Anyone else not having a honeymoon?

We weren't planning anything spectacular either simply due to, like you, the cost of having the wedding in the first place

What we are probably going to do is an extra night or two at the hotel where we got married, then back to the family 'holiday caravan' on the south coast for a week before back to the grind.

I think a lot of it is circumstances - if you've been living together for a while then in all honesty "nothing changes except a surname" in practical terms; of course if you've not been then probably it does take a while to get used to things like sharing a bed, stressing over your partner squeezing the toothpaste in the wrong place etc.

It's probably good to have that break because a lot of people do seem to report "crashing to earth with a big bang" after all the buildup to the wedding, and it's nice to be able to bask in the afterglow and enjoy yourself and some time together when probably for the last month or so the bride has been stressing over all the last minute preparations, off for lots of dress fittings, hair appointments and suchlike and as a couple you might not have had much time for "each other" (with your complication of 3 children probably even less than normal!) Also, it's useful to have some time to be able to concentrate on changing your name with banks etc too.

We had thought of a 'first anniversary honeymoon' kinda thing - somewhere warm and sunny perhaps - but unless the lottery comes up with more than a tenner, it's most likely we won't do anything spectacular after the wedding.

I think a lot of people who ask about honeymoons are probably single people, or people that have been married 20 odd years, that don't understand that most weddings these days cost upwards of £25,000 before adding a honeymoon on top of that. Those that have recently got married understand

We weren't going to do a honeymoon as we thought the cash would be better spent on the house (which we don't have yet!), but due to OH going away for 6 months after the wedding it's been decided we need the time together - i'll hopefully take 2 months unpaid leave from just before the wedding to the point where he goes away.

I think if it was a choice between a fab day or making sacrifises on the day and having the honeymoon i'd take the fab day! That said, just because your at home doesn't mean you can't have some "you" time! Perhaps someone could have the kids for a night? You could make food in advance and treat yourselves to a few takeouts and avoid housework / washing etc for a few days and it could be a "honeymoon at home" - you could go the whole hog and have romantic candlelit dinners once the baba's are in bed and give each other a massage etc.. (If thats your kinda thing)

Hi

we wernt going to have a honeymoon because we are putting out flat up for sale and money is very tight but we have decided to go to haven for 7 days in a nice caravan. only costing us £228 for the 7 days and we know our daughter will love it. im realy excited about going.possibly more excited than the wedding cos im now getting ver nervous!

haven have a 50% sale on for next spring and autumn bookings. end in a week i think

claire xxx

We're not having one either.

We're living with my mum at the moment and plan to move out asap after the wedding so i couldn't imagine spending 2-3k on a holiday when that would be good chunk of moving out money.

We'll possibly go away somewhere nice for our 1st anniversary and have a belated honeymoon.

We are only goin to somewhere like Butlins i think, and takin our 2 young sons with us neither of us are really bothered about goin abroad anywhere it will be a much better holiday goin as a family somewher where the kids will have a good time

We weren't going to have a honeymoon either just because of the cost of the wedding, we thought about just taking 1-2 weeks off afterwards and spending sometime at home together. Also we are looking at saving after the wedding for a house we just thought it would be too much to do honeymoon as well.

OH has however said about just going away for a week after the wedding as he has seen some cheap deals to the lake district so now we might just go somehwhere in the uk. But we are still undecided. Will probably depend how much we spend on the wedding.

Another idea we had was to get guest to pay towards honeymoon as a wedding present instead of gifts

We are in the same boat..three kids and little money. I have joined something called Groupon..My city deal. Every day you get emails for weekends away/spa deals etc linked to the city nearest you,mostly with at least 50% off.

You have 24 hours to buy each deal and you have three months to use it. Anyway i am hoping to get a cheap weekend away from this for after our wedding.

Doesn't look like we are going anywhere either. Just don't think the budget will stretch so will probably stay a night or two in a Hotel if we can afford it and then hopefully try and save up for a holiday the following year. Of course it would have been lovely to go away but we are off to Tobago for two weeks in spring. It's a friends wedding and we can't wriggle out of it so we are looking upon that as a sort of pre wedding honeymoon.

Oooh that's a good deal Skybright. Thanks for the tip!

I've been looking on Expedia and there are some fantastic deals for flights and hotels to Italy. That would be my dream honeymoon. You can get it for as little as £264 per person, flights, hotels and taxes included. Tempting. Of course we'd need spending money on top of that though. Aargh! I dunno. I'd love to have a honeymoon and I had an amazing week in Italy a few years ago, which I'd love to do again. Will have to see what h2b says. I'm sure one set of parents would be ok to have the kids for a week..... I hope!

I had my honeymoon 10 months after I got married the first time as we bought our first house so couldn't afford it. I even spent the first 2 weeks living with my In-Laws until the house was ready!

We don't have a honeymoon planned. At the moment it looks like my OH will probably be off work for the rest of the month after the wedding depending on when his contract finishes. I am a stay at home mum so I guess we will get some quality tome together at home rather than going away. Having said that he still has plenty of work things to do when he isn't on a contract so I'm sure he will spend some of the time working. We are going to save I think for a holiday sometime next year rather than a honeymoon now.

We're in the same situation, paying for the wedding its self and a nice tax bill at the end of Jan we just wont have the money. Also having two small children it would be difficult. So we've decided, we'll (hopefully) go away for a few days after the wedding maybe to the Lake District in a Log Cabin and then have our family holiday to Turkey in June! Wouldn't want the kids missing out.

We are hoping that our guests will be generous on the giving front as we are asking for contributions towards our honeymoon as we have lived together for years and saving up a deposit in the hope that i will be well enough to go back to work next year and thus enable us to get a mortgage. So we are going to have a couple of nights in a hotel and then book a honeymoon for the september (doing a late deal) using the money we get given and then topping up what we can...... have no idea where we will end up

I'm a little different in my response - for us, a honeymoon was an absoloute must. In fact our budget was always going to be weighted heavier towards the honeymoon! We're travel fanatics so it was very important to us.

Our original plan was to leave on the Sunday after the wedding but as this was my parents ruby wedding and we had a big family lunch, we flew on the Monday and stayed an extra night in Bristol.

What I will say is if you can go ANYWHERE - even stay 1 or more nights extra in the hotel you are getting married in, or wherever you are. We lived together for 7 years before getting married but there is still a difference to how you feel - certainly initially. Your wedding day is a whirlwind of emotions and coming back down to earth is tough after a honeymoon let alone right after the wedding.

Thats what we are doing! Only we are going to the travel agents on the Monday after the wedding to get a deal to who knows where!! lol

Makes it a bit more exciting I think, as Im not that fussed about going to some far flung land, as long as I have my new hubby with and its a lwarm then Im happy xx

We are still unsure as we had to use our honeymoon savings for something else in an energency. But if we dont i will definately have a day or two in a cheap hotel maybe just to spend time together. Even just a week to ourselves in the house with some nice food and films.

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We are going to have a mini moon straight away and our 'proper' honeymoon a few months later to tie in with where we want to go.

If we couldn't afford to do this I'd definitely be booking something even if it were just a tent in a field somewhere to give us some time together to reflect on the promises we've made. I think it's so important. It doesn't have to be expensive, just be about the two of you.

What a wonderful way of putting it. Something that so many people seem to overlook - it's not the cost of anything on the "big day" - its the meaning.

As for 'explaining to people' why you aren't spending 3 months touring Africa or the Carribean... why should we have to, any more than why we "explain" why you chose a purple dress, flat shoes instead of heels or a Bentley instead of a Daimlet. Whose day is it, after all???

We're not having one for a few reasons, mainly the cost of it all, but also we are trying to buy a bigger house so think the money is better put towards that, and also we have two new baby rats as a wedding present (random lol) and don't want to leave them awwww!

We both have the week of work after the wedding though as couldn't bear going straight back! Might just have a night or two away somewhere and save for a holiday next year.

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We decided to have a honeymoon as soon as we started our planning. I have children from a previous relationship and me and my H2B have never spent a long period of time (ie more than a weekend) alone since we've been together. My children understand this and are fine with it and will be staying at my parent's house where they both have their own bedrooms.

Altogether, our wedding is costing about £14,000 and our honeymoon is about £3500 - so it's well below what the 'average' wedding costs anyway. We decided to go to Barbados as neither of us have been there before and we found it hard to find somewhere far away that would have nice weather at the time of year we wanted to go.

We would love to have a honeymoon but are putting it on the back burner for the moment. We haven't been on holiday for 3 years, which isn't long i know. But the difficulty we have is we have never been away on our own. Me and the OH would love a week away next year on our own but i would feel terribly guilty about my son not having a holiday.

My fantastic cousin has offered the free use of her apartment in Turkey next year so we would just have to pay for flights and spending money. Hopefully we will be able to do that and then go away just me and my OH.

I do agree with GB that you need to have a least one extra night in a hotel on your own after the wedding. But i also understand that when you have children that isn't always easy.

Hey date quad! Are our tickers all messed up?

Oh we are one day out!! ooops how has that happened?

We had a week in wales with my best friend as we had booked the holiday before the wedding. That was in April but but Aug I was at breaking point when we had 2 weeks in Scotland. I didn't so much come down with a bump but needed some chill out time with OH.

I hope that OH and I able to have a honeymoon, but would be happy to have a 'mini moon' and book a holiday later on if budget does not permit one straightaway. We like the idea of asking for vouchers towards a honeymoon instead of a wedding gift list as we have lived together for 4 years and have everything we need for our home. A friend of mind has just returned from her honeymoon exactly one year after her wedding! I agree with previous posts - I think it's important to have some sort of break after the wedding, even if it is a night or 2 somewhere, just to wind down from the hype and stress of all that planning and to chill out in each other's company!

We are using our wedding transport to take us round the UK for a week after the wedding. Ideally we'd have liked to go on a big slap up holiday but I can't justify spending a few grand on a holiday :/

Snap!! We're getting married on a Friday, so come Saturday morning we'll be heading straight to the travel agents to see where we can go ?

We're not having a honeymoon after the wedding as we do not want to leave our wee man..... so we're thinking of a cottage up north somewhere in the August to combine the school summer holidays and h2b's birthday. He loves taking photographs of scenery, and as we have never been past the midlands will be a fab adventure for us.... will try and find somewhere that has a day spa, so can leave the boys to their business and have a total pamper day lol

Other than that am just ecstatic that we are getting married.... ?

Sammy we are not having a honeymoon sam as you kids and finances but we felt a bit guilty that kids missed out over this year due to us having to tighten the belt so we decided to scrub saving for honeymoon and we saving a bit out of the wedding fund to do a few days as a family in Disneyland paris as a way of having a holiday and giving something to our 3 kids.

As for the break after marraige we having a night in hotel thats as romantic as it gets lol

We are just going to 'upgrade' or usual family holiday to something more luxurious and call it a honeymoon. But it will be a month after the wedding, which I like the idea of as it gives me two seperate things to look forward too.

Besides really we have to take the kids.

Though we will try and get a long weekend in somewhere, just the two of us. Maybe North Wales, I've never been there.