Any guests you are worried about?

Mostly work colleagues (particularly the senior ones) that we've felt we've had to invite even though neither of us would have been that bothered if they'd had "prior engagements" on the day. Some of them just won't "fit in in a normal social situation.

I haven't booked anything yet but OH 2 sisters!!

They don't speak and are very jealous of each other..........the poor MIL will be on tenderhooks when the day actually gets here.

They all lost their longer brother in Oct so you would think this would bring them both together...........the peace lasted for 2wks!!

Oh don't even get me started!!

My mum and my dad

My stepdad and my dad

My mum and my dad's youngest sister

My grandma and my grandad

Hmmm it's all my family lol!! Lucky OH only has one side to the family rather than 2 so I get all the drama......Fun ?

I do have a few people that are moaning about things already and will prob still be moaning on the day! Also a few that cant handle their drink that may be a bit embarasing! Nothing to serious though! (I hope).

My dad because he's a right grumpy sod! And h2b, because he likes to play up after he's had a few (especially when he's surrounded by his friends!), although I do find this more amusing than anything else! x

This made me laugh, just imagining the squishing. Hope all goes well!

Erm....my H2B?!!! lol he should be fine as long as he doesn't get too drunk...has a tendancy to strip...normally in our own home but you never know.

And my OH's mum, his parents are divorced and his mum is opinionated at the best of times....at the worst of times after a drink, well i dread to think!!! Sge is going home about 8 before the night do gets into full swing but still...

Yep, got a few friends who may misbehave. So I have appointed an unofficial 'bouncer' to keep them incheck, the big brother type who will have a quiet word.

Either that or I get all Bridezilla and kick them out on their ar$es.

Yep, we have one guest we're bothered about. OH's grandmother - we're hoping we can avoid inviting her completely but if we have to due to family pressure we're dreading it - she doesn't like my OH (her grandson!) and she doesn't like me. Her favourite of OH's siblings is his younger sister who got married a couple of years ago - not looking forward to hearing 50 million reasons why OH's sisters wedding was nicer / classier / better than ours. She also has an extremely acid tongue where me and OH are concered. If we do end up inviting her, I was going to put her on a table with my Great-Aunt who will neutralise her.

I'm dreading my cousins coming because they are all little and dont know how to behave which worries me it may sound bad but i dont want them running around whilst people are trying to eat there dinner

OHs sisters - one in particular worries me, I know she doesn't want the wedding to go ahead and am so thinking she will try to talk him out of it when his nerves kick in on the wedding morning - not that he'd let her mine

My Mom / stepmom / Uncle / Dad situation - they are seeing each other for the first time since their very bitter divorce 9 years ago which say my Dad run off with Moms brother (my uncles) wife - they are now married too.

My 2 bridesmaids - they hate each other, can't even sit through a lunchtime coffee with me together

Our pageboy - He won't misbehave but he have VERY severe travel sickness and I can see him being ill on the 15min journey to our reception down a lot of country lanes (he didn't have this when we booked else we would never have considered the venue, thats how bad he is)

All of OHs friends who have a tendancy to GET NAKED

My Uncle who suffers very badly with his nerves and who is having disputes with 2 of my uncles

My brother does the usual sibling thing of winding me up

OHs physcho uncles who have threated to kill his Dad in the past, who are not invited but keep asking questions implying they believe they are

I think that more or less covers all of our guests........... haha! We should have eloped!

I'm worried about my dad and my uncle cos they fell out last year, well uncle sent dad a stroppy text and dad didn't respond but is expecting an apology (even tho they hardly spk to each other anyway). I wasn't concerned until my mom mentioned it last week and said you're uncle best apologise to your dad before he gets invited (err, think thats my decision actually). But don't want dad being funny if uncle is invited or any animosity on the day. ☹️

OH's brother has an issue with when to stop drinking, and can never seem to drink sensibly

OH's OTHER brother - he recently went abroad to get married and priced everyone else out (ie. it was so expensive where they were going, no one else could afford to go, so they had no guests other than his wife's parents). He has banged on about how amazing it was and perfect for them and how what we are doing is a waste of money etc. Personally i think what they did was very selfish (his mum was absolutely gutted that she couldn't be there, as were his kids) but each to their own. if that was their perfect day then fine, but we have arranged OUR perfect day so I just don't want him sitting there, discussing and speculating over how much everything is costing us and comparing it to what they had.

My godfather and his wife - they corner people and bore them to death. Worrying that they will corner me and I won't get enough time to speak to everyone else!! lol

OH's friend, who he has designated as a sort of Master of Ceremonies. He's a bit of a drinker and can be absolutely lovely, but he has quite a temper and has been known to kick off after a few too many. Having said that, I don't think there's anyone else there who he's likely to clash with and hopefully his wife will keep him under control!

Oooh don't get me started:

• OH's family on his mother's side vs. his stepmom (his mother is NOT invited and at the top table will be his stepmum as Mother of the Groom - long story, but OH's dad is afraid that although OH's mum's family know how she is and none of them like her much, they may still have strong feelings towards the stepmum, although she wasn't on scene when OH's parents divorced, but OH's mother told all her family that she was divorcing him because he cheated which wasn't true; OH's dad divorced her.)
• A couple of work colleagues I am closer to as they tend to get drunk and behave a bit out of line for an elegant Stately home venue, not to mention scared of damage to the art and stuff in the said Stately home!!!
• OH's mother: she may try to turn up uninvited - venue weren't told details but we have told them that we want all guests checked on a list at the entrance and must produce invites...

Everybody's got someone haven't they!!! Sometimes it[s nice to come on here just to be reassured that we're all having the same problems!

We've only got 1 I think, a relative on OH's side. I may just have to tell MIL2B to make sure this relative stays away from me all day lol I hate her but OH thinks he has to invite her etc etc usual family politics. I'd happily not have her there.

Ah well, it wouldn't be a wedding without some stupid family niggles I suppose

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MIL2B. She's lovely but if you don't know her you could take her in the wrong way. I have long hair, when I first met her she said "is that all your own hair" I said yes "she said oh because most black girls don't have nice hair like yours" it was meant as a compliment but if you don't know her some of the things she says could def be taken in the wrong way. She is white (OH is mixed race) am worried she may say something to a family member ans they may think shes being sterotypical etc SIL2B- her and OH aren't getting on at the moment and can sense that there may be an atmosphere on the day.

Ooooh what a great thread well we haven’t finalised our guest list yet as invites are not due to go out until April/May but there are a few trouble-making contenders on the draft guest list;

1st – OH’s mum and step-dad – at the moment they are not speaking to us because OH dared to finally stand up to their emotional blackmail & bullying so more than likely they won’t be coming at all but if they do end up apologising (unlikely) for their behaviour and OH decides to invite them then they will no doubt get their revenge by being complete bastards on the day….

2nd – OH’s sister & her husband –OH’s mum is putting the screws on them and making them feel guilty for still being in touch with us so things are becoming strained but even so they are hard work – incredibly ignorant and racist and likely to be loud and embarrassing after a few drinks….

3rd - OH’s friend’s wife – she says she has an allergy to onions to disguise the fact she is bulimic (my mum has severe allergies to fish and nuts so I know what severe allergic reactions look like….) and causes a scene at every party, wedding or social function because she is the worst kind of attention seeker. She had an ‘attack’ at a friends wedding two years ago and caused a complete scene, and to top it off then threatened to sue the venue (she is also a lawyer)….

I wouldn't invite anybody I was worried about. If I thought someone was likely to cause a scene, then they wouldn't get an invite. I don't care if that alienates people, or ruffles feathers.

I wouldn't want to spend my day concerned they were going to kick off, or cause an uncomfortable atmosphere.