Are the row's normal?

I don't know if it is normal, but me & h2b rowed the other week over my idea for invites, all because he failed to picture what I was describing and needed me to make a mock up! Silly really, I'm sure we are not the only ones though. I guess its all part of wanting every detail to be perfect and them not always understanding.

If it helps any, we too are giving our guests a choice of meal and our venue have actually said we need to put what everyone has chosen somewhere on the table as people forget what they ordered. We are going to type out what everyone is having on sticky labels and stick it inside the place cards.

Erm yes I would say they are completely normal!!

I can't tell you how many times our wedding got "cancelled" during the planning stages, especially the last few weeks when the pressure was really getting to us.

I think it was not helped by the fact that despite financial help from our parents we still paid for a third of our wedding ourselves. So we were working overtime, double shifts etc and hardly spending any time together so it was WW3 round our house.

?Though its all worth it in the end!?

Luv Victoria

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God I hope its normal becasue we have certainly had a few - infact just finished one about half an hour ago. It was over the invites - OH takes ages making really nice invites then goes and writes the names in a horrible thick black pen that doesn't go with the style of the invites at all and looks ugly and rushed ... does he stop to discuss it when I mention it, NO he carries on!!

Anyway you are not alone. Fingers crossed its just this week and things will get better for you both.

Cx

Thanks everyone for your tips, I will definately take those up.

You have all made me feel much better, I think our blokes would be happy with kegs of beer, the Wii and pizzas all round if we left the wedding planning to them?

Cheers all, Cat

Hi ya

Yes, it is totally normal to argue, i was divorced before I was married!!! ? I had a couple come to me this year because they couldn't agree on one single thing and I met them at a wedding fair. They looked so stressed out!! They came to talk to me about on the day co-ordination and in the end they booked me for partial planning because they were arguing ALL of the time. The silly thing was when I would make suggestions, they both agreed!

I think the most important thing whilst planning is to take time out. Arrange to go away for the weekend or even just go out for dinner (even if it's just Pizza Express or Nando's) or the cinema if cash is a bit tight. The main thing to do is a have a wedding free time. The wedding is a banned word and you need to remember what it's like to have fun together and remember why it is you are getting married.

Just be able to apologise when necessary and not build silly little arguements into massive rows. Weigh things up, look at what else is going on in the world and try and put your problem amongst them and all of a sudden, what you're canape menu isuse doesn't seem so challenging.

I'm sure everything will be fine and you will have a wonderful day!

Ruth

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Also, remember it is their wedding as well.

I would have to say no, but then we don't generally argue too much anyway.

As Claires said its not just the brides wedding! I wouldn't do anything without H2b seeing it and agreeing too.

Its a bit ? but we sort have Wednesday nights as 'Wedding night' - we make sure that we only talk about wedding stuff then and that way I have all week to research and narrow down my ideas so I don't send him every little thing (often something I think I like I look again and decide I don't!) and we can focus on it for an hour but its not taking over our lives.

Have to say I think it helps that most things we tend to agree on anyway.

I would say that they were normal really having heard lots of stories from people on here.

I was lucky, H was happy with my planning of the wedding that he didn't really question my choices so we didn't really fall out about any wedding related things. The main thing we rowed about in the lead up to the wedding was lack of money and H spending money on things that i didn't really see the need for. I think it was because we were saving like mad really.

Now that the wedding is over we're fine and we've not argued at all since, and we got married in August.

I'm very lucky in that hes left me to everythinggggggg.... and yes i'll wave things in his face and he'll go ooo thats nice and i'll double check hes happy with it and off i go.....

i dont think we have had a row over anything yet.... still, a lot could change in 7 months!