Anyone finding having a new name strange?

You could go double barrelled, that's what I did x

It's a bit long winded double barrelling mine and OH not too fussed on me doing it

I thought i wouldnt care about losing my last name and taking his instead...as it gets closer to the wedding im getting more and more attached to it

Yeah, me!

I'm happy to take my OH's surname; it's what we've agreed as I want us to all have the same, and I don't want to double barrel, and she's very attached to it. But I've felt surprisingly sad about losing mine recently. After nearly 30 years it's going to take some getting used to!

I dont mind changing my name, but i'm complaining about signatures!

my current surname is very nice and flow-y and swirly. my new one will be all harsh letters! its rubbish, will take some serious practice to get something I can actually get used to doing!

I still find it a bit strange sometimes and l have nearly been married a year! Unfortunately due to our names being fairly similiar and quite long then we couldn't double barrel

Glad others are feeling the same. I'll be the only one in my family with a different surname!

I'm so excited about changing my name..

Just realised from b2b1 post that I'll be the only one in my family with a different surname! LOL

My Brother in Laws wife has just kept her maiden name. A few of my other friends have double barrelled theirs but I think if I did that it would sound weird. haha

Oh yes. I found it very strange to start with, I was a bit sad and my new(ish) name is 11 letters long and no one can spell it right! Haha. But I love that we're Mr and Mrs S and I wouldn't change that.

I kept mine as we felt it a bit old fashioned for me to take his name, could you not just keep yours?

I'm happy taking his surname. I'm very traditional and I like the idea of becoming part of his family history.

I will obviously be sad to lose my surname but it will always be there as my maiden name. It's not going away completely! :-)

My H is still getting used to his new name, but he was very happy to be taking it and said it felt like a new start for him. He kept his old surname as a middle name, as it's a name that works as both (like James, say), but I don't think he was sad at all to lose it.

me exactly! Before I was engaged to him and even for the first half of the almost 2 yr engagement, I was all "yeh one day I'll be a XXX and oooh when we're Mr & Mrs XXX". I have never particularly liked my surname albeit it is not that bad a name LOL! Now I feel so sad that after 29 years and a lot of memories of my surname, I'm no longer going to have that identity!!!

Im the last in line too so once I'm married off that's that for my Dads side. Never bothered me. Until I met OH and he really bought out the family values in me that I wasn't able to show before (long story) and now it saddens me.

Oh well, I cant wait for us to share his name. I'm old fashioned as well and HATE double barrelled names and don't agree with making up a new one or taking the womens (although yes, in some cases I get why that may happen) so we have our own little branch of the family tree sooooooooooooooon"

Some cases? So why not others?

Unless there is a mad reason like the man has a bad association to his surname, or its really ridiculous hehe, then the mans name should always be taken, in my opinion. H2B doesn't put his foot down often but it was said from the beginning that he also is under the belief that the lady takes he mans family name. Good job we agreed ey! Friends of ours double barrelled and its sounds hoofing hilarious together!!

Anyway, everyone has their own values/beliefs etc. A strong one of mine is, the lady takes the mans family name And I'm glad to be doing that.

But why? I don't understand this at all. Why don't you believe in free choice and equal rights?

You're not really making a lot of sense here in my opinion. Why should the woman take the man's surname? For what reason is this more 'right' than the man taking the woman's name?

I don't really get what you mean by 'bad association' and ridiculousness is surely a subjective idea.

I did take my husband's surname and was proud to do so, but he would have taken mine if we had decided to go down that route.

I am not getting into an argument over this. I/ME/MY, Miss B's opinion is, I love the tradition and ideology of the woman going into the mans family name. I know an engaged couple who are going to use a Game of Thrones surname as there 'new' name as neither will agree to take the others surname. That's up to them! I'd never do it, yet I'll never insult them over it, I personally cannot understand a woman not wanting her mans name, but each to their own.

and using equality in this, really gets my goat so I wont start.

End of.

Everyone has the right to choose what their name is going to be, whether that comes about by marriage or just because you want to change your name.

No one way is more right than the other and some people do have traditional views, that doesn't mean they don't believe in equal rights. That would be me by the way - anyone who knows me will tell you I am a massive believer in equal rights and will fight for them. However I am also a lover of tradition and I will be taking my OH's name when we get married and my dad will be giving me away. Believing in equal rights and tradition are not mutually exclusive.

Too late, you are already being insulting. It's one thing to say "I want to do X, it's the right choice for me" and another to say "I think everyone else should do X cos I believe it is the right thing". When you try to tell people what they 'should' do, and saying what they've done is not right and not understandable, you are insulting their choices and values. And I'm not the only one here whose H has taken their name, so I'm not just talking about me. I'm just the one that happens to be here right now to defend that choice.

If you don't want to get into an argument, don't make stupid misogynistic statements and put down what others have chosen. If you don't have a good defense for such sweeping declarations, don't post them in the first place. Simple.

YES! this.

Wow, you really do have a bee in your bonnet don't you. I've seen before you can be quite uptight but good grief. I have not insulted anyone, never would, and to be quite frank, you're being a little "stupid" to assume I am.

I have never "put down" anyones decisions, never "insulted" someone over their decisions, nor will I. I said previously, it is MY opinion and choice, each to their own.

Oh this is getting ridiculous.

I believe in equality, but I also believe a woman should take her husbands name in marriage.

If that insults you, that is your problem. I wont loose any sleep over it.

I think perhaps you are having problems articulating yourself clearly; the problem people are having is your use of the word 'should,' which implies that if someone doesn't do it it's wrong. As someone else said, it's about everyone having the choice to do what they want; for me that means being traditional and choosing to have my new husband's surname. But I won't do it because I should, I'll do it because it's my choice.

(As an aside; calling someone 'uptight' and 'stupid' is pretty insulting.)

So I'm not the one who wants to force people to do what I think is right with their names, I'm not the one who won't acknowledge free choice, I'm not the one who doesn't understand that her words and opinions denigrate and hurt others. But I'm the stupid one? Oooookay.

Here's a tip for the future: when someone says you're being insulting, it isn't your decision to say that you haven't insulted them. Respect for others' feelings will take you a long way in life. I'm sorry you haven't figured this out by now.

I wasn't keen on my maiden name (butt of many unfortunate jokes at school) and was therefore quite eager to change it, even though it is quite normal for women in my profession to keep their maiden names. I've got used to the new one after 3.5 years, but occasionally I do miss the old one!

I still feel uncomfortable about changing my name, and I'm not 100% convinced that I will. Fiance wants me too but isn't willing to change his or meet me halfway on this so I'll need to think about it. At the moment I'm going for maiden at work and double-barrelling out of work (and I don't care if people think that's stupid or sounds silly).

The joy of living in today's society is the ability to decide what is right for you surely?

This never bothered me before we got engaged, I always knew I'd take his name and didn't give it much thought, now though that the Wedding date is booked I do feel a wee bit sad. Not so much that I wouldn't take his name or anything but i do think its strange that I won't have my name anymore. One of my friends has already said she won't call me by my new name as it doesn't rhyme with any of the daft nicknames she calls me haha xxx

Oh dear MissbsoontobeV calling people 'stupid' & refusing to apologize when you've insulted them isn't the way to make friends.

Do you need to go on the naughty step for a time out until you can learn to play nicely?

Convenient. You won't engage with the argument about equality. That's pretty blinkered.

lose. This makes you seem "stupid" (see, using inverted commas doesn't take away the insult)