An off my chest post (sorry)

It sucks to feel lonely. Are your hitched friends nearby?

I have fantastical hitched friends who graduated from pretendy to real. However, i don't see them as i live in the sticks, but am very much in contact with them, they are fantastic support and even though our contact is mainly email, i know they are always there.

I guess what i am trying to say is you are not alone even though it may feel that way.

On a more practical note do your workmates ever have nights out? that could be a good start to making new friends.

I do know how you feel , i had no real friends when i was married to my first husband, he saw to that, i used to get very teary about it especially as he went out all the time. But, after we split i found new friends and got reaquainted with old ones. It was not easy as i am not the worlds most confident person, but i pushed myself to talk to people and have made some very very good friends.

xxx

Sorry to hear you are feeling down. Does your H realise how bad you feel? where in the country are you? could you meet your hitched buddies more?

sorry, loads of questions!

If it's any consolation I'm feeling exactly the same right now. My ex best friend has culled me for unknown reason and my family is on the other side of the world. All my other friends live in a different country and I'm pretty much on my own apart from my h's relations. I really want to do girlfriends things with someone, but I'm a really private person and I don't get close to people easily.

Having said that I work with a nice team at work that maybe I'll be able to develop friendships there, but I feel so lonely at the moment.

Where are you based if you don't mind me asking?

You are not alone in feeling like this *hugs*.

I have a lot of the issues you mention, but I know far less people and most of the people I am friends with live in th UK and I know practically no one here. My UK friends have almost totally lost touch with me, and I do rely on a few net buddies to keep me sane. I am incredably lonely, moreso since my sister came to visit a few weeks ago and it was like i gained a life, albeit teporarily. When she went home, I felt the lonelyness even more.

I just figured out that pretty much all the people I know in Texas are boys (except internet buddy turned real friend Peaches)

If you would like to expand you *internet buddies* circle, you ar emore than welcome to get in touch, but I know it doesnt make up for real life freinds.

Ethel i would actually really love to expand the internet friend circle that would be great thank you ?

Safetyzone its nice to know I am not alone but I hate to think other people are suffering too its really awful. I dont find making new friends easy either - I guess its a self esteem thing no thinking I'm worthy of having friends or interesting enough to keep them - thats pretty sad really.

Claires I told H I need more girl friends and he asked why. He has never been a social person so does not understand where I am coming from.

I have one hitched buddy local to me its just hard fitting it in with work as we both have kids. My other hitched buddies are more in Leeds than where I am - I am in Kent.

Ginger, work dont really have works do's anymore, they used to but now the departments are so divided they just dont.

H isnt too happy with me seeing my lad friend but has accepted it so its not like he is stopping me its just lad friend is in London and busy and I dont want to just depend on one person like that its not fair to him or me and I am worried about what happens if I get culled to be honest that would leave me completely up creek without a paddle.

Thank you for your kind messages, I'm really sorry that you are all going through similar. If anyone wants to email me I would love that. I have to go and sort dinner out now but will check back later. Thank you all again ?

Where in Kent are you? I have largely lost regular contact with most of my friends as well, and moved away from most hitched friends. I have met a couple of hitchers here in Kent but still feel very lonely most of the time. I dont work either so dont meet anyone.

Hi Zoe I am near Bluewater, where abouts are you? ?

Im in Ashford. I know there are several hitchers closer to you though ?

Hey Whitetiger: We're not that far from you - we're in Bexleyheath. We need to make some more friends as I've withdrawn from the world a bit since Camperboy went. Us Three Musketeers in the Camper household are very nice you know!?

Whitetiger, I know it can be an age thing as well. I'm the same age as you and all my 'own' friends are scattered across the country (and being in N. Ireland, there is usually a sea in the way) and then the others are getting married/sprogging and don't really seem to have to same desire as I do to drink cocktails or meet for coffee or whatever.

To remedy this, I've made an extra special effort with someof Mr P's friends' wives and girlfriends, so now they are 'my' friends too, and we can go out either with or without our partners, which is fab. I've made a promise to myself to stop saying 'we should meet up sometime.....', and instead actually arrange a date and a time. With old friends from school/peoplefrom church, sometimes youknow you have nothing in common, but in other ways I have made friends doing this.

It sounds so naff, but I have made some ace friends in yoga class. When my job changed recently, I actually cried because I can't go on Saturday mornings anymore. Its not like we are the bestest of buddies for the rest of our days or anything, but having a group of people to meet up with once a week and go for a coffee with after class is just fab.

Whitetiger, I am in Belvedere - so also close to you and campergirl - I am in pretty much the same situation. Most of my friends are in different parts of the country or all single and off on girlie holidays or out on the pull/lash most nights when I just want to go out for a coffee or dinner and a chat. Must be getting old - heh heh

I think perhaps a kent meetup should be arranged so us kent girlies/boys can get together