Anyone NOT changing surname?

Crumbs - this is a bit extreme!

I thought that too Gurzle! She said at the time he was really quite adamant about it, but I suppose 30 yrs ago it was the done thing and I think he took it as an insult!

I have considered not changing my name as I feel like I will be losing a bit of my identity and as my brother has his biological fathers name, my family surname stops with me so I feel bad for my dad. Plus a lot of people call me by my surname or variations on it. I'm coming round to the idea of changing now and am looking forward to being Mrs J but at the same time I am a little bit sad!

Ah I didn't read that properly - I thought it was one of your friends recently!

I have gone double barraled, but i would have just kept my name, been married over a year now and still only use my maiden name, it does not mean that i love my hubby any less, we got married because we love and made a major commitment to each other in the eyes of god and all our friends and family,

i found myself becoming upset at the thought of loosing my maiden name and my hubby understands that, its who i am and just cos we were married i did not feel i had to change it xxx

I'm not changing mine. Lots of reasons why. Work wise, I've been publishing under my name and couldn't change it at work. I would find it confusing to have one name at work and one name socially. I like my name and don't like his. I feel a lot of my identity is in my name and now that I'm in my 30s that's a lot of life lived under this name! And without going on about this it's a tradition I dislike and don't agree with - if OH would consider changing his then I might feel differently but that's not even up for discussion.

Well, for me personally, one of the biggest reasons I wanted us to get married was so that I could have the same surname as my children, who both have OH's surname. I absolutely hate my last name and can't wait to be rid of it!

My friend is the last in her family line and is keeping her maiden name, not as a double barrelled surname but as a middle name (so she won't actually use her maiden name any more, but it'll still be there)

I´m not planning on changing my name for a few reasons.

1. I have quite an unusual name which I really like and which I feel is part of my identity. If I had a more common surname perhaps I wouldn´t feel so attached to it. 2. My OH is Italian and taking his name just doesn´t "go", whilst double-barreling it would sound horrendous. 3. I´ve worked hard over the years at building up my career and my professional reputation and I think that changing my name wouldn´t be the smartest career move.

If we´re lucky enough to have kids though I would want them to have my OH´s name, which is a really nice name in itself.

I haven't changed mine. I have never felt that I should take his surname, tradition or not (in fact, to me, the word "tradition" usually translates as "outdated" and, in this case, "patriarchal"). He felt exactly the same, as I knew he would (he wouldn't have been the right person for me if he'd insisted otherwise). When we explained our decision to his parents, his Mum said she didn't see the point of us getting married, which, in honesty, is fairly insulting. My Mum said "Good girl!".

Our decision had nothing whatsoever to do with apparent glamour of either surname.

I guessed most reasons would be work related, which is totally understandable. We have so much confusion at work when people change names - our poor IT team just cant cope with changing the Email! lol. One woman who got married 2 years ago still introduces herself on the phone as "Sara Bowden was Robertson" even now!

I'm going for the double barrel. My surname isn't uncommon but I'd like to keep it as like others have said, it's part of my identity. My partner is happy with this and we have a young child together that will be double barrelled too but my partner is unsure about changing himself. But who know's what will happen with 5 months to go

I'll be changing mine...never crossed my mind that I wouldn't.

I'm changing my surname, but i'm taking my maiden name and making it a middle name so i'll be Mrs FirstName MaidenName NewSurname in total, but it won't be double barrelled.

I don't particularly like my surname so i'm more than happy to take my partners when we get married!

THat's ridiculous! I've seen emails on a matter one of our other solicitors is dealing with from "Smith (nee Jones), Sarah". Ridiculous.

I need to do the opposite for my work! Changing my name will be good for me. The firm I work in was set up by my future FIL, so the firm has his name. 2 of his sons work her (Mr B being one of them) and quite often, when old clients can't deal with Mr B Senior, they'll choose to deal with one of his sons, over me, despite me being more qualified than the younger son, because they think the name means something.

I'm going to have so much to change though, business card, website etc.

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any you know this because... ?

I think I checked when trying to decide ? I may be wrong though.

I haven't changed my name. We are planning on keeping our surnames but taking on each other's as well. Haven't done anything about it yet because we still haven't come to an agreement about which order they will be in - which could be important if we have children in the future.

I don't want to lose my surname completley because:

1) It holds a lot of sentimental value for me

2) All my qualifications are in my maiden name

3) Like Footlong I view the tradition of women losing their surname and taking on their husband's as somewhat outdated and patriarchal

Will be interesting to see how this thread pans out now KBS and AJ have gone.

That's bl00dy brilliant! ?

? I'm a bit crazy like that ha ha. I've been thinking though and I suspect I might be wrong, as my ex's brother and SiL both double barrelled their surname and i reckon that came to 16 letters <wonders off confused>

Can I ask a question for those double-barrelling names? What happens if your children wish to marry another person who also has a double-barrelled name? Do they quadruple it or does one of them HAVE to give in or do neither change? I wonder if this is making life more difficult in the future for them. I'm sitting on the fence really as I can see why it's done but I can't help wondering about the implications for our children.

WSS

I don't want to lose my surname as I love. My family are very important to me and I don't want to shrug off my identity. For work purposes. I need it to stay as it is so I'm not taking my husbands name professionally. However my OH has a lovely surname & I want us to be a family unit when kids come along so I will use his surname for my personal life (with my maiden name as my middle name). I'm not sure what to do about my current middle name. My OH fully supports me retaining my name in any way I want to luckily.

I'm not changing my name because it's much better than my OH's! He already has a double-barrelled name and I really don't want to triple-barrel it. God knows what our future children are going to be called...

I'm keeping my maiden name for work. I get instructed in my name, I grew up wanting to enter this profession with my name and it would feel wrong to me to be practising in another name. I will change my name at home though as I quite like the idea of separating work from home anyway and I would like our kids to share the same name as both of us. My parents are divorced and I hated teachers at parents evenings not knowing who my mum was because her name label was different to mine. It's a personal choice I guess.

H2B is taking my name, i don't want to change my surname and i was happy to keep seperate surnames, but he said he would like to take mines.

Read this just now and thought of this thread! Sorry its from the daily fail..

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-2069278/Queen-left-tears-Duke-Edinburghs-brutal-demand-name.html

This is true!! My current maiden name is double barrelled and 16 letters long. quite often (on credit cards etc) the last letter of my name is missing, and I alsways have to put the last letter outsde the last box!

Based on that, obviously triple barrelling isn't an option. I have never thought twice about changing my name officially so I have the same surname as any future children. I have been trying to decide what to do professionally (mostly everyone tells me to keep my name as they think it sound cool) but I think I have decided just to change it completely

In Caitlin Moran's latest book, she advises the following test of whether a situation is likely to require feminism-based intervention: ask yourself whether men ever have to deal with the situation, whether they expend time and effort worrying about it. If the answer us 'no', there's some sexist f*ckery going on.

(paraphrased by me)

Those who want to share a family name (which I understand as a reason to change), would all of your partners be prepared to change their names to yours? No? There's some sexist f*ckery going on

I'll be changing my name to Mrs R when I get married, but Mr R has said he'd like to take my name instead of me taking his, as he says he doesn't like his!! I've always imagined that I'd take my husbands name so we've agreed to be Mr and Mrs R.

I've only changed it on Facebook, nowhere "official".

I don't really want a different surname to my kids. H and I have a child together, and he has my maiden name, and i had to fight to get my eldests surname changed to mine, so I won't be changing theirs to Hs surname either.

This is fantastic! love it!! And it's what I said above - OH won't consider it so why should I? I'm so impressed Hummingbird at your OH. A friend and her now H had planned to do this but he shyed off when his mates laughed so hard at it. Could be another test!