any brides to be already have children??

We have a 3 year old son, & he will be all suited & booted just like his dad & the best men.

Honeymoon-wise, me & my OH are having a long weekend away together (Dublin or Edinburgh I think) then we are having a week in Malta in September with our son.

Hello

I have worked with lots of couples that have children. Some ideas:

Ring bearer on the day (they bring the rings up the aisle on a pillow!)

They read a poem at the ceremony (we had twin girls aged 4 do it together)

They are the official confetti holder - very important job!

One couple got there 10 year old son to sing their 1st dance - he was choir boy with a fantastic voice

Kim x

Hi

I have a 7 yr old son from a previous relationship and my h2b absolutely dotes on him, my son calls him daddy and like your daughter the biological dad is a **** !

It's extremely important to me and to H2B that my son is involved as much as possible, yes WE are getting married but we are also a family and it's incomprehensible to me that he wouldn't/shouldn't be involved.

My son is wearing the same suit as H2B, he is also being ring bearer and walking up the aisle with me. He is sitting on the top table and he is coming on honeymoon with us.

Out of curiosity, is friends without children that are being negative ?

I am lucky that I haven't had any negativity from anyone, though if anyone was they would get short shift from both of us. Times have changed, the days when people are virgins when they marry are long gone, so people should move with the times and accept there are different ways of doing things. It's your day and you should do what you want !

I remember a huge thread on here about someone going on honeymoon to Disneyland in Florida and leaving the children behind OMG I just couldn't do that, a few days away yes, a week possibly but any longer than that and I would miss my little man too much !! Though it's up to the individual......

Is your ex allowing you to change your daughter name ? My ex won't in a million years let me change it, he is using it to try and control me and be spiteful, he doens't see my son or have anything to do with him. It's causing me a lot of heartache worrying about what to do, he is getting what he wants I suppose ☹️

What a git your ex is doing that to his daughter, some men (and women!) shouldn't be allowed to call themselves parents grrrr

I haven't got any kids but if i had i couldn't imagine a day without them. i have got 2 friend's little girls to be flowergirls cos its a family celebration.

i can understand a couple of days away (everyone needs a break from the kids once in a while!) but i could never go to somewhere like disneyland without kids if i had them! we have a westie n she's like my baby, we're only having a week honeymoon cos i don't want to leave her longer than that n don't think its fair on MIL/FIL as they're doggy-sitiing.

We saw a wedding that the brides daughter from a previous relationship was part of the ceremony n she was aked if she took the groom to be her new daddy. (was a civil wedding in next doors garden) thought it was nice to bring the daughter into it.

I havent got children myself but I totally agree with you-getting married is in my opinion about concreting(sp) a relationship and that includes with children as much as to each other. I love the idea of the reading by your daughter but what you are doing sounds perfect including her (I mainly mean her because she is older!) in all the planning and the wedding and honeymoon sounds like a real family team.

To all the negative response-tell them where to stick it! Your family your life your choice

Good luck xx

Hi,

My OH has two children from previous relationship, we are definatly including them on our special day. Although OH's daughter whose 12 at the mo, informed me she would be bridesmaid and told me the colours she could and could not wear LOL. I didn't mind, I was over the moan she's happy to have me as a stepmum (even though I'm only 24!!). OH's son is 8, he will be a mini Best Man, as he gets on really well with thee Best Man (OH's best friend).

Hope you all have a fab day!

Hiya

what age is your son?and were you married to his dad?

as my daughter was born before 2003 and we werent married he has no legal parental responsibility for her-to change her name i only need permission from those who have it (luckily its only me!!)

even though he has nothing to do with her i looked into my oh having parental responsiblity for her but by lawi would have to inform her biol dad of our plans and if he didnt agree he could go to court to contest it-like you my ex uses this to keep control-he would say no to it purely because he can!

she had his name when she was born and i changed it by deedpoll when she was 3 to my name-it was so easy cost me £40 and the certificate was sent out within weeks...

good luck with yours!!

x

Hi i have a 9yr old daughter from a previous relationship (once again ex is a ***t, see's her when it suits him!!) My OH has an 8yr old daughter from a previous relationship (we have her on weekends) and we have a 4yr old daughter together all 3 are going to be bridsmaids. We are just having a weekend away after the wedding. Children make a wedding i think and could not imagine not having them involved in some way.

although at the min we are not 100% if his daughter will be there as his ex can be very nasty. sends us horrible texts and stops his daughter from coming regulaly.

So can i change my daughters name with out her dads permission? she is 9 he says he has rights

Em x

what an ar**!

I have 12 yr old daughter and OH has 3yr old daughter (13 and 4 by wedding) we dont want wedding over run with kids and only having family kids there. Our girls are the only bridesmaids

My daughter will be CB and been incharge of my engagement ring and also want them to do some kind of reading together

depends whether he has parental responsibility or not. I changed my daughters surname when she was two, but he doesnt have PR, he was happy with that, we get on very well and he will be invited to our wedding (I also went to his)

Honeymoon - jury's out. cant decide. but cant live with guilt of going to maldive without them then taking them to Bognor to try and make it up!

Hi

if you werent married then he has no P/R unless you have signed an agreement?? even if his name is on the birth certificate this still stands...i checked over and over before i changed my daughters name and legally i could do it-he does have rights with regard to agreeing to someone else having p/r or if someone were to adopt your child etc....i changed her name then wrote to him with a copy of the certificate all above board.

7 years ago he turned up on my doorstep with a p/r agreement after getting advice from fathers for justice (oh dear!!) and after reading it i refused to sign it, he threatened me with court action and im still waiting.......he is a very controlling man adn i knew he would use having p/r as a way to carry on controlling us-it was scary reading the agreement knowing what he is capable of...

anyway back to the subject!!! google changing your name by deedpoll and all the info is there......tell me how you get on!!

Hi he was 7 a couple of days ago and we were married when he was born. He does have parental responsibility but he just uses it to threaten me with...................I am really really stuck about what to do. My H2B would like us to all have same name, but I don't see how we can.

I cannot bear thought of having a different name to my son, imagine booking holidays and having different name, imagine being at school and being called mrs so so when I am not I am actually mrs jo jo but my son is master so so, if that makes sense. Then my son is already asking if he will be called master jo jo, honestly I can't entertain it. So I am stuck, can't think of a way around it. It's in my son's best intrest to keep the same name as me, but because of the issues with the bio dad we can't. I wish I could change his name to Master so jo, so his is doubled barrelled but I can't even do that without permission aaaagggghhhhh I feel a headache coming on !!

Disclaimer the names So and Jo are entirely ficticious and were used for illustrative purposes lol !!

My sister and a friends have been through the same thing, dragged through court several times. The a*** won by getting PR but at the end of the day its just s piece of paper and doesnt actually mean anything. When will these men grow up and stop throwing their toys out of the pram!!

Your ex is obviously a self centred *^$"* And what he married can't be much better if she didn't even try to involve his daughter sorry just my opinion!

Me and my OH have 2 boys they will both be pageboys suited and booted just like daddy! (they will be 7 and 2 when we marry) and me and OH are having a weekend away just for us and then a week away as a family holiday.

My OH and our boys are also having their own mini stag do he is taking them bowling and for pizza after his (proper) stag do in Newcastle.

You just do what suits your family sod anybody else!

xx

Awful thing for your ex to do that and not involve your daughter in their wedding!

Anyway glad you've found that someone extra special who dotes on your daughter that is lovely. I'm married to the father our 2 children and we've been together for 18 years and married for almost 2 years. Our daughter then 15 was a bridesmaid along with my best mate who was MOH and our son then 13 was an usher with my mum's now ex-partner. It was great to have them involved. We didn't take them on our honeymoon purely because they didn't want to go to Thailand and secondly because we got married during school time and our daughter was at the time studying her GCSEs. They stayed with my mum.

We would have wanted them to come along with us tho! It would have been a holiday of a lifetime for them but as I said they didn't want to go!

I have 3 boys from a previous relationship, i had initially asked my eldest (13) if he would give me away, but having Asperger syndrome (diagnosed in December) he's not really one for being on show, he wont even wear a kilt as its 'wrong' so my middle son (11) piped up and said he would do it, to which i was very surprised as he too has Asperger syndrome and ADHD but is a bit more of a 'showman' and it means he gets to ride in the Limo!! although im not sure how he will be on the day but hey like everything with him we will play it by ear!

I have now also decided to have my youngest carry the rings as i managed to get hold of a bargain ring cushion, it was just going to be the best mans job to hand them over at the right time!

So as you can see my boys will be pretty much part of the day from the off! x

I have 3 boys from a previous relationship, i had initially asked my eldest (13) if he would give me away, but having Asperger syndrome (diagnosed in December) he's not really one for being on show, he wont even wear a kilt as its 'wrong' so my middle son (11) piped up and said he would do it, to which i was very surprised as he too has Asperger syndrome and ADHD but is a bit more of a 'showman' and it means he gets to ride in the Limo!! although im not sure how he will be on the day but hey like everything with him we will play it by ear!

I have now also decided to have my youngest carry the rings as i managed to get hold of a bargain ring cushion, it was just going to be the best mans job to hand them over at the right time!

So as you can see my boys will be pretty much part of the day from the off! x

Hey,

thats a shame bout her dad but at least shes old enough 2 remember this when shes older and he cant try and work his way back in, he sounds horrible!!

As 4 getting the kids involved i think its great, i cant leave my 10 month old at all really so im even considering him jusy staying with us on the wedding night, i bet i get a lotta bad response 2 that!!!

s xx