Awkward wedding present situation...

Ooh that is a bit awkward! Cos like you say it's not that you expected a pres but you don't want to feel a bit mug like by dolling out the cash to them at their do, it doesn't seem right! I would probably steer clear of the mutual friend thing, might be a bit awkward involving someone and would probably look like you would only get them a gift if they got you one. I think you are spot on with a little gift and ignoring the poem. You are then doing the right, generous thing, a nice but small gift, but not feeling like a mug by giving money if they didn't even get you a card! x

I would just get them a photo frame. That way you don't seem tight (not saying that you are but hopefully yswim!) and you can pick them up cheap.

I agree, a small present like a photo frame would be sufficient!

Hmmm... don't think you should ask around or try and match what they might have done. i think you're right about a small present.

ps. Monsoon are doing some absolutely gorgeous vintage-y frames http://www.monsoon.co.uk/Home-Accessories/Photoframes/icat/allphotoframes&bklist=icat,4,shop,home,allphotoframes

Omg you too! almost a year on I am now paranoid that the reason why a good friend is barely in contact now is due to the fact i havent thanked her for a gift...

on return from honeymoon i was going through all the gift tags and list i had made for my letters and realised she wasnt on it. So on msn i asked her if she'd mind confirming as i had a nameless gift and felt a bit embarrased asking her if it was from them.

She said it hadnt as she still had our gift, not wanting to leave it at the hotel for fear of it going walkies. She would post it on to us. It never arrived and ive never dared ask.....

now she isnt in touch as much....

i would ignore the poem and give a small gift because a frame will 'cherish the memories of a wonderful day' blahblahblah, from one bride to another and all that....