anyone else nervous about vows?!

Nope but only because we have to stand in THE SMALLEST GAZEBO IN THE WORLD!!!! We have to fit the registrar, OH, me and my dress in the stupid thing so I don't really think any of the guests will be able to hear us!

On the day just look at your OH and you'll be fine.

Your words are similar to ours and absolutely beautiful. Try not to over think it - they are all there to hear you say them. It's whats between you and OH that matters and i'm sure that's all you'll think about on day.

Aww......

Those words are beautiful.... if that how you feel and you mean the words then say them, your family will be touched im sure!

BUT like you i am sh!tt!ng my self!! Im having a church wedding but the thought of speaking infront of everyone, walking in infront of everyone and first dance is scaring the life out of me... may need a Vodka and coke for dutch courage!x

I thnk that on the day youn will forget anyone else is there at them bits!! I know i'll be nervous about them as well, but i dont mind attention!

Thanks - i love those vows! really do mean them, but might be more meaningful said in private? but at the same time feels so much more solemn and real in front of every1! and thats what marriage is about right?? proclaiming love and commitment to the world??

am considering either canceling the vows or first dance. both OH and i are quite shy, and would be quite weirded out in front of all the oldies.xx

My thoughts exactly!!!! My OH wants us to make our own but i too am terrified of c*cking them up or crying. The things we do for love eh?!!!

My oh , has a stutter and it gets worse when hes nervous, he says he wants to do the vows , but im a bit worried for him lol, might have to see how he feels a bit closer to the time, i know he has a copy of them and he has been practising them to see if that helps , bless him

Yep im nervous as well and I tend to laugh when I'm nervous and it's always at a really inappropriate moment!

Your vows are lovely, do what you feel most comfortable with. We're not having a first dance as we dont like the whole attention thing, but in my opinion, I would keep the vows. We dont express ourselves to each other very often and I think if we didnt do the formal vows bit we would always regret that chance to tell each other how we really feel - we know deep down but it's nice to hear it and also to say it. just my opinion, like I said, you should do whatever you feel comfortable with x

I'm so nervous I'm either gonna get the giggles or cry!!! O/H said he's rather I cry ;-))

I get the giggles big time if I'm in a quiet place - like hysterical laughter!!!! Got them when I was on Jury Service in the deliberating room and couldn't stop - soooo embarassing!

But then when we were choosing our readings, as I read them out, kept crying ;-))

Just making sure I get lash extensions rather than mascara so I'm covered either way lol

x

Aliaisp, the vows are beautiful. If you can, I really would suggest you keep them. Your focus will be on each other and I'm sure at the time, you won't even notice the people around you.

I'll share a bit of an embarrassing incident with you. I went to try on my lovely dress this morning so I could be measured in ordered to put down my deposit. I was so happy on the way home, a huge beaming smile on my face. As I got off the tube to walk home, I started thinking about being in the dress and walking in to the Church. I envisaged walking in and turning to walk down the aisle towards my fiancé and walking towards him. I promptly burst in to tears in the street because the thought of it made me so emotional! I managed to contain myself but had tears dripping down my face all the way home! What a plonker I am!

As I got in the door, my phone rang. It was my fiancé to say he wanted to hear my voice as he'd just ben thinking about our ceremony and couldn't wait to see my walking down the aisle towards him. Ahhh. Spooky timing as he didn't even know I was going to try on the frock!

It goes to show, the most important thing is the two of you and the promises you make to each other.

Lord, my eyes filled with tears as I read your vows so no doubt you will get choked up on the day! But....I really think like CricketBride says, keep them if you can. I have no doubt I will ball like a baby on the day (and I get very blotchy all over my face when I do, nice.) But I wouldn't want to change something as important as the vows to avoid that.

Like you say, they're beautiful, they describe how you feel about the man you are marrying, and you don't need to say them really loudly, but I think you might regret it if you don't say them to each other x

p.s. my friend is a bit of a crier like me espec in these emotional situations and bizarrely on her wedding day she was super calm and didn't cry at all which was a shock. So you never know. I'm pretty sure I'll be a wreck though!!

awww cricket that is a lovely story! really made me smile! haha yes must have been pretty embarrassing but how lovely to feel that depth of emotion - and the spooky connection between u and OH.

you're right, it is about us two, and every time i read the vows i get goosebumps and go all teary. i am pretty shy but with a bit of practice might be ok! will see as i get closer to the day... xx