Any tips on keeping calm?

Sorry I have not tips but am very interested in the response you get to this question as I cry at the drop of a hat so would also love to know how to not look like a jibbering wreck walking down the aisle lol!

I know Shelly when I hear the music I'm thinking that is gonna set me off!

Me too. I keep thinking I will just think ok don't look at him, don't think about the wedding, don't listen to the music. WHAT! Noooo. Can't do that. I know I will cry. I'm not normally an overly emotional person but since the chemo I cry at EVERYTHING.

So nice hanky. Waterproof makeup. Is it possible to cry without the ugly face. I hope so. So if someone has good tips I'm here to listen to them too.

I'm going to do a first look pic an hour or so before the wedding and hope that it gets the crying out of the way while leaving time for a makeup touch up.

That sort of works for us as not marrying until half 4 and the only daylight is between 11-2, then I get an hour to retouch, calm down and have a relaxing bevy before leaving for the chapel.

thats my plan.

Ha ha. What are we like ladies. I only have to hear my "walking down the aisle" song and I cry like a baby.

Oh sorry and I plan on having my witness primed to no hugs or slushy stuff on the day and tell jokes in the reindeer sleigh on route to the chapel.

im not a pretty crier!

I am the same I feel so nervous! When I was bridesmaid for my best mate I looked at my mate just before we walked in the room and burst into tears, I am so worried that is going to happen again. I hope I mange to keep it together xx

I feel like a nervous wreak already and you are closer to your day then me I dunno what state I will be in. I had the entrance music on the other day and both h2b and I started to well up haha.

Hi there

I too was so worried that I would cry so I deliberately chose an upbeat cheery song to walk down the aisle to.

I don't know if it helped as on the day I actually felt really calm and didn't feel I would well up at all. I was just caught up in the whole moment that I didn't even notice the music!

You may just surprise yourself that you will hold it together on the day. ?

I hope so. Maybe we should listen to the song we all chose 24/7 until we know it's the right one but are desensitized to it lol.

Jayne - that's exactly what my friend told me to do! So I become immune to it!

xXx

I have spent the last few weeks saying my vows to myself to try and desensitize myself to them. I cry like a little girl every time I think about saying "all that I am I give to you"!!!

I picked a song that wasn't weddingy but an instrumental version of something that means a lot to us after the whole cancer thing. Might have been a mistake. I'm going to putI it on the iPod on repeat before hand and hope that works.

Cry for the whole of December and be ok 6 Jan lol.

Big deep breaths - in through the nose, out through the mouth. Rescue remedy. Waterproof mascara. Someone on hand with a hankerchief.

I'm a very emotional person too, I cry at everything! But I can't see me doing a proper-big-ugly-open-mouth-wail ? at the altar! I'm not going to worry about the odd tear trickling down.

I'm another one that cries at everything - I cried at one of the meerkat adverts once. But I didn't cry on my wedding day. I felt myself starting to choke up a little during my vows, but I just reminded myself everyone was watching (at close quarters - the blacksmiths is a VERY small room) and did I want them to see me with eyeliner running down my face? No, I did not. And that shook me out of it. OMs said this to me before my wedding and I didn't really believe it, but it's true: you'll be so happy, you won't want to cry, you'll just smile all day!

It's those darn John Lewis Christmas ads that get me.

I also would crack when listening to our chosen wedding music within the first 3 notes.

On the day, I didn't cry during the ceremony. I was just so happy that it was the day.

If you're still not sure you can keep it together then practice breathing and like InkedDoll, think of your make up.