Announcing your date problem

If you've booked a wedding venue and your planning details for your wedding, surely you already are engaged????? I don't get why people say this, "we're planning on getting engaged on holiday..."...WHAT?? If you've agreed to get married, then you're engaged!

In terms of announcing the date, there's literally no reason at all why you should wait. The only time I would not make an announcement like that is on the friend's actual wedding day - that's just a bit rude! My best friend got married last year and a close friend in our group got engaged two weeks before - she wasn't going to keep it quiet until after my friend's wedding, and no one minded one bit anyway! Go for it and send out your save the dates. You might want to tell people that you're engaged first though, or they might be abit confused receiving a save the date in the post!

An engagement will never trump a wedding so go ahead and make your announcement - it may be that he wants to do something special but to all intents and purposes, you are engaged

From the OP:

Me and the OH havnt announced our engagement yet. We have booked the wedding for July 4th 2015.

That's the same date we have booked lol xx

Hi,

I may be going a little off topic and not answering your query directly.

However I wanted to say that I think its brilliant that you have booked your wedding before you got (officially) engaged, reasons being that so many people get engaged....have no savings.....or no idea how much their wedding will cost and then end up being engaged for years and years as they realise how expensive their wedding could be (depending on what they want).

Whereas you have booked your wedding , so know exactly how much you need to save for. Which means when your H2B does officially propose, you will have a date immediately and not have to wait years and years to save.

Just think of yourself as a celeb, many know when they are getting married but wait to make an official announcement haha. Not for the same reasons mind you, but anyway just trying to make light of this and say that I think its better you know what you need to spend, so when its official you have a date, and means to save/pay for the wedding you want, instead of being engaged for years (which is also fine but I am just relating this post to your wedding circumstances).

A marriage is far more important than an engagement, you are DEF getting married as you have booked your wedding and so the official proposal will come and when it does you can send out save the date cards. I understand you H2B wanting to save for the ring first and I think its sweet. I know how excited you must be to tell people, and so just enjoy waiting for him to do the official thing. Yes this is wedding planning forum and you are wedding planning....yayyyyyy.

xx

I completely agree with you. I think most couples discuss marriage, want to see what cost is involved when they do, end up finding a venue that they love so much that they have to have it, therefore book it, and are engaged. Then do the official thing after.

I don't think marriage proposals are always a surprise when you have been discussing it throughout your relationship. In fact I think one thing you learn from experience is when you find THE ONE you should always be open and honest about what you want from the relationship such as marriage and kids, that way no one ends up wanting different things. Things pan out naturally and as I said are not that unexpected, so it makes sense to look for venues when you know a marriage is on the cards in the near future.

That being said, being proposed to when you know your going to marry at some point, is like being pregnant and then giving birth, you know its coming but when you get it, its still so magical that you are still in shock, happy and totally in love. My daughter is 9 now, but pregnancy and knowing you are having a bub, does not even come close to holding your baby for real. (if that analogy makes sense haha)

x

I hate the word "hubby". Just an opinion!

My husband surprised me with a proposal, we chose a ring together and then we discussed all aspects of the wedding together. Just one way of doing it. Not sure what all the fuss and flouncing is about.

Christ I hope my wedding day is better than giving birth. ?

Oh my God, me too! I did that four times and not once did I feel beautiful! Not to mention the screaming agony!!!

We viewed venues before getting engaged too I'd wait to announce it once you've got the ring x

I don't see why there is a problem in announcing your date and it's not like you're forcing him to announce the date on the friend's wedding.

What will happen if more friends get married? Wait till they have all finished?