Been married before?

Didn't get down the aisle the first time thankfully, was engaged for 18 months then left him.

Married in 1983 (27yrs ago on Friday!) and then again in 2005.

3rd time lucky?????

Married in 1997 to my son's dad - split in 2005. Not all of it unhappy, but I kinda got tired of promises that never happened and his 'the world owes me' attitude.

Been engaged to 4 different men - one of them twice! Had a lucky escape in 1989 when we were on the motorway heading for Gretna and I decided I couldn't get married without my parents there. We turned around and went home, and my mum hadn't even realised I had been gone all day or that I'd taken a suitcase with me.

I was married for 31 years, 4 children. Once the last child left home I knew that we had nothing left for each other and decided to leave. it was all quite amicable.

He is now engaged to a nice woman and we are both happy.

This wedding is more about us and not keeping my parents happy

Hi was with my ex for 19 years, got married in 1995 and split in 2005 just before my 10th anniversary had my daughter with him, marriage ended - I was 16 when I met him - just too young but he also became an alcoholic and it wasnt the best environment.

1st wedding big white affair - parents paid for and influenced.

2nd wedding smaller non white affair but totally paid for by us and what we want. 2nd time for OH too hes marriage ended just because it ran out of steam but they are still mates.

sherrie, you got married the eyar i was born!!

Alright, alright don't rub it in!! ?

lol i didnt mean it liek that, i was shocked as thought must have been like silly young in 83 to be getting married!!

I was almost 21 when I got married the first time. I looked about 16!!

Ooo i love the hat! your're right tho, you looked really really young there!!

Its good to know i'm not the only one whos been married before.

my first wedding (i dont know why but i always feel bad for saying that?) was paid for by parents (both sides)...but when it didnt work out after just a year i felt terrible to file for divorce to be honest. All that money wasted but then i knew my parents were happy that i was happy and away from that A******e! lol so this time around me and the OH are paying for it, thankfully we've decided that it's going to be a low budget wedding (doing most of the things myself) xx

I married my 1st husband in 1992 when my 2nd son was 4months old, we had our 3rd son in 1993 and my daughter in 1996 (who passed away at birth)

We divorced in 1998, we just couldnt cope or communicate about Sasha's passing...

Our wedding was pretty grim though lol, we had not a lot of money, he had just joined the RAF, I had a 2nd hand dress which was miles too big for me, wedding in registry office and back home for home made buffet.... bleugh! lol

This time I'm doing it RIGHT, all guns a-blazing wedding and I can't wait.

I know exactly what you mean, everytime I say "Last time" I feel guilty. I goy married in 2002, I left in March 2004. My first wedding was fabulous, all aprat from the guy. I still remember standing outside the door of my wedding venue with my dad crying and dad saying "Are they because you are happy or because you are not sure" and I said "happy" when all I was thinking is "Get me out of here". I knew for weeks, if not months before that I did not want to do it, but I felt I had to because people had paid so much money.

I'm finding second time round hard as I had almost everything the way I wanted it first time round and I cant do the same again. I really cant imagine me beating last times dress, I adored it. This time I am having the Church I wanted, which i couldnt have last time as he was pagan. It was also quite gothy last time which was more for him than me so that will be different.

This time I'm not settling

I got engaged at 15, but I didn't do much "planning" as we couldn't do it until I was 18 due to my parents not agreeing.

He was also in the army and went off to Iraq, came back a completely different person and we drifted apart. We split up when I was 20.

Took me a lot of time before I was ready to move on, but finally met OH when I was 22 - he was my first serious relationship after the above ex, very different, and very right.

Ironikly I always knew id marry in the church I am marrying H2B in and my ex felt the same - so much so that he married there 18 months after we broke up!!

I was engaged before - we were due to get married in July 2004, I left in the May. Lost a lot of money and was the hardest decision I've ever had to make but I just knew things weren't going to work out so it was without doubt the right thing to do.

Very different this time round - a bit older and a bit wiser as to what really matters in life. x

I was married in 1993 at the very young age of 20, I was so naive, I really thought he was the be all and end all of everything, well he certainly had made me think that way! We had been together 6 years when we got married. We took out a loan to pay for most of it and our parents chipped in for things like suit hire, my dress, invites etc.... The wedding was in a church which I hated as I am not religious at all and I felt such a fraud saying vows in a place that I didn't believe in but unfortunately I allowed myself to be carried away with everything he wanted. I clearly remember the day after the wedding crying buckets and feeling really sad, everyone told me it was because of all the build up to the wedding and then it was all over but I knew in my heart it was because I just done the most stupidest thing in my life so far and what on earth was I going to do. After an unfortunate illness I somehow found the courage to leave him about a year after the wedding. It was the best thing I ever did, I realised I had spent the last 7 years being someone else and that I had wasted the most important years of my life playing house, being skint and relying on someone else for everything. I also realised what a control freak he had been over my life so far.

Since then I bought my own house, lived on my own for nearly 8 years, controlled my own finances and did what I wanted to do. I did have a boyfriend during this time but it didnt work out. Since meeting my h2b in 2003 I totally know in my heart I have found my soulmate and my best friend because since we have been together I don't have to be anything but myself and he would never expect me to be otherwise. Everything falls together so easy and I know this is how it should be ? I am enjoying every moment of planning this wedding because in my heart I have truely found my place in the world. I am so excited about the wedding and my family seem to be as well because they can see how happy I am and how right we are together.

To be honest, most of the time I totally forget about my first marriage now, its almost as if it never happened and I like it that way. ?

Love the tread!

Yes, I am also a second time round girl.

Got married before in 1991, aged 22. Was very young and innocent. Wedding plans were taken over by inlaws. Was fairly small wedding.

Marriage was a disaster, he was controlling and abusive, and it ended in 2000.

My twins were born in 1995.

THis time I am planning a fabulous wedding, exactly the way I want it, I am a bit more mature these days!!

Don't want anything to remind me of my first marriage on the day, so making a big effort to have different cars, flowers etc

And husband ofcourse!!

I've been down the aisle twice...and one i didn't go through with it and fled the church

First time i was quite young. 19 and i was getting married to a 21 yr old girl i knew most of my life. We got married in front of a few family & friends , but in 3 months it all fell apart. We realised we werent ready for marriage and got an annullment but stayed together. A year later we broke up.

Second time was a guy and this one lasted less than a year. He was an alright guy but wanted me to be more of a housewive and less on my social life. Wasnt controlling (Boy i've had plenty of them) but wanted me to settle down. I wasnt ready and soon he had an affair and that was my first divorce. Havent spoken to hi since i moved out.

Third time i am hoping is a charm. Its a girl again but i love her and she loves me. We havent started planning the wedding but we are hoping for summer 2011 at best.

xx

On November 6th 1986, age 19 I met my ex, by the same date the following year we had got engaged (May 87), got married (in August 87, just 6wks after deciding yes we would get married not just stay engaged) and had our first baby (she was born October 1987)...............when we married it was what our parents wanted, and at time I thought I wanted it too, in 1987 there was still a stigma attached to being single when pregnant. I was 7.5months pregnant when I walked down the aisle, in a dress I liked but didn’t LOVE, had bridesmaids (1 of which will be at this wedding, doing a reading) and we got married without ever having a date outside of the Prison Officers club that both our fathers were members of – no meal no cinema trip nothing!

11yrs, and 3 more children later I could count on one hand the amount of times we had been out as couple, he wouldn’t let children stay at grandparents houses to give us quality time – he didn’t believe in us needing it. He had a drink problem and it came to a head on December 28th 1998 – I gave him an ultimatum either me and kids OR the drink- he poured his drink down the sink and as I watched my heart sank because I knew he would need help to get through it and that I couldn’t leave him then. I stuck by him, he went through depression for a while causing unemployement but he never ever knew how I felt.

Fwd 2yrs and I found the courage to walk out, it completely blew the family apart but it is without doubt the best decision I have ever made.

We were divorced in 2002 and since then I have lived alone with my kids. In 2008 I met Paul and he has shown me what life should be like ? ? and that is one of the many reasons I love him and am marrying him next year, at a wedding of OUR choice, which includes the dress of my dreams ?

Paul however has had 4wives before me ? and has been quoted now as saying ‘Saving the best for last’ lol

I'm a second timer too. Got married in 2005 when I was 6 months pregnant with our second baby. Should never, ever have gone through with it! He was much younger than me and was fine when we had just one child but the second one made him a hundred times more lazy. Said on more than one occasion that I didnt deserve a break because my job was to look after him, the house and the kids. Ar$e hole! Got my divorce through in July this year, a week before my wonderful, fantastic bloke proposed!

I always feel bad talking about the first wedding too. My Mum and Dad put quite a bit of money into it and she's said more than once that she wishes I hadnt been married before and wasted that money. Not in a mean way, just that they are strapped for cash now so cant contribute to this one as much as they would like. Makes me feel like a stupid fool

Oh and the first wedding was small and rubbish. This one will be huge and amazing!!

as civil partnerships came in much later, (I see you're now 27) this couldnt have really been a marriage??? Nice idea though but legally it wouldnt have been so does it count? I had a catholic friend who first married in a registrars and secondly in a catholic wedding as the monsignor said the first one didnt count, hehe.

welcome to Hitched.

It was a civil partnership yes but i myself considered it a marriage because i was in love with her at the time. My second time down the aisle i didnt because i knew deep down it wasnt right.

Sorry you misunderstood my point, I wasnt dissing your feelings for her, I was questioning whether it was a civil partnership wedding because the CP Act wasnt until 2004, which is SIX years ago. Unless that is when you got married, when YOU were 21 and not 19?

Just clarifying

Married 1974 for 25 yrs I was a baby lol

Married again 2008, and very happy ?

2nd time for me to!

Met ex in 2001 when I was 20 and he was 28 and a complete smooth talker/charmer. My mum and Dad were just splitting up and he "helped" me through it....hated my Mum as was a complete Daddy's girl so wanted to move out asap! Bought a house together that November just after getting engaged (after 3 months of officially being together....he was with someone else when I first met him).... got married June 2005, massive wedding all paid for by parents.

Roll on 8 months later February 2006 came home for him to say he didn't love me! So walked upstairs packed a bag and went back to my Mum's! best decision I have ever made!!

It actually wasn't brought in to force until December 2005.

Nice try, BiBride!

Welcome to Hitched though!

I was 19 and i was quite young and confused and really didnt have a say in how it was organised. I was only asked to get a dress and even that was a hassle because she didnt want me wearing a veil. She wore a white suit and i wore a dress. It was a nice ceremony , but the marriage fell apart in 3 months

BiBride - what the ladies have pointed out is that there was no such thing as a Civil Partnership in those days. You were only able to have a legally recognised ceremony from December 2005.

School snow day much?! ?

Totally!