Anyone else engaged but not co-habiting?

I love the way that mums have this idea that they know exactly what their boys are thinking...! I suppose I would be like that with my kids too.

We have been engaged since December 2011, marrying next March, and we're not moving in together til after the wedding! Oh, and we're moving in with our friends because we don't have the money for our own place yet. Hurry up wedding!!

Mums, eh?! Though, she seems much sweeter than mine So, we're not the only ones. Cool! It's very exciting, so much to look forward to

Myself and my fiance don't currently live together, though we will be moving in together when we fly home next year. The only reason we don't live together right now is finances and circumstances. He lives with his mom, and I still live with my ex lol.

Roll on February!!

I couldn't/wouldn't do that.... the first 6 months of moving in with OH were the most rocky of our 4 year relationship we nearly didn't make it...But don't let me put you off what works for some doesn't work for others.

Got to agree with you there funky, I think you learn an awful lot about someone when you live with them. Like you say though it's not the same for everyone and I would never judge anyone who hadn't lived together before getting married.

Me and the OH's original plan was to live at home until we could afford a house together...we have been together nearly 6 years and a few of those years have been spent either working or going to university in different cities hence not living together...we didn't want to rent as for us we feel its wasted money so after university we both went back to live at our separate parents houses (obviously seeing each other a lot and able to stay over etc) there wasn't really the room to live together but at a parents .... we have decided to both live at my mums house until after the wedding, its a tad squished but we pay barely anything to live there and it means we can save so much more for our deposit. just before the wedding we will have our deposit and fingers crossed we will find the right place.

I don't think you 'have' to live together before marriage but i think you need to have spent considerable amounts of time together e.g not just a random date here and there. I think holidays give you a good indicator. I would say the only difference that it has made to our relationship is that we are a bit more comfortable around each other and we go to bed and wake up together every night rather than a few times a week. x

We are waiting until we get married before we move in together........main reason being is that we are Christian and are abstaining.....would be too hard living in the same house! If he needs to stay over at the moment then he sleeps in the spare room.

Thankfully only a couple of weeks left to go.

Hi SO2B, We to are committed Christians and aren't living together until we are married. It s not easy but we know it is the right thing to do. Thought I d encourage you along! Indeed thankful only a few weeks left!!?

Ah, you lovely ladies are crazy but I really hope it's everything you dream of and worth the wait. Enjoy!!!

I agree too! We actually split up as we drove eachother mad not long after moving in together... the split didn't last long and we're obviously back together + things are better than ever.

After my experience I would never marry someoe without living with them first as it's true, you learn a lot about the other person when you move in together!

Another couple of Christians here! We lived together, more due to necessity than choice, but I wont bore you with the long story! Seperate bedrooms though, it was tough at times. It was lovely our wedding night to finally be able to sleep in the same bed, made it very special for us.

Hope the weddings go well and the moving in together is fun!

We didnt live together until we were married, and I have to say 5 months in we had a few weeks where i thought I wanted to go back to my Mam & Dads, but in all honesty right now I really couldnt be happier *fluff*

We met in May 2006, he went away to uni for 4 years, and then we finally started living together last July. We got engaged in 2009, so that's 2 years.. We made it work!

I love that about life - we're all so different

Funnily enough, couples never used to cohabit first and divorce rates were much lower then, there's a big school of thought that says there's a correlation but, who knows? Stats can tell you everything you want them to

For my part I had 16 years of monogamous relationshipping under my belt when I met Andy, I'm more than happy I've met my One. I'm desperate to live with him because I miss him the nights we are apart (he works shifts) but I'm not the least bit worried about living together changing things. We already share housework, washing and I mostly manage to successfully leave the cooking to him, so it's working out well!!

I'd been with my OH just over a year when I moved into his. 8 months later I was back living with my folks. Haha! But the break did us good & he realised he couldn't be without me. He sorted his head out & I set boundaries & stuck up for my values. All ended well.

I'm moving back in end of this month. I'm abit nervous about it due to what happened before, but we will start looking for a place to rent together after the wedding so we will have something thats ours.

I have never cohabited without being at least engaged first. First marriage, he moved in with me the week after we got engaged. This time we wanted to buy a house together and move in when married, but you can't really time house sales and moves to perfection. We were originally getting married in March, and the sale all went through in the previous October. As it happened we had to delay the wedding, but the intention was definitely there - make our commitment first, then move in. And yes, I'm just a traditionalist I suppose. And yes, even though we're older, we would never dream of trying for children before being married.

My H and I had a baby and were planning a wedding before we lived together. We moved in together when our son was about 7 weeks old, and got married 3 months later.

I then left him less than 2 months later, for 3 months. For us, living together for longer would have been the best idea.

I've been engaged two months now and we don't live together. We're desperately trying to save to move out but we don't want to rent so it's going to take us a long time to get a deposit together. The plan is too get settled in a house first before we start planning a wedding.

As we met at uni and lived in the same halls, H and I technically lived together before we met.

We're not currently cohabiting, did for 3 years then had to separate (not split up) due to necessity: I did my masters and had to move back in with parents to be able to afford it and currently we are saving up to buy, but are facing the prospect of having jobs in cities 100 miles apart due to my specialism ☹️ It will a big commitment for us both to travel to see each other but its MORE than worth it. We've faced a lot in the past 6 years together and have only come out of it all stronger ?
OP we were cohabiting when he proposed and had been for 2 1/2 years currently been non cohabiting for 14 months and engaged for 20 months.

I personally would never get married to someone I have not lived with before. OH and me moving in together was actually a first for me, never lived with anyone else before. The one exception being a period of 12 weeks with my ex (it was limited to 12 weeks right from the start) - about a week in we were close to killing each other, it was horrible. Admittedly that relationship back then wasn't really right on may levels anyway, but it was an eye-opening experience for me. OH and I living together however feels like a proper home and has right from the start, can't imagine being without him anymore. This is just another level that shows me he is the right one...

Thanks Pork chop (!) I know it will be worth it and thanks for your encouragement x x

By the time i move in with my OH we will have been engaged for just over a year and a half, and then we will be engaged and living together for 2 years before we marry

We did it the traditional way!

He was in the army and left just before the wedding so we actually lived in seperate countries until 2 days before the wedding!

We got married and moved in to our first house together 5 days later ?

I agree with all of this! Everyone is different and clearly it is right for some people but I could never do it! Plus we didn't have much choice, as we met as housemates so were living together from when we first met!! x