Anyone else wish people would think first?

This is a good idea! I do wish some people knew how to keep quiet!

My 'favs' were:

He doesn't like your food choices, can he have a burger and chips?

We've been talking and we have decided your veil doesn't suit your dress

Your dress looks so nice bustled, you shouldn't have a different dress for the evening

Can you invite... well can the be on the top of the reserve list?

This is a great idea.

Mine were:

Your venue is too fancy. You know we aren't fancy people.

Why can't you be normal and have it at a registry office and then go to the pub.

I don't like what you are doing for your wedding. It's too snobby.

You know it's not a Disney movie and a wrestling thing right?

She doesn't like the food choice can they make her this...

Why have you brought a funeral figure for your cake.

You need to lose more weight before your wedding, or you're gonna look fat in your dress.

Why are you having them involved in the wedding. They're not your real brother and sister. They're just your steps.

I know it's your wedding but...

I know you don't like her but she should be at the wedding more than your Stepmum. Your Stepmum isn't even blood related.

Why are you paying so much money for it. It might not even last.

I think your dress is like a fancy dress for children.

I don't understand why you are having this big wedding. Your not a princess and you're not anything special.

And then my favourite one. I know it's not about the wedding but the say after I got this from my mum:

I know it's personal but are you a woman now.

Haha I don't have a list of exact quotes but yes, people are annoying!

The relative who assumes his soon to be step children are invited even though you specifically left them off the invitation

The FMIL who sends "complaints" via the groom -tell me to my face woman! I want you to be involved but you need to talk to me dammit!

People arguing about dress code without actually asking you what it is

Well you'll have to pick such and such as no one will eat anything else

Can we just invite ....?

If I'd have know it was this stressful I'd have insisted harder on eloping!

Um wow! There isn't much you can respond with to that one...!

Wow! Weddings certainly bring out the crazy in family's!

MOH who isn't into weddings - "I don't see why the 2 of you can't go away and get married quietly and leave us all be, your very mean"

"I don't see why I need to hold your dress or flowers?! I am not your flower b***h!" Said while singing the registry and tryin g not to giggle

"I wonder if anyone will believe the white dress after 12 years of being together" On the way to the church

My unmarried older (by 8 years) sister consistently wanted to look very bridal even trying to get the hair dresser to use my hair accessories on her in the morning.

My brother had a mini tantrum because I didn't give him a plus 1 so he could invite his best friend even through I invited his gf and there 10 kids.

Guests- "Why are your rings silver? (There white gold) we could of lent you the money if you were short"

Because I wasn't drinking as I was way to hot and because i dont smoke anymore (havent in 10 years) an old friend joked that I was hiding a bump under my big dress. Within an hour 3 guests asked my mum.

It's sort of reassuring to see others having similar things said to them :-)

Today's gem- why are you insisting on having bands, it's not like anyone else likes them... (my mum hates live music, but it's one of the things oh and I love to do together, live gigs).

Can't help but chime in on this thread, some of these are unbelievable! It would be comical if it wasn't so annoying!!! So far mine haven't been too bad apart from one bridesmaid:

"I refuse to be treated like a slave." [2 weeks after being asked to be a BM and she hasn't been asked to do a single thing yet. Also have zero intention of treating my BMs like slaves; they will barely be asked to do anything, and I'm paying for absolutely everything for them including an afternoon tea the day before and brunch the day after - hardly slavery is it!!!]

"Isn't a bridesmaid's job to just turn up and get drunk?" [I mean, to an extent, yes, but you know, support and excitement for the bride would also be fab!]

"Oh your colour scheme is mint? I don't look good in mint."

Good to know we've all been there

Mum: I think you are being a bit of a Bridezilla

Me: mum, do you know what a Bridezilla is?

Mum: It means organised doesn't it...?

Me: *facepalm*

Lol I love when people don't know what some words mean, my nan asked if I was having a naturist wedding... She meant naturalist and didn't understand why I was in stitches.

Hahah crazy! Hope you are able to laugh them off and see them as the crazy comments they are, your wedding sounds awesome

I'd just like to add how weird/annoying I find it when people ask how much it costs, or who's paying for our wedding. Like, Shall I just hand over my budget breakdown? And why the interest? Nosy people

When my brother got married last year my dad thought canapés were just the most ridiculous thing ever and asked if they could just have crisps and nuts instead...

When I mentioned marriage in front of my parents at a family meal my mum said well if it's not broken don't fix it...

This is great, I am only a few months into planning, but already heard some ridculious things.

"You can't have a BBQ at a wedding, thats just not normal" - Dad ?

"Who are you having for bridesmaids? I suppose you have sisters, aybe they should be your bridesmaids. If not, I want to be one!" - A friend ?

"You need to invite .... you went to their wedding"

I am sure there will be more in months to come!

Greatvthread!

wow think I've got off lightly so far! But I think that might be because we haven't involved anyone in it much!

Usually people are just horrified that I don't have bridesmaids.

Went to one of our friends wedding last weekend and our other friend was moaning to us that she hates that they asked for money instead of gifts... and then realised that's what we'd asked for! Awks

one of my colleagues asked me if I was going to grow my hair (it's aioulder length) as though a brides must have long hair. Also another colleague said I can't wear my hair down (I jeans it wavy like Caroline flack!)

Ooh I remember when I first tried dresses on and my nan said "Bloody hell, can't you just wear your May Queen dress?" when looking at the price tag. She then looked at the lady whose shop it was and said "You're on to a good thing aren't you here!? Just some material sewn together." I was mortified, it's a good thing she's in her 80s, so she seems to get away with it!

I love my nan, she says some of the best things.

She is totally right though, the cost of wedding dresses is extortionate!

Nan's are the absolute BEST! And they do totally get away with being cheeky as anything. My nan is sadly passed, but she sounds just like your nan. She loved a good moan - but she also loved a good party!

Oh I've been quite lucky. Can't recall any comments so far but it is early days. My mum pushed me into telling my bridesmaids because one was a very young family member and it would make her very happy. The only problem, she's now too excited and won't shut up haha. Her parents have over a year of this now

I'm sure there will be more nearer the time but I'm ready for them?

Haven't really had any myself. My mum wasn't very impressed at my idea of a tea length wedding dress, but once I tried it on and she realised I wasn't changing my mind, she was happy to pay for it and dropped her comments.

The only other one was again, my mum who wants me to invite 12 of her work friends, and when I said no chance, she said 'well then I want a table set aside for them with bottles of wine on the table' she has mentioned it a few more times, will be fun when we are finalising the guest list..

"I don't know why you're bothering, its a lot for one day"

" Its just an expensive piss up really isn't it" (well yes but that's not the point!)

"Its ok if I bring my mates right?" UMMM NO!

Glad to know I'm not the only one with the crazy friends/family! Favourites so far:

- At my birthday dinner in a restaurant - shouting across the table: Why did you not ask me to be one of your bridesmaids? (To which I replied, why wasn't I invited to your wedding? Even her husband said touche)

- You can't invite 110 guests, where are they going to sleep??

- Is the food going to be gross?

- Can you recommend a hairdresser on Street X? (by an overseas relative who doesn't seem to grasp that London is VAST)

- Step-FMIL also declared that we couldn't have an engagement longer than a year, and started contacting venues on our behalf for a June 2016 wedding, with the amount of guests she thought we should have and having decided we should just have a drinks reception and no wedding breakfast if we can't afford it.

I just got one today... a family friend came round to my fiancés parents house for dinner and the family friend asked if I was having bridesmaids... I said no, and then my fiances dad said 'can we draft in Sara and emma to be bridesmaids for you?' (These are my fiances cousins who live in Germany and I have met once!! ) why would you suggest that with a month to go before the wedding? the whole thing makes me really defensive. I don't understand why anyone would have bridesmaids they barely know just to have them?! Most of these things are said with love but make me feel like a loser!

She's not good at that, she's not got all of her original awareness left I'm afraid it's sad, it just comes with age, she's forgetful and doesn't really know what she's talking about any more. She keeps telling me that I have to get a move on because she won't be here forever....!

That same day she told me I looked like a duck, a childish ballerina and like I'd sheared off the bottom of one of the dresses. I apologised to the lady in the shop, she was fine about it, however she never did call when the ballerina length style of the dress I liked came in and I never did go back! (Bridges burned and all that.)

I have had a similar thing said, "Why can't B be your flower girl? F could be your page boy we'll buy their outfits if money's the problem."

I have seen the little girl once when she was a month old, the little boy is not a relation he's my cousin's ex girlfriend's son! I'm like that's not two children on my list, that's two children and four extra adults... Um.... No!

Can't wait till she finds out that my flower girl is my female GSD and my page boy is my male GSD but they're so darned cute, see.

V cute Metalbride!

My faves were:

'Oh we thought you'd go abroad & marry on your own' - from EVERYONE near the beginning of planning. Why, have we got something to be ashamed of?

'I don't really want to come in the car with you, what's the point? I'd rather drive myself there' - my dad.

'Thanks for the invite but we can't come as we might go away that weekend as it was our 25th wedding anniversary last year' - by OH's uncle that we were forced into inviting to look after nan so OH's dad could hit the drink early.

'If there's too many people I'll stand outside, I'm not interested in seeing you get married anyway'. OH's dad.

'Dietary requirements - real ale' - followed by 'I won't be eating so don't feed me, I'll be drinking at the bar' - also OH's dad.

The latest comment in my wedding planning:

"Everyone is entitled to a plus one!"

ah, hell no!! Not some random that isn't signiciant, unless you want to pay their way.

I had a friend who I invited with her ex who told me I will have a plus one by then, not... though. Um no, I'm not feeding a random stranger...

Hey Ladies,

I have felt so let down by my bridesmaids, we agreed right at the start that they would choose and pay for their own dresses as they are all very different, but that they would stick with my theme of dusky pink, well one managed to buy pink, then one bought black and white and one bought Royal blue, now say they haven't the time or money to change them, and one even denies agreeing to the pink!!

I know that it's not as important to them but I did think that they would support me, all very tense and stressful now which is so sad. I think it's going to end up with them just coming along as guests, and it's to late to ask anyone else now.

Thanks for the chance to rant ! Xx

Why on earth would they do that?! Especially when blush pink is THE colour right now, it's everywhere and very flattering to anyone. If they won't change them then just tell them they're guests now and not bridesmaids. I don't have any bridesmaids because I only want to have to rely on my fiancé and my family. In my experience friends can be flakey and things change over the course of a year or so while you're planning.

New to planning so not encountered anything major yet but I am expecting lots of comments from my mum. So far she' managed to contain herself to commenting on the day we've chosen. I was talking with her a few days after announcing we had chosen and booked our venue and she come's out with "your date? its a Sunday isn't it?" yes mum, "ohh people wont want to come if they are at work the next day" yes they will, they can either not get wasted and be able to go to work the next day, our venue has a finish time of midnight so it's not going to drag onto the early hours, or they can take a day off for the Monday.

If they care about us then they will make arrangements and they're got over 14months to do so!

If your wedding isn't too close have a look on a website such as ever pretty and get some dresses for them to wear that aren't mega expensive if it's really important to you that they're the dusky pink colour, or maybe just say the girl who bought pink can remain a BM. I was asked to buy my own dress for a friend's wedding I vetoed a lot as a)I would never wear it again and b)she kept picking ones that cost more than £200, which I see as very expensive. This is the problem when others pay for dresses.

I bought my BM dresses myself, it cost £60 for all four, minimal alterations needed which I can do myself anyway. That way I got what I wanted and no one was out of pocket, my mum said "they'll look like they're going to a funeral" (three metal heads and a goth lol). I was like "that'd be well rude mum, who shows that much boob at a funeral?!". Lol.

Good luck sorting it.

I have had this too! We were orignally thinking of a Thursday, as midweek is a heck of a lot cheaper, but we have since found a venue for a Sunday. Though talking to family and friends, we got the whole 'you can't get married on a thursday?'

As you say, the people tht really want to be there for you will make it!

I never thought I would have such a faff planning my wedding but, good god, has it opened some spectacular doors of stress, anger and illogical arguments. I even texted my fiance tonight saying, "I might give up soon". A mate suggested I leave my parents, my fiance and his parents in a room to sort it all and let me know what they've decided. it's tempting. Ironic given that I'd be happy with register office then pub (although I realise a meal is pretty critical cos a) people need to eat and b) we drink a lot and it would just end badly if we just drank. I do want to remember some of the day). So mine are,

"Why do you want your friends at the civil ceremony?"

"So you're saying we can't have a party with our mates on the same day as the civil ceremony?" "Yes"

"London is really hard to get to, people won't be able to get there" (WTAF?! Yes, they should really think about putting in some infrastructure and public transport for London shouldn't they?)

"You do know your friends don't really care about being there" (Erm, i'd like to think our close mates would want to spend the day with us but whatever....)

"You need to compromise (we already are), they need to compromise.." "So, no one gets what they want including us, the bride and groom?" "No, no one gets what they want" (sounds great....NOT)

There's probably loads more but I've probably blocked them from my memory to remain sane. We should be weeks away from confirming venues and it'll feel like winning the lottery when we do. A colleague and I caught up last week and we ended up just having a massive vent/therapy session about weddings and how families have just gone bonkers. Good luck to everyone out there! ?