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I'm having my brother give my away. I haven't seen my dad in 10yrs or spoken to him or any of his side of my family. Bit sad about that but if they want to believe him then fair enough.

Im not being given away by anyone!

both my parents are dead, my older sisters are cows (although if they had been more helpful and supportive of the wedding i may have asked one of them). My wee sister has been a complete gem and she is being a witness with bridemaids duties, as not having a bridesmaid either. I could have asked one of OHs family but i just thought, bugger it, i dont need anyone to give me away, i will willingly go!!! ?

Thanks Ladies,

I'm starting to feel a bit better about this now. My Uncle had a stroke about 3 years ago and is still a bit uneasy on his feet. Mum is coming in the car with us to the venue so will be helping my Uncle to the top of the aisle anyway. (my way in involves steps so Uncle will be going through the disabled entrance which is where the alter is)

So rather than her walking back down alone (and possibly feeling a little silly) i was going to ask her to walk me down as well as my uncle.

Cosmo that idea sounds really nice having your mum and uncle.

I agree, I think its a fab idea to have them both.

They both clearly mean a lot to you so why not! x

I'm having my best friend (male) which didn't go down well (haven't had a relationship with my dad in 13 years). Sounds nice that you're able to include them both.

My mum is giving me away. I do have a father figure, a friend of the family who I've known all my life, but it seemed right for it to be my mum. I'm not bothered about tradition, even though you have to fight against people in general who seem to be.

You do whatever feels right for you.

I'm having my brother give me away as my dad passed away about 6 months ago

Yep, my mum is ;-)) My mum and dad been divorced for years and my mum has brought me up alone since I was 4 so thought it was right if she gave me away.

I am still in contact with my dad but don't see him regularly and not especially close - although he is coming to the wedding and I haven't told him yet my mum's giving me away!! Seeing him tomorrow so will broach the subjec then me thinks!

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I am getting given away by my father.

But my best friend who is getting married in sept is having her Uncle. She still has her Mum and Dad here, but for many different reasons she chose her Uncle.

If i had not seen my Dad for so many years and was not inviting him to the wedding, i would probably choose my brother.

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My parents are still married and Dad is giving me away. I was considering having both my Mum and Dad give me away as I wanted to include my Mum as I think sometimes the MOTB can be forgotten a little bit as the attention is always on the FOTB (giving away, speech, father/daughter dance etc) however when I mentioned it I could tell by my Dads face that he felt a little bit put out as he's a traditionalist x

Why don't you get your mum to do the traditional 'father' of the bride speech, at least she can have a limelight opportunity and get to embarrass you as every parent should!

It's also quite common for the mum's of the bride and groom to witness the register, at least they can play a big part there too.

My brother is giving me away because my dad died when I was ten. He is quite shy and hates emotional occasions of any kind, but as I'm having my sisters as bridesmaids and my niece as flowergirl, I think it's a great way of involving him in our wedding. When I saw him a few weeks ago, he said "Well, what do you want me to do then?" in a really unenthusiastic way, but big sister said she was talking to him about it the other day and he said he was actually really chuffed to be asked. ?

Yes, Cosmo87, I am also being given away by someone other than my dad, and even more of a departure from tradition, he is not even a member of the family! My best male friend from childhood is giving me away. My parents divorced when I was 10 and even though I speak to my Dad weekly on the phone (my parents live abroad), he doesn't even acknowledge my H2B, never asks about him and even addresses Xmas cards only to me. It's nothing personal, it's just no one is good enough for his daughter and had he had his way, I would have never got married. So at the moment he doesn't even KNOW about the wedding!

PS: My Mum gave me away at my first wedding, in 1995 when I was 22. I got married in Church then and Mum received a special permission / dispensation from the vicar to give me away (don't know why she needed one!). But this time she herself said that if we were going to have a "proper" wedding, with speeches, bridesmaids, morning suits etc, i might as well do the traditional thing and have a man walk me down the aisle lol. At this point I should explain that my first wedding was totally organised by my ex's mother, I even received an invitation to my own wedding! OK, true, she had to organise it quite quickly because the Home Office at the time had only given me a window of 6 months to get married - and no, I was NOT a mail bride lol - and because she assumed I wouldn't know about British wedding customs etc (she was wrong btw) she didn't even ask me about it, she bought me silk flowers when I would have preferred natural etc and worst of all, pushed my Mum out of the way and made the "Father of the bride" speech herself (reception was at her home). Mum was in tears because she had learnt more English, she had spent time preparing a little speech in English and my ex's mum just assumed she didn't speak english well enough and literally elbowed Mum out of the way. Needless to say, this time, at 37, i am giddy as a kid organising everything, involving mum as much as i can, and she will make a speech too!

If the aisle is big enough, have them both. I also like the idea of your mum doing the speech.

My Mum is giving me away (dad died when I was only tiny). If you want your Mum and Uncle to give you away then do it! Just make sure the aisle is wide enough for three of you! Do things that will make YOU happy. Pah to tradition!! x