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Browny
Beginner June 2011

Been MIA for a few days (sens)

Browny, 29 April, 2011 at 20:37 Posted on Planning 0 30

Hi All,

Some of you may (or may not) have noticed but I haven't been around for a few days. A bit of background - my dads been ill and off work for about 8 weeks with dizziness, balance problems and sickness. The doctors thought he had vertigo but the tablets werent working. They referred him for an MRI to check for something I cant remember what but it was a four week wait for the scan. They didnt want to wait so paid for a private scan and he had it on Saturday. On Tuesday he was contacted to be told he had one large and several small tumours in his brain. They apparently looked like secondary tumours which meant there was a primary one somewhere else. He was told to go to A&E immediately to get admitted to have a CT Scan to try and locate the primary. I live 4 hours away so when mum rang me and told me I drove straight up and have been with them ever since. He managed to have a CT scan on Wednesday which showed some lumps in his lungs which they think are the primary tumours. He is now waiting for a biopsy to check what type of lung cancer it is to then decide on treatment. We were told on Wednesday he would have the biopsy within a couple of days but then on Thursday we were told they cant fit him in until 12th May. So now we have to wait till then for him to have it, and then a week for the results to come through. Its horrific not knowing. Its been the worst four days of my life and just feel numb. This is going to go on for a long time and will probably get much harder. I just feel so helpless at the moment as its just waiting for the biopsy so we dont know what to do with ourselves. I think I'll go home Monday and back to work on Tuesday but the thought of leaving my dad fills me with dread. My wedding is in 6 weeks and I really couldnt give two hoots about whats left to do. I just want my dad to be ok and to be able to walk me down the isle.

I'm at a loose end tonight so thought I'd check in with everyone.

xxx

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Latest activity by Blonde Viki, 4 May, 2011 at 20:14
  • lisaloulou
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    Oh god, I am so sorry. What an absolute nightmare for you all. Can't imagine how you are feeling at the moment. Worrying about my parents getting ill is something I do a lot. Fingers crossed for some more postive news after the 12th xx

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  • Sherrie H
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    I don't know what to say other than I am here & anything you need just shout.

    Don't stress about anything and take care of the people who need you xxxx

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  • nanny plum
    Beginner September 2011
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    So sorry,what a nightmare. I hope your dad makes a speedy recoveryx

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  • S
    Beginner June 2011
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    I'm so sorry to read this, I hope you some news soon as I can imagine not knowing is just terrible. I think your wedding must be very close to mine (11 June)? Am thinking of you tonight x

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  • SoontobeMrsB
    Beginner October 2011
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    Oh MrsB_2B, I'm so sorry to hear that. Life can be so cruel sometimes. Thinking of you & I truly hope there will be some positive news after the biopsy. xxx

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  • Browny
    Beginner June 2011
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    Thanks everyone.

    I hope you will all understand that I probably wont be on here much over the next few weeks. I'll come on for reports etc but I just feel like I cant contribute to posts at the moment as I'm not in the right frame of mind.

    SouthB2B - yes I'm the 11th June - 6 weeks tomorrow and my hen do is a week tomorrow.

    xxx

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  • leni-lw!
    Beginner November 2011
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    Im so sorry to hear about your dad- hoping the news on the 12th will be positive for you x

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  • charliebird7
    Beginner March 2012
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    I'm so sorry to hear what you've been going through. I wish you and your family all the best for the 12th and hope you have positive news. x

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  • lovelygirl
    Beginner August 2011
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    I am really sorry to hear your bad news and did not want to read and run... I am shocked you were told you had to wait that long for an MRI on your dads head, I must live in an area where you can MRIs within a week??? The only thing I find that works with the NHS is to kick up a fuss and just don't accept the first appointment if you think you can't wait!!! Wishing your father all the best and hope for a quick recovery!

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  • R
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    So sorry to hear your news. It puts things into perspective doesn't it. You post brought tears to my eyes.x

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  • Browny
    Beginner June 2011
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    Yeah I know lovelygirl we tried that. In fact my mum pleaded with the doctors to do something to bring it forward (heartbreaking to see and not be able to do anything) but they said due to the bank holidays there is that many urgent cases and they only do the CT guided biopsy's on certain days it would be two weeks! It really is *** but the doctors have been amazing and did everything they could. I just keep hoping this is all a really bad dream.

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  • Browny
    Beginner June 2011
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    It certainly does thats for sure.

    xxx

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  • excitedbee
    Beginner February 2011
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    Oh i'm so sorry, that's really terrible. I really hope they can treat him quickly, and you still manage to have a fabulous wedding day. Thinking of you and your family

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  • SaSaSi
    Beginner July 2012
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    What awful news. Just keep doing right by your dad / family and don't be worrying about the finer wedding details. I hope you's get good news soon. Take care x

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  • Jay-Low
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    So, so sorry to hear this news. ☹️

    We are all here if you need anything. You might feel helpless but just 'being there' for your dad and for your mum is helping them both more than you know.

    xxxxxx

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  • LoveSka
    Beginner October 2011
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    Sorry to hear your news and I hope all goes well with your dad's next set of tests.

    Hopefully the fact that the hospital are making your dad wait a week or 2 for his appointment is a a good sign (IYNWIM)

    xx

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  • Holly-Jayne
    Beginner August 2012
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    So sorry to hear your news, my thoughts are with you and your family. I hope you have some positive news soon for him xxx

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  • *Nursey*
    Beginner May 2012
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    Really sorry to hear that, hope you're ok-ish. Hope everything works out for you all xx

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  • teeheeyoucrazyguys!
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    Oh heck.....im sooo sorry, thoughts are with you all xx

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    Beginner October 2011
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    I'm so sorry to hear this. Fingers crossed for good news for you and your family.

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  • Mrs C
    Beginner March 2011
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    Not really much to add other than to echo the thoughts of the others.... x

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  • judeclarke
    Beginner October 2011
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    ? Hugs to you and your family. I hope you get the outcomes you need.

    Try to stay positive and make your wedding a happy occasion and something for your dad to look forward to to help him through the tests and any treatment - he'll need something to keep him going at the moment, and so do you.

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  • Purple Pixie
    Beginner July 2012
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    I am so, so sorry to hear your incredibly sad news. I know that nothing I say can make the situation any better but I want to send you and your family my love.

    Have either your mum or dad said anything about the wedding? How is your dad feeling in himself at the minute? I know sometimes these things can be happening but the person feels relatively well.

    If there's anything that you still need doing for your wedding that needs phone calls, e-mails, etc. I'd happily to whatever I can to help you. Whereabouts is your wedding?

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  • Browny
    Beginner June 2011
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    Thank you so much you are so kind. And everyone else for their kind words.

    He's still dizzy etc but he's ok in himself. Problem is if we get the results for the biopsy in two weeks time they may start chemo straight away so he might be incredibly unwell around the wedding. I just dont know at the minute everything is so up in the air.

    He was supposed to be doing my photos as he's a professional photographer but has sorted a work colleague to them instead, which really upset him as he really wanted to do them himself.

    There isnt too much left to do, just stationary (which my sister is doing), the dresses need altering and a few other bits and pieces but thankfully I've been very organised which will come in handy no doubt over the next few weeks. I need to get some of the gifts still so thinking of getting mum and dad a weekend away at a hotel/spa to have some quality time together to relax.

    Thanks again everyone for all your words of support.

    xxx

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  • S
    Beginner June 2011
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    I think that's a perfect present for them, sounds like it will be exactly what they need and something to look forward to. Have everything crossed for positive news for you soon x

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  • JezVonSavage
    Beginner September 2012
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    Oh, how terrible. I'm sorry to hear that. I'm sure your wedding is the least of your worries x

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    Beginner February 2012
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    Hi i don't know what to say but i hope they find out exactly what your dad needs and that he makes a speedy recovery, i can not imagine being in your position, hope everything works out

    x

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  • fizzypop
    Beginner July 2011
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    I'm so so sorry, what awful news xxx

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  • Blonde Viki
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    Oh no! What an awful thing to be going through, for your dad not the least but for you and your family too.

    I'm not ashamed to say I'd be in bits if anything happened to my dad, so I can't imagine how you are feeling. Be as strong as you can for him!

    I've got my everything crossed that he gets his test results and it's something that he can recover from well.

    *big hugs*

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