Are you having the wedding you REALLY want?

Do you know what, i dont even know!

There is nothing that i would absolutly LOVE that i cant have and i think if there was i would cut back in other areas if i felt that strongly about it.

A venue is what you make it i think - i have been to weddings in castles that were crap and ones in pubs that were brilliant.

Could you get a Lemar lookalike?!

Don't get me wrong I am REALLY happy with my choice, it would be horrible to get married somewhere you didnt feel comfortable and thats a good point atc about castle etc...

I think its more the spoilt little girl in me tehe...

x

Materialistically (sp?).................. No. when I first got engaged I was convinced I would be worried about all the little minor things.

But now, I would sacrifice my lovely venue and all the pretty things I'll be having at the drop of the hat if I could guarantee that my nan will be well enough to attend. At the moment she's doing well, and that is all that matters to me. It's taken something like that to make me realise I probably wont care about the favours or shoes or anything else on the day, but I'd be heartbroken if my nan wasn't there.

Sure I'd love to get married in a big castle and have Girls Aloud (?) play on the evening, but would I want to get into debt for it or expect my family to help fund it? No. It's only one day after all.

The only things I'm not having are fireworks (because the venue won't allow them and also coz we've run out of money!) and have also had to compromise on the service as I wanted a communion service but as Chris Parents are Roman Catolic and we are Church of Englnad it all got a bit difficult so now we're just having a normal service.

Other than that we're pretty much getting what we wanted with a lot of financial and practical help from our families which I will be eternally thankful for and over whelmed by!

Having been togther 8 year, we'd pretty much had our day planned. I'd say a week before we got engaged, we both knew exactly what we wanted and almost where we wanted it.

That's not at all what we've booked! In fact, I am completely the opposite - the wedding I'm having is to me, a dream wedding! We'd planned a very relaxed day, civil ceremony followed by a big party stytle reception in a nice country pub with a big hot buffet for all. It was all going to be cheap and stylish, relaxed and fun!

Now, we're having a fancy venue, 4 course sit down meal, champgane drinks reception, liquers after dinner, disco in the evening, string quartet to play during the ceremony and the drinks reception. It feels like i'm having the works!

One of the reasons we waited so long to get engaged as we wanted to be debt free so spent 2 years slogging away to pay them off and in a way, the money is available to us so we're spending a little. Not too much mind - I still think the cost of weddings is a bloody disgrace for one day and although i'm paying double what I said I wanted to, it's been our decision to do it. If we'd gone the other way and reigned in the spending a bit i'm sure we'd have had just as fabulous a day. Then again, there are a lot of things we're not having and not spending large amounts of money on so I do wonder how it could be done any cheaper... But that's another story.

Either way, i'm marrying the man I love!! ?

All great comments ladies...

Moonpig, I think your Nanny will make it to your wedding! Thats a very special post and sorry to hear she is poorly...

After reading this back, I know the most exciting thing will be a: walking down the aisle and b being told we are now husband and wife

Sometimes it is just so sad that you can't have everything you hope for to have on your wedding day due to lack of budget. but it is ok as long as you are happy and as well as your partner too. the most important thing is the awaited ceremony and the binding of two person as one! ??

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That is very true.. its people that make the day.. we looked at a posh venue in somerset but then my nan who is 86 wouldnt be able to go as tis too far to travel.. we're getting married locally and due to us living in greater london prices arent cheap ( you dont get the value for money that seems possible further afield. However, I would rather my nan be there than be in a fancy venue missing her.

Hope it all goes well for you moonpig25 xxx

We wanted to get married in the Caribbean in November but OHs mum wouldnt be able to travel as she has allness that means she can't fly too far. It was ideal for what we wanted and would have saved us sooo much money and hassle, but as she wouldn't be able to be there we are having a traditional wedding here. It's costing us a lot more but I think it's worth it tbh.

We could go all out and spend a fortune and put us in a lot of debt but to us that's not what it was about. So we are just having the thing we reeeeealy want rather than the 'would be nice to haves'

Ooh good thread!! (and also, congrats to all that won last night!!XXX)

When we got engaged I thought I'd have the perfect wedding, with whatever I wanted,

Somethings we have had to compromise on and somethings have gone our way. I really want fussed about a cake, or real flowers but my mind has been changed to keep others happy, little things still niggle me and I find it unfair how I have to invite family first then friends later (I sound like a heartless cow dont I?)

But I do have my perfect dress which I absolutely love (and can still wear unless Piglet decides theres a brother or sister in there with him/her) and my shoes.

And now that we have had to change things around - date, no honeymoon etc I'm starting to realise that its only 1 day! The only thing I REALLY want out of the day is to walk down the aisle to have OH waiting for me and we become Husband & Wife - I can quite honestly say that everything else isnt as important as Piglet, Him and me!

(but please remind me of this when I have only 3 weeks to go ? )

There are lots of things that would be far less stressful if I had all the money I wanted to play with instead, like everyone else on here no doubt, I've had to make comprimises so I get to have a live band play in the evening but can't also afford a harpist or string quartet playing after the ceremony during the drinks. Would also love to be able top pay for all bridesmaids & best men's clothes & accosorises (would have saved a lot of hassle!).

Still, as long as I get to marry the man I love in front of all my friends & family then its the perfect wedding for me!