August 2012 Brides

I have bought some bits at the weekend. Lots of sweets from coscto and just ordered my flowers. Still waiting for "the call" though for my dress.

Still waiting for my dress. I think it will be in around the end of may which will be 3 months to go which is ok.

Have sorted out our flowers this week, and am in the process of finishing off the order of service and invitations. I need to order the materials to make our table plan soon. I've ordered the headpieces for the bridesmaids and D has ordered some of the gifts this week, just need to decide on the rest now. Then a week on saturday we're seeing the people at the venue to finalise our menus and timings, seeing the photographer to take test shots and discuss what shots we want, and sorting out some decorations for the day as well.

I had a bit of a panic last week that there was loads left to do but there isn't really, it just feels like there is!

Just about there now I think, only a few more bits to buy and people to pay. Still need to get my OH suit and buy my dress, btu I want to wait ab it for my dress as I'd like to shift a bit of weight first.

Invites out (lots of Aussies so had to be out early), placecards written, little details bought, favours ready to be assembled, in fact I've nearly finished everything so it might be quicker to write what I haven't done!

Dress needs to be bought

Hubby's suit needs to be bought

Need to pay togger

Need to pay venue

Need to pay vicar

Need to contact vicar for banns to be read

Need to make a tester batch of cakes as my brother is a chef and is making them for us

Need to get astroturf for the dessert table

Need to get more baskets for dessert table

Need to get some white tights

Need to get mothers presents

Need to make confetti

Need to make the confetti cones

Need to get ring boxes for bearers

Need to get petals for flower girl

Need to sort out music

Need to get straws

Need to get jelly beans

Need to get hubby's ring

Need to get my great-nana's ring cleaned and resized

Need to get cupcake tins

OH GOD THERE IS SO MUCH LEFT TO DO, WHO AM I KIDDING.

I am starting to hit mad panic stage and seriously don´t know how I will manage to get everything done in the 4.5 months left. I try and reassure myself that plenty of people have planned an entire wedding in that time and that a lot of the big stuff is already done.

Aaaargh!

It doesn´t help that my OH has no comprehension whatsoever how much stuff is left to sort out! Anybody else´s OH like that?

Mine sort of knows...but I am the organiser so just get on and do everything. Then I tell him what I have been doing and he just smiles and says thanks. His jobs don't really kick in til nearer the time, I am happy to sort out writing the invites as long as he posts them!

How come everyone else is waiting for dress calls already but I can't try mine til a month before?!

A month before?!! I would have a nervous breakdown. Its killing me sat waiting knowing its due anyday!

Wow Im not 1 to panic BUT you really are leaving it late to buy your dress!!!

My stress levels were find until I read all through this post!

I have the dress, humanist, venue (plus eveyone has booked their accommodation), photographer, invites designed, BM foam bouquet done, My foam bouquet was done but doing it again - won't take long, favours (doubling as place settings) are bought and ready to be made up, guest book mostly done, BM's sorted, men in kilts (they all have them anyway) and dads in suits (have them too). I will start making the cake in June, tablet a fortnight before and the flowers I want are just cut glass vases and white flowers/baby's breath so I am heading down to the flower maket the day before (can't do it before as we are travelling 300 odd miles for the wedding). I've even written down lists for everyone of what they need to do when on the morning of the wedding and have everything sectioned into boxes for morning, day, evening with details instructions in them,

On top of that I have drinks and food booked for the night before for everyone who is down a night early.

Main jobs to do now are invites printed and out and our wedding website finished to take care of asking for their full meal want's as this needs done in advance. This should be easy, I'm a web designer but so far I have the domain bought and that's it! Oh, and pay everyone some more money :-)

Other than that there is : tableplan (roughly in my head already), mocking up a table centrepiece, room decs (know what to do just need to do it). Think that's it?! Probably missed loads but it'll be fiiiiiine :-)

We're having a small wedding and need to do some things down there as they won't travel well. I've also seen too many friends get seriously stressed before theirs and I refuse point blank to do this! If something goes wrong/isn't finished then so be it. I'm going with 'slow and steady' and doing a bit here and there each week while watching Eastenders - means the list is getting ticked off quickly without me really even noticing.

Oh and no, he doesn't have a clue and doesn't really care about finding out just happy to do what's asked of him (but ONLY and I repeat ONLY after the third asking).

This reminds me, invites to his friends won't go out if he doesn't find out their bl**dy addresses. ARRRRGGGGGGG HOW MANY TIMES DO I NEED TO ASK!!!!?

Blinkin' nora! If they are to be informal could you get your BM's and family to do this for you on the day? I'm doing that but I'm mocking everything up before and giving them photos of what I want (and will probably nip down there to ok it all on the day....) but on saying that, I'm not a big flower fan so I'm not too bothered about them.

Yes that's now the plan Pinpin. I'm thinking jugs £10 each from ebay and flowers from Tesco or Morrisons on the morning. Reception isn't until 5pm, I will have hair done at 3, so all morning can be spent putting flowers in jugs. We fly back from the wedding 3 days before, but Dad has said he'll go out into the fields and get us teasels, corn, thistles etc that we want to make it rustic.

Try country basket (I'm obsessed with that place) - really nice vases etc that are well priced. Last time I was in they had those old fashioned milk jugs - not sure if that's the style you're looking for?

When I went for measuring in Feb they told me we wouldn't have fittings and so on until a month before the wedding date as the shop has so many weddings they couldn't possibly all fit in the shop waiting to be collected or altered. I did make a comment about it being a bit too last minute for me, but they said that was the way they always worked. On the plus side it gives me longer to tone up before final measurements!

Yes, I want ivory milk jugs. I don't want to do the vintage thing, but it is a rustic sort of feel I'm going for. I've just registered on Country Baskets (hadn't heard of them before) and had a look - no ivory jugs available at the mo, but will keep an eye out for some. Otherwise there are traders on Ebay who do 12 for about £120.

I'm glad some others have OHs who are just the same! To be fair my OH does help out if I give him a job to do. It's just that he seems to think we only have 15 things left to organise rather than about 150. ?

Pandorasbox - my dress won't be arriving until July, so you're not the only one with a long wait!

Hi guys, i cant believe how quick this time is going!! Ive had a bit of a break from weddingy bits for a few weeks as my grandad died on st. patricks day ☹️ but i really need to get back into it!

My invites have half gone out but others not so that is first on my list to do!!

I think I'm good ish at the moment,

My dress is being altered -shortened, fitted and sashes sewn on

Going to london in 2 weeks to buy bridesmaids dresses - could go really well or they could be nightmares 50/50 which way it will go.

Need to pick a walking down the aisle song - really struggling with this, what ever I love OH hates and vice versa ?

Hair trial on 20th June

Need undies and jewellery - so far all the strapless bras have squashed and flattened me - not really the look I'm going for!

OH needs to get his arse in gear and pick a reading for his brother.

Just waiting for all the RSVP's to come back now, after the initial flurry not had any ages now

I had my hair trial a couple of weeks ago. I haven't sent invites yet. Really need to get a move on. The big issue for me at the minute is to lose some weight and stick to it!! I did'nt realise there was another august thread!

I am patiently waiting on cards being delivered from vista with options for the meal to put in with the invites and so i can send them out. OH offered to do these at his work during his lunch break and i thought great that saves me a job. After a few weeks I asked where they were and err...He had FORGOT all about it. Now the invites are late going out. I have them all written with an RSVP date of 11th June and they not even out yet!!!

MEN! Good job I'm chilled out about the wedding and not stressing about it!

3 month tommorrow!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! How you all doing?

Eek, it's getting exciting!! My dress has arrived today, and got a jam packed bank holiday of meetings with various suppliers next week! Plus, we've just been given a copletion date of the end of june for our new house, so will be moving in about 6 weeks before the wedding! I keep swinging between really exciting and blind panic!

How are you getting on?!

OMG OMG OMG!

I still feel like I have loads to do. I´ve had a week off and was planning on getting as much as possible tied up this week but I don´t feel like I´ve made much progress.

I seem to have spent most of the time messing around making my invitations, which has taken much longer than I expected. They do look lovely though if I may say so myself!

I think I just need to focus on the things that absolutely need doing and not the "nice to haves".

How is everyone else getting along?

Ha aren't getting married and moving house the 2 most stressful things to do!!

My dress came last week. Had a fitting and my wedding shoes were too high. Had another fitting yesterday and the new shoes are ok . Thankfully!

Ha, yes! We weren't planning on buying one till after the wedding but this was too good to miss!

I'm panicking about my dress slightly, the shop said I don't need to be fitted till 4 weeks before, but I live in Newcastle and my dress is in Manchester (where our wedding is) and I won't be able to drop everything 4 weeks before to keep going down! My own daft fault tho!

SB - what are your new shoes like?

CC, can we have a flash of your invites?!

Just got to sparkle the heels and I will be happy!!

I'm feeling very stresses. Still got shoes, and accessories to sort for the bridesmaids, flowers, ceremony details (paid the balance today), table plan ans decorations. Plus I'm having huge wobbles about my own outfit. We are getting married on the Sunday 26th.

Ho hum, we're getting there, sort of.

I have a dress fitting on Saturday, to sort out the alterations needed (shorten train and make cap sleeves). I have my shoes, and just need to find a nice necklace.

Invitations went out late just over a week ago and since our save the dates ended up being for the wrong date, we're finding lots of people can't come. More worrying is that not one of my extended family has replied yet. OK, so I don't see them often, and since we abbreviated our names and put no surnames on the invitation, some may be wondering who on earth "cara and jez" are. It's a bit disheartening though - so far the attendees are us, our parents, a couple of mates and the landlord of our local pub!

Anyway, I have also decided how to have my hair for the reception - a rather casual low messy side bun, with a big silk rose in it. I haven't got the rose yet since I need to speak to my hairdresser about whether I need a clip or a comb. That's next month's task. Meanwhile I have various tiaras and flowers lying about that i won't use. Will find a small child to donate them to.

OH still hasn't found shoes that he likes.

Best mate who is sort of honorary BM has picked up her dress and it fits. Yayyy!

Laid out honeymoon clothes last night to see what I still need (another bikini, a swimsuit, a short skirt and another maxi dress should do it) and amazingly the stuff I have put away since last summer still fits (original wedding was in March so I bought lots of things last summer).

Cakes and cake topper - sorted. Still need some sort of display thing for the cheese tower, but I have seen a circular wooden shopping board in Sainsburys that should work.

Flowers - don't ask. Still up in the air. Tescos looking best bet at the mo but no idea what to do about buttonholes and corsages.

Cutlery/crockery/linen hire all booked

Wedding/honeymoon accom and flights all paid for now (eeek that was pricy!)

Saw solicitor yesterday to get out paperwork in order - will send that off later today.

And finally, the ring saga is STILL not sorted out. I don't have a ring yet despite various jewellers trying and failing to make what I want. We commissioned a different jeweller last weekend to see what they can do. Annoyingly, all questions like "what if I don't like it? what if you can't make it right" were met with "it will be exactly as you want, dont worry". Hmmm where have I heard that before??! I'm so disheartened that I have told OH that I won't go in to the jewellers. He can go when it's ready, and let me know if it's right or not. If not, I'm giving up!

We've not done much for a few months and now I am fretting that we have a lot to do in not much time!

Day invites are nearly all back, I think we are waiting on 3 replies. Evening invites have gone out this week.

I have all of my outfit, but have yet to book a dress fitting.

Trying to sort out dress fittings with the BMs is proving tricky. Flowergirls dressis on order, should be here about mid Juky so am hoping it fits! Haven't got any of her accessories yet.

Flowers and cake are sorted and we both have our wedding rings.

Meeting the venue again in mid June.

All the big things seem to have been done but it's all the little bits that I know are just going to snowball and get left to the last minute if we don't start sorting them now!

Here are the invitations, unfortunately a bit blurry
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Ive gone from stressed to being super excited now ? but Im sure I will be re-stressed soon enough!

Our RSVP deadline is 15 June still missing tonnes for the evening guests and about 6 from the day (most are OHs friends and collegues!)

Only things left to sort is my necklace, bmaids jewlerry, flowergirls shoes (they are still growing so will leave this til month before) placecards, tableplan etc and presents for everyone.

Were picking our rings up on Saturday as they have been engraved and have a meeting with the vicar on sunday to go through the order of service. Meeting with venue in 2-3 weeks for menu tasting, cannot wait!

Sparkly - I LOVE your shoes! Im having 2nd thoughts about mine, brought them last year from BHS in the sale and have seen some gorg navy blue bow ones in debenhams which are twice the price. Im convincing myself the BHS ones will be more comfy!

xx

Seeing that some of you are down to 2 and a half months is panicking me! ha ha

Invitations finally finished and 98% have been posted yesterday. Just waiting for a few stragglers to get back to me with their addresses. I am sick of chasing, and suspect I know who we will be chasing for replies when it gets to July.

Hen do is all sorted, location has been moved to my Mum's house in Preston so that my sister can come, although that now potentially means two of my friends might not make it. On the plus side, I found a lovely party dress on my first shopping trip into town so am thrilled with that.

Lovely Rainbow Flowers is cracking on with the flowers, am waiting to see the mock ups soon. Can not wait!

All is sorted with Tog and reception venue now I think. We had the final menu through yesterday and it all looks totally scrummy.

My next jobs are:

Print evening invitations and get them sent soon.

Make pew ends

Finish buying gifts for parents and bridesmaids.

I was still thinking August was ages away until we got an invite for SIL2B's wedding which is late September. When looked at her gift list realised she is fast approaching 100 days to go, which was when we checked ours. The excitement hit first then a slight panic. We sat down last night to look at what we still need to do and what weekends we have to do things in.

So, tomorrow we are going to Ikea to look at some tea light holders, we were originally going to use baby food jars and add ribbon, but having had a friend collect them all for me, we did a test and just didn't like them. Hoping Ikea has some cheap ones. We're also off to Lego store to buy parts to create the legomen which is a part of the favours. I've got a huge list of parts to make sure we get the right colour hair etc... They looked at us weirdly when we bought 10 minifigures last time, and I think we need nearer 30 this time! So I'm expecting the weird looks.

OH needs to get his backside in gear and start looking for shoes/presents for the best man and ushers.