Baby plans after wedding

I hav been ready for kids for the last 2-3 years, but I am just a little traditional

Having made him stay away dueing the 9-3 months close to the wedding( Normal contraceptives like pills, injections and others not a goer for me ) as "I am, getting in my awesome dress" which is slinky and no rooms for bumps there I am just starting to get the urge for fun back rather than baby making.

But i think it will be more of a not stopping ourselves from getting pregnant rather than project planning it - my sister had difficulties with conceiving after an eptopic and took 4 years after that to create my lovely nephew - cutest little button. I just dont want to put the pressure on myself, but I also dont want to be too old when kids are at school.

No. Fucking. Way. ? (disclaimer: have got two already and NEVER AGAIN).

I am planning on coming off the pill on our wedding night and trying from then on, though realistically I don't think anything is likely to happen for a good few months until my body gets back into a rhythm!

We have both wanted children for a while, we have been together 5 1/2 years and bought our house 4 years ago. Getting married is the final thing we really wanted to do before children.

I've been off the pill since January 22nd and can't wait to chuck the - ahem - rainmacs away!!!

H2B says we can make a start when we're back at the hotel, I think I'll be getting some well-earned zeds. So the Sunday, then ?

We are planning on waiting 2-3 years afterwards. We have a list of things we want to do before having children and can't wait to do them all.

I'm with you on this, however my age is working against me- I'm 34 now and will be 35 later this year. I know that's not an issue nowadays, several friends of mine who are in their late 30s have had perfectly healthy children in recent years. BUT I am sick to the hind teeth of family CONSTANTLY on my case to have children, especially my parents (they don't have any grandchildren yet). I woke up feeling a bit sick last week, and had been feeling a bit tired and run down...my dad announced to everyone that he'd better stock up on nappies! Every time I make any mention of feeling a little bit under the weather, I'm pregnant. I feel a bit dizzy?....I'm pregnant. I have a bit of an upset tummy?...I'm pregnant. I FART...I must be pregnant...

Thing is, and the thing that I don't have the heart to tell them really, is that I don't even know myself if I want kids. I don't have a natural maternal instinct. Children just annoy me and I have no patience with them. I'm not saying I NEVER want a child, but I think you need to be 100% sure before taking this step, right?

Plus, I'm quite selfish, and I'm looking forward- like you are- to actually having a bit of cash and a few luxuries / holidays to enjoy after the wedding!

I'm hoping my little (30 year old) sister gets knocked up before I do to take the pressure off a bit...I might see if I can orchestrate things! ?

I can't afford to hang around - I'm 37 next month!

THIS! (apart from the disclaimer)

THIS - apart from the disclaimer!

We're gonna wait a bit; I did come off the pill but that was only cos it takes ages to get my cycle back to normal so I'm giving myself loads of time! We reckon we'll wait at least a year as we've only just bought our house and we want some time to ourselves. As others have said, once you have a baby, you can kiss goodbye to lots of things! My sister got pregnant just over a month after the wedding but she was 34 and figured she had to get a move on. I'm 31 so I figure I can wait the year anyway!

Not me.............I started the menopause when I was 35! I'm now 45 and have 2 children anyhow ?

You've got ages! People are having babies into their early to mid-forties these days.

That's my story and I'm sticking to it.

I'm 51... I don't think it's worth trying (well, for the purpose of babies that is)

Were both ready now, but want to wait until we've bought a house as there is defiantly no room for a baby plus us and our two cats!!

Not sure when to come off the pill though. Realistically we won't be in a new house before the new year...

I love that you can say this. My circle of friends are all quite 'mumsy' (they never used to be, they used to be COOL and INTERESTING, which is maybe part of the reason why I've been put off having kids...) and if I even suggest that I may not want to have children, there is a sharp intake of breath and lots of concerned cooing. I swear, it's like living in the frikkin' 1950s.

Nope wedding in feb and I don't want a baby born in winter. Will give it 4 months and then start trying.

Sounds random but my bday is in December and it sucks! Lol

Ha ha ha!

I want to get it out of the way. I've already got a 16 yo, I want to get those child-bearing years behind me!!

I/we can't decide. Sometimes I like the idea but then I spend a few hours with my OHs nieces and nephews and they annoy the hell out of me so I go home grateful all I have is a dog to worry about. I'm no naturally maternal. I have zero interest in other peoples children and I don't like children en masse. Also totally selfishly we had an amazing holiday for my OHs 30th and he got to choose it all and I was promised the same. I'll still be 28 when we get married but if I have a baby too soon I'd miss my choice of fab holiday (I know that makes me a bit of a cow). Plus my OH is 5 years older than me and would rather have kids sooner rather than later. We'll have to see. I have the mirena coil anyway so it would take a while to get back to normal anyhow whenever I have that removed.

I can't imagine we'll be thinking about kids for another couple of years, we're 28 but we're still enjoying being selfish and going on nice holidays! Plus, we want to own a house before having kids, and before doing that we need to choose which country we're going to live in!! Plus, I feel far too immature to be having a baby - only just coming to terms with being grown up enough to get married!!!

I will be just turned 26 when we get married and Hubby 30, so I'm thinking we've got plenty of time? I want to really WANT to have a baby when I do. As I will have been on the pill for 9 years when we get married, I'm considering coming off it soon after our honeymoon which will be 6 months after the wedding (hopefully), and just using the 'withdrawal' (!!!) method from then on until we really want to try. A friend did this and not once did she fall pregnant until they started trying properly.

We had decided to try straight away, but the closer we get to the wedding we are re-thining about perhaps waiting a year, to enjoy our money too really. The wedding is taking every penny we have and it will be nice to have a year no major worries before baby. We'll see.

Second this!

I'm hoping to start trying straight away. I wanted to be married first ?

We have been trying for about 3 and half years, once the wedding & Honeymoon is complete and we are happily married we will start the IVF process :/

My sister was 3 months into the fertillity meetings and was a week from IVF and got pregnant - i hope its the same for you

Originally we was going to try on our wedding night, but after having no money to ourselves for over a year and a half i'm actually looking forward to going out and buying stuff for us again! So who knows? We're definitely ready for children and my other half said he'd love kids before hes 30! Hes 27 this year. We've both said we only want 1 child but it might change once we've had our first and I've always said i'd like my oldest to be 8/9 before we try for another! So don't want to wait around too long. I suppose I'll see how I feel the day after the wedding ?

Thanks hun

I think i stress far to much....but then it kinda comes with the whole baby making process when its been a year plus.

I'm planning to move before we stop trying to NOT have a baby, i've wanted one for a couple of years and i'd love one now. We live three hours from my parents and I want to be back near them when I have kids... maybe 2 years or so after the wedding?

OH's sister got pregnant on her wedding night... within 2 weeks of coming off the pill (it takes a while for it to wear off didnt really work out...) Turns out exactly the same happened to her mum! i'll therefore be staying on it until we're 100% ready!

We definitely want to wait until after the wedding. We are both a bit traditional like that. We are in two minds about it. Not sure if we want to live our lives a bit more once married or if we want to share everything with our babies. When the time is completely right I'm sure we will know it

Skeptical - My friends are gradually falling off the edge and having kids. They don't push the issue with me they know how it is! My mum is quite good and says it's my life to do with as I wish, but I know a grandchild would make her life. My brother on the other hand gives me a hard time for not making him an uncle.

I am a pretty maternal person, and I would have liked them had my circumstances been different. I reckon I'd only really become a child friendly person fully once I'd had my own. As it stands MF is too old and we'd not concieve naturally - and it really doesn't bother me that we won't be having them, if I really wanted them I could look at how to make this happen, but I can't be bothered! ?

Before I got my pup all I could think of was getting a dog, it consumed me and for about the last 20 years I've been waiting for the day when I got one. This is exactly how some of my friends feel about children! Rosco - this is how I feel when I'm around my friend's kids - I can't wait to get home to my dog!

MF's best friend is a foster carer and is trying to talk us into that - but that's a whole other story!!!

We would both like children soon. We'll be 27 and 28 when we marry next year and will have been together 9 yrs. We've got our own home and gorgeous dog (who gets treated like a baby haha) but think we'd like to start a family soon. I think once we're married we'll just let nature take its course and whenever (hopefully) it happens it happens.

For me, its more a case of we wont particularly be trying after the wedding but if it happens it wont be the end of the world type thing.

I would like to have children the near future after I get married next May, by which point I will be almost 25 and seems the right age for me.
It'll be the next step really as we already have our own place.. I can get incredibly broody though!