Anyone else have trouble with RSVPs?!

I'm pretty sure RSVP's are on the top 10 list of all things hated about wedding planning.

I think that a lot of the people who haven't RSVP'd will expect that you know they're coming and assume they don't need to send one - we've had that a lot. I've received no RSVP's from our families as they just know we know they're coming. This is fine - the only annoying this is that I need to ring them on my date (this Friday) to confirm their meal choices.

I think sometimes it's always good to give people a few different options to RSVP, instead of just sending a card back.

We had a wedding website they could use and also gave our email/phone numbers for a quick message RSVP. We never issued any RSVP cards.

I'm sure it would be easy remedied by giving everyone you're awaiting on a quick ring or text just to double check on your RSVP dates - I'm gonna do that.

Thank you! I've messages round those outstanding & everyone is coming. Phew!!!!

To be honest, I wouldnt send back a card... even now im planning mine I find them a waste and I certainly wouldnt bother if I had to go out and buy stamps for it, however people should reply in some form to let you know they're coming

I fully agree with the annoying time frame dilema though...

WHY dont people just reply as soon a possible?

WHY leave it and forget?

and there is no winning, 2 months is too long and they forget but 2 weeks could be too short to book things apparently (I call bollox on that though - booking something should only take a few days max. but hey ho my promptness is apparently 'strange' according to my friends)

I think you need to take texts/emails etc... that say yes as a definate yes, being on paper doesnt change that and then chase up everyone else who hasnt bothered to reply (or your other option is dont chase them up and if they show up they dont have a meal or a space for being rude enough not to reply)

We are four weeks past our deadline and the last two have JUST replied, after a hell of a lot of facebook prodding. They had til yesterday and I was honestly going to revoke the invite. It was my first and hopefully last bridezilla moment.

Morons ?

just yes or no, that's all. it's not hard! BAH

I'm dreading this as we are giving people a choice of starter, main and dessert (we have some vey fussy eaters coming)! We'll need the cards back so that we know what food choices they want. My friend included a second class stamp on all of her RSVP invitations. I'm considering this as I have been guilty of not sending something as quickly as I should when I need to go out and buy a stamp. I think that the sheer rudeness of not RSVP'ing will really wind me up! X

We are in the same situation - we are forking out for three choices for each course because of fussy eaters, so need to know not only if folk are coming but what they want to eat.... I've tried to make it as easy as possible by designing a 'tick box' RSVP slip which I've stuck into the supplied RSVP card... and I've addressed the envelopes AND I'll probably put a stamp on the ones I post.... and I bet we will STILL have to chase some up!!

Oh yes, definitely. We are forking out an extra £500 to give food choices and OH's dad is still moaning! Grr! I hope you get them back soon x

The first of our invites went out at the beginning of June (they've all now been given out) I have seen quite a few people more than once since giving them their invite and still not had their RSVPs!! I think I'm too organised though, I always send them back straight away that I expect the same of everyone else!

So frustrating!! Grrrr!x

Yep had exactly the same problem. We have a wedding website so it's SOOO easy for people to reply. They don't have to buy a stamp, don't have to write a card. Literally just go on the website, click on what they want to eat and send. Takes two minutes.

Had to chase loads of people up after the deadline came and went but that wasn't the worst thing. I think people don't feel that they have to RSVP. An example was my uncle who said "why do I have to RSVP you know I'm going to be there!"

More annoyingly, a number of people just decided to add plus ones even if we didn't give them any. I don't know if people are just being thick or downright rude but we made it very clear in the invitations we sent out that only one person was invited. It's happened several times now! Then you have to have the awkward conversation saying they're not invited and a couple of extras have wormed their way onto the guest list!

GRR!