Anyone else not really fussed about a hen do?

Me. Never have been fussed.

I rarely drink alcohol, not the clubbing type, don't feel at all comfortable making my mates pay silly amounts for spas/abroad hens and I certainly can't afford to pay for them!

OH feels the same, so we're having a 'hag' the weekend before the wedding, close friends and family over to our house for an afternoon BBQ and drinks, job done.

Your ideas would suit me!

Personal I think this sounds reaaly nice as often older friends and relatives can get left on of hen nights due to the age difference.

I'm not at all fussed about having one, but my OH thinks i should as it will let people get to know each other, but the problem is the families and friends are spilit between Scotland and England so even a small one will inevitably cost and I sort of resent spending the money on something I'm not fuzzed about and think it be better spent on the wedding itself.

I'll be keeping an eye on this post in hope it will help me decided.

L x

If its what you want and you are organising do it! Sounds good to me, I'd go! And even if it wasn't my thing I'd go anyway as tis what you've chosen for your hen do.

Whats most important is that you have a good time, I think, and while you want others to have fun, there's nothing so outlandish there that would upset people!

The other option is to sday to some of those making suggestions for them to organise it, doesn't have to be a BM.

I organised one for a friend - we went away very low budget to a bunk house in Clumber park, went Friday came back sunday and played party games, ate cake, did treasurehunts, painted pots, had achocolate tasting and went to a little zoot ype place - all right up the Hen's street and everyone had a great time even though it wasn't 'traditional'.

I have no idea what mine will be - but again it'll be low cost and a weekend, and I know full well mt BM will have tricks up her sleeve to make it fantastic!

I am glad there is someone else like me - I thought I was the only one.

I have two bridesmaids - one is my sister who is doing her university finals the week after my hen do the other is someone who lives at the other end of the country and is not really up for organising it.

I therefore am organising mine myself. I am doing it on my birthday weekend so combining the two and I plan to just go for a meal and drinks. A lot of my guests are having to pay quite a lot to travel and stay at the wedding so I don't want them to have to fork out twice.

I am still looking forward to it though.

Me! I really wasn't fussed about a hen do.

I have booked a weekend away though for Me, my mam, my sis, MIL2b & SIL2b. They we happy to split the cost. We have booked a holiday cottage with hot tub for 3 nights. Just going to chill out, take some party games and have a little hot tub party with a few ?

I hate the idea of a traditional hen haven't set foot in a club for almost 10 yrs whaoch is amusing being as i'm only 26 lol.

I think your idea sounds grand. I also like the idea of a Murder mystery.

I'll probably have to organise my own (if I bother ?) and was thinking either afternoon tea to encorporate(sp) the olds or a pajama party.

what I'd love is something like paintballing but there would only be about 5ppl but maybe a joint 'hag' could be the solution ?

I'm not fussed either. In fact my perfect Hen Do would be me, my dog and a pile of books at a lovely hotel in the lakes, however I'm now having a whole weekend of frivolity and feel under pressure to entertain everyone. I'm tying to leave it to my BM and we should be finalising it tonight. I think what you are planning sounds great - it's enough to be sociable without going over the top.

I'm really looking forward my hen which my BMs are organising however I'm not fussed about fuss. I was absolutely clear that I didn't want there to be much in the way of expense for the girls coming as I think hens/stags can be a huge financial burden these days especially when guests are already spending money to come to the wedding itself. I think mine will be a similar format and I think that will be fabulous! What is it all about after all? Spending time with your best girls to get a good send off into married life.

I also love the idea of the hag...maybe the name just amuses me though!!

I wasnt either but then my friend had hers and it was awesome! we all had such a good time so I feel like I experienced it without the stress of being the hen. for mine we are having lunch at the dorchester, very civilised as i love a bit of tea

I think your ideas sound lovely, as it doesn't alienate anybody, as people can come to the bits that they want to. I was never fussed about a traditional girly night out/weekend away but that was mainly because I only really have male friends! So me and OH decided to do a joint weekend away, which will also include being away for his 30th too, so we're killing 3 birds with 1 stone! It's not traditional, and we have had a few people getting annoyed (mainly the best man!) but we're doing what we want to.

Your idea is brill, go with it!

I personally LOVE your idea of a hen do - this is exactly what I want for mine but (un)fortunately I have bridesmaids with other ideas and they want me to have something bigger...all I hear from them is 'we'll take your wishes into consideration but we cant promise anything' - so I think you're very lucky to be able to plan your own and think you should go full steam ahead with your plans!!

I'd say that my hen do is a mix of the two ideas. Its gunna be a weekend away with nightclubs and meals out, but theres only going to be five of us. I didn't want to have to extertain people I'm not that close to, and ensure everyone gets on. I want a break with my favourite girls where we can all have fun and be ourselves and celebrate!

I think your idea sounds lovely. If thats what you want, then you should have it. Its your hen do so you can do whatever you want!! ?

I wasn't really that fussed about having one and just had a meal and some drinks with some work colleagues that I get on really well with. My MOH basically saw it as a chance to have a night out that she wanted so I said no.

If you're arranging it then have what you want and if your friends and family really care about you, they'll do what you want because it's your night. Personally I like your idea and if people don't then they have a choice whether to go or not. You seem to have chosen something tha everyone will love so I say go for it.

If you want a friend to arange it, make sure you tell them exactly what you want and don't want and then they will know what they can get away with. Also make sure they are aware that no everyone has the money to do something expensive and extreme.

Hope that helps and god luck