Am I right to be annoyed?

Sarah5790, 13 July, 2014 at 22:23 Posted on Planning 0 7

So basically I've just came home from long day at work for my oh to say his mother has been on the phone. Basically his Aunty has rang my FMIL asking if she can bring her grandson to wedding all day! Now I am annoyed for a few reasons one why does his Aunty feel the need to ask my FMIL if this ok but not think to ask me! Also the reason she needs to bring her grandson is because the child's mother who has known about the wedding for over a year has now decided she needs to go to town that morning and can't take her son, why she has chose to go shopping for an outfit that morning I don't know, why she has chose to not take her son I also don't know.

My wedding is in 33 days and they ask this now! I know it's only one child but we have said from day one the only children to the daytime would be are daughter and his nephew. This is due to the fact OH has a large family so we would have had to invite over 30 children. All children have always been invited to the evening but what do I do about this little boy do I have him at the day or not. I just feel if he is there people will be like well why is he invited but not my children? Also I could understand if his mother couldn't have him but the fact it's because she wants to go shopping is just ridiculous!

Sorry for the rant

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Latest activity by Sarah5790, 14 July, 2014 at 00:00
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    Beginner August 2014
    Mrslizziew2be ·
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    With 2 kids I know how annoying shopping can be with them... But I would never have someone take them to a wedding where tey would be just as annoying so I could go shopping!

    I think too much is being asked of you with 33 days to go to be honest and I would call the mother of the child directly and ask her to make other arrangements. I would say something along the lines of ' we've put all our numbers in and finalised, we can't add any more not even a small child to the day.' Even if it's not true.

    A wedding is not a crèche, not when you stated only 2 children out of the whole family would be invited all day.

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  • pink & glitz
    Beginner August 2014
    pink & glitz ·
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    I think it's really cheeky of her to ask if she can bring her grandson, is not your problem if his mum is away shopping. I would be saying a definite no xxx oh and you have every right to be annoyed x

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    Beginner October 2014
    dollydimple88 ·
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    Would be a definite no from me. That is a ridiculous reason to need to bring a child to a wedding. I have a daughter and I would never expect one of her grandparents to take her to a wedding so I could go shopping. If it was hospital or something like that, then it might be a different situation. I think you have a right to be annoyed. x

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  • emabee
    Beginner August 2014
    emabee ·
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    This is so rude!! 1. She should be asking you if she wants to bring someone, 2. It's not her child so why is it her problem?! She should tell her daughter she can't look after him!! Cheeky!!

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  • kharv
    Beginner March 2012
    kharv ·
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    Yes, you're right to be annoyed.

    I think you need to say that you're very sorry but you will have to say no to the little boy attending. Say that you understand but if you let him come then you're going to have a lot of very upset and confused guests as to why they couldn't bring their children.

    ETA: There are circumstances when rules need to be compromised on and you would need to allow a child to come - I just don't think this is one of them.

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  • Erin8
    Beginner June 2014
    Erin8 ·
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    You have the right to be annoyed. She is being rather rude and cheeky!

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  • cymruangel
    Beginner December 2014
    cymruangel ·
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    I agree with everyone above, but especially this:

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    Beginner August 2014
    Sarah5790 ·
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    Thanks for your replies I'm glad I'm not the only one who thinks she is being rude. Also as mentioned earlier in my post they have know about the wedding for over a year and the little boy and his mum are both invited to the evening do which she has known for ages, so why she is deciding the day of the wedding is the perfect time to buy an outfit is beyond me. I could of understood if she was in hospital or away but she's not x

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