Any ladies doing a speech?

Not tacky. I wrote one.........but never got time to do it.

look on it as 'getting in the last word' ))

I am doing a speech for sure! Such a special day for me and H2B I don't see why he should speak and not me! I am an independant woman who likes to speak for herself! haha

Not sure really, like i heard a speach from the bride the other day which started 'you cant shut me up any other day so why should today be any different'

Just thought it was proper cheesy/tacky

See I wouldn't necessarily say that, but its what my family would be thinking....

I don't see why OH should have to stand up at the reception and publicly say how much he loves me, why i'm so fab, how great I look etc etc etc and not expect the same back from me?

I am doing the main speech

my h2b is too shy so he will say a few words but i'll do the main thank yous

I'm going to do a short speech, mainly just thank you's.

H2B is a bit shy and making a big to-do of having to do a speech so I am helping out! Also as the bridesmaids and pageboy etc are my close friends and family I really want to thank them myself.

Think is is just personal choice really.

Funny you should ask, but i am just attempting to write mine - quite pleased with it so far.

I am doing a speech, mainly for my parents. When will I get that chance again?

I don't think it's tacky at all. I would never do one myself, as I'll be a bundle of nerves on the day already without adding that sort of pressure, but if you want to do one, go for it!

Any better Trickers?????

Oh good, keeping my fingers crossed for you!!!

I'm going to prepare on the basis that I will be doing one although I reserve the right to wimp out on the day! I certainly shan't be telling people of my intentions in case I do wimp out!

Get well soon, Trickster! x

Just try and stop me... I can use the Best Actress Oscar speech I've been practising since I was 8...

Ahem.

In all seriousness, I really really want to say a few words and thankyous to the people I love, and of course give a special mention to my OH, parents and siblings. Can't gurarantee I won't sob all the way through though lol.

I may do one i'm not 100% sure yet though

Why would it be tacky??? What I really can't stand is the traditional British line-up, it's so sexist in my opinion! In France we don't do speeches at all so it doesn't matter anyway. I've decided to have short speeched nonetheless, I'm letting the best man say a few words, I've asked my Dad too, H2B will too, H2B's sister and maybe my maids!

Definately not tacky shoeey

I wont tell OH that all you ladies are doing one otherwise he will want me to do it. He hates speeches, but by theory is 'ive done everything else, the least he can do is stand up and say thank you for it'

I don't think it's tacky at all!

I'm undecided about doing a speech... On the one hand I think all the men giving speeches is a bit off and sexist really so I might do one out of stubbornness, but on the other hand I don't exactly enjoy public speaking. I might do what others have said and plan to do one but reserve the right to chicken out on the day!

I think i am going to write one and then see what happens on the day. OH is likely to have very short speech as he isnt that confident at public speaking and neither is the best man. My dad is brilliant though so may just leave it up to him to do a blinder. Also depends on whether i have stopped crying which i am pretty certain i will be doing for most of the ceremony (despite the fact that i really dont want to and am not normally a crier)

I am aiming to say a few words.

Both our fathers arent with us anymore, so its not as if there are going to be lots of speeches.

We're getting some of my family/ friends coming over from Holland, so I am going to welcome them in Dutch, which is what my dad would have done ( well, he actually did that on my first wedding)

Def not tacky, classy!

I'm thinking of doing a short one. I'm not a massive fan of public speaking, so will be nervous, but the traditional male-centric speech lineup doesn't sit comfortably with me at all. I would also really like to be able to thank everyone for coming, and do a toast for everyone, as the wedding won't be the same without them all there. As I'm the main one who this is important for, it makes sense for me to actually do it!

I''d just been thinking it in my head by, inspired by this thread, I just mentioned it to Mr Spoon and he said "Yeah, that would be cool - I could do my speech and then say how much I love my new wife, and so here she is to do her speech". So I think that's a thumbs up from him!

Am considering doing one - which would probably be a surprise to people who know me as I'm normally pretty quiet and self conscious. It wouldn't be of the "I always make sure I get the last word" variety - more just to say a few thank yous.

Tbh, the speeches in general are one of the things I am dreading, and one of the things which always made me nervous about getting married. Long story, short version is I'm not sure my dad will be at my wedding (lives 150 miles away, is in poor health and hardly leaves the house), even if he does turn up not sure if he would want to do a speech/if I would want him to, or if I could trust him to do one without embarrasing me/getting drunk/a combination of the two ☹️

Same here - I do feel pretty uncomfortable with the idea of the traditional all-male line up - seems to be a throwback to the days when getting married basically did mean you lost your individual identity and any right to speak for/represent yourself in any way. Maybe that's just me reading too much into things though.

I also agree that it would be nice to thanks people - me and OH are organising for and paying for the whole thing ourselves, so makes sense really for us both to make a speech and toast the guests - tbh, my parents aren't really that interested in my wedding, so owuld be a bit daft for my dad to then do a speech.

Other option I'm considering is me and OH doing joint speech.

I feel the same - it really irritates me that the bride is just supposed to get dressed up and then sit there quietly and listen! I know it is not at all meant like that, it is just done "because it's tradition", but it still bothers me.

I know what you mean - I know it's only because it's traditional, not because anyone is intentionally trying to stop the bride from having an opinion, but it just winds me up for some reason.

I think it just really hit me this year when I was at a friend's wedding, she is a doctor, very hard-working and ambitious, and normally very vocal and opinionated (in the nicest possible way); anyway, her dad was joking how rare it was to get her to shut up (and to see her in a dress), and, whilst I know she was happy not to do a speech, and it just made me feel like her personality ws being stifled, as though just because she was getting married she was supposed to just sit there, look pretty and shut up!