An RSVP question

Or set up a www.gettingmarried.co.uk website for free and let them RSVP online. Although you prob have the cards now lol. Whatever makes you happier but that could be a lot of stamps. Wouldn't occur to me to give them one tbh but then I'm useless. X

I was wondering the same thing. I think in this day and age people are most likely to respond quickly if they can do so using technology, so I was thinking of either putting my email address or mobile number on the invites (or both). I know it's not very traditional but I think people will be more likely to reply quickly!

We included a RSVP card with the address on so all they needed to do was put on a stamp. Thought about setting up a website but I'd imahine half of our guests probably would find this confusing to use e.g anyone from my parents generation lol

I wouldn't be providing stamps. Your wedding is most likely costing you thousands, surely your guests can manage 40p for a stamp. Also, whether or not you specifically invite them to, I'm sure you will get people RSVP-ing by phone, text and email because I'm sure many of your guests have your contact details.

We used a postcard type card with our address on back, all they needed to do was add their name and a stamp

We included an RSVP slip to be posted back, along with a meal choice card. However, we also set up a wedding email account and gave people the option of replying by email. The overwhelming majority replied by post even when given a free option. So I really wouldn't worry ?

We did ours via Facebook message, I made electronic save the dates personalised to each person, couple or family and sent them over that way, you could see when the person had picked up the message and we had about 90% of our RSVPs back within the same night because it was so easy for them to respond as any who hadn't I messaged a fewdays later and got an immediate answer from the last few. Couldn't be on with waiting for postal responses!

When I first started planning I thought it would be the rudest thing ever to not put stamps on. Now I know that's silly, for the cost alone. We will be getting a lot of RSVPs hand delivered I think and it would be such a waste of stamps! I think we will probably address the envelopes though, even though most from my side I can picture being hand delivered to us via my parents, as they all live in the same town.

We put stamps on but we didn't have to send that many and most were hand delivered by the in laws. I knew that we'd get them back that way. Most of those we sent to were slightly older so more traditional.

i also wrote names on the RSVP card to make it clearer it did not include a +1/ children where appropriate,

I think the correct thing to do, etiquette wise, is to put a stamp on the envelope so it's as easy as possible for your guests to return it to you. But I definitely agree with you that we are all more technologically savvy nowadays and doing it online is easier. If you're worried about cost just include response cards (with stamped, self-addressed envelopes) for your older relatives that might not be comfortable replying online.

We've only got about a dozen invites to post. The rest will be hand delivered so we have addressed and put stamps on the RSVP's. Our invites also include my email address and mobile number so hoping this covers all bases for our guests to reply. Although not sure some of our guests get it as we have had an RSVP to our save the date lol !

We have made little rsvp cards for if people want to rsvp the traditional way, but we have also put email addresses on there as well to make it easier for everyone if they want to reply that way. Don't worry about paying for a stamp. I would be surprised if an invite turned up with a stamp on the rsvp. I don't think it's necessary.

We gave them an option to RSVP by email, and that worked pretty well! Some people just sent us a Facebook message too actually. Only about 20% of our guests actually replied by post. I'd say if you include a stamped envelope in all invites, you may waste some money from those who won't even bother to use that!

We included a stamped addressed envelope and were upset that some people still couldn't be arsed to return it !!

When my friend got married she included stamped, addressed envelopes with her invitations. She made me post mine to her despite the fact that she was standing right next to me and I was her bridesmaid ha!! She said she wasn't wasting the stamps!!! :-)

Another invitation we received had an RSVP card with no stamp, no envelope and a mobile number so I was confused as to what we were supposed to do! This wedding was abroad though so we just let them know when we had booked it!

Personally, I think that if you would like an RSVP via the post, you should include a stamped addressed envelope, otherwise people may not send it back. I always have letters I mean to post floating in my handbag for ages as I keep forgetting to buy stamps!!!

I think we will have to include them as we are giving our guests the choice of what they would like to eat. I would like to set up a wedding website where people can do this but my OH isn't keen on this idea as he doesn't think that our older guests would like it. We won't have many invitations that we need to post so I think this will keep the costs down.

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We sent out RSVP cards with our address on but no stamp. We also have them an email address to reply to if they were too tight for a stamp As it turns out, most did use the cards to respond and put their own stamps on.

For the price of stamps nowadays, I wouldn't bother including stamped RSVPs. I would be too annoyed if people still failed to send them back, or just did it by text or something.

We do require a proper RSVP because we have menu choices but we are doing it all through our wedding website.

We've got am RSVP card with an envelope for people to return to us. We also got stickers printed with our name and address on and stuck these to the envelope so all people need to do is attach a stamp. I couldnt justify paying for the stamps for people to still not bother sending them back

We will include addressed RSVP slips (plus our email addresses etc), but no stamps. I can understand the reasons for it, and if you can afford it then why not, but if I received a wedding invitation in the post I certainly wouldn't begrudge the couple the cost of a stamp to RSVP! Particularly if they had included email addresses or phone numbers.

I don't think you need to include stamps, I'd be very surprised if I got an invitation with a stamped addressed envelope! All invitations I've previously received just had an RSVP card and we either let the couple know, or gave the card to them in person. With my invites, I'm going to offer people the choice to reply via post or e-mail. We have a wedding website, but we also have older guests who don't have the internet so will be tailoring their invites accordingly. I've signed up to use RSVPify (https://rsvpify.com) to keep track of all my replies then I can update it when I get replies from people. I'm also asking for a meal choice (regular or veggie) and a song request for the evening.