Being given away

It's tricky. I feel the same way as you, I'm no one's property! But I think for me, it's a chance for my dad to have his moment and I should probably just let him have that. It's just a few words after all, and will probably make his day

Can you re word it to "who escorted this woman today" or something similar.

my friend felt the same as you so she walked up the aisle alone!

iam having my 2 brothers give me away, i think due to excitement and nerves im going to need someone wither side to kep me upright! ?

I definitely want dad to walk up the aisle with me, I just don't like the question! I'm not sure you can reword it either, it's just you either have it or you don't. I don't want to upset dad, but equally I don't want to be made uncomfortable during the most important part of my wedding day!

I think you can be walked down the aisle by someone without being officially given away (i.e. they walk in with you, then simply step to the side without the "give away" question). On my registry office paperwork they are two separate questions - how you will enter the room and are you being given away. My mum has quite firmly told my dad he is not allowed to give me away, but he is allowed to walk me in. ?

Our registrar will say 'thank you <name> for escorting your daughter SamSam here today' or something similar. He still gets his moment but I'm not being given away.

I was never asked about this and it wasn't mentioned during the ceremony. Bizarre!

We got a form from the registar to confirm what we wanted. The option was to be "given away" or not. They use 2 different speeches for this bit so it was your choice to have it in or not.

I chose to ?

I think you'll just have to check with your minister/registrar what the options are.

I agree with you that I am not my dad's property to be given away and, in any event, he gave me away a long time ago when I moved out of home!

However, I think my dad will like it and I'd probably shed a tear at it, so in the name of tradition, I'd have no problem in keeping it in.

Hi there, I feel exactly the same. I really want my Dad to walk me down the aisle, but at 29 (having lived away from home for 11 years) I do not want to be given away (not only is it silly as I am self-sufficient independent woman now, even if I was getting married at 21 and lived at home I wouldn't like it as I deem it to be a tad sexist- I am not property to be handed arounf from man to man!).

In the pack I was sent they have asked me what I want to do and whilst I am umming and arring over "promises" we can make to eachother, I ticked the "don't want to be given away" box immediately, that's how strongly I felt.

He will be walking me down the aisle though, I like that bit!

Do whatever you feel comfortable with!?

To clarify, in the case of our Reg Office, being escorted down the aisle and being given away were two separate things.

I hadn't even thought about this!

I assume you've got the same registrars as me? I haven't looked at our options forms yet but I will have a look tonight and see if they can be two separate things?

Oh I know they are two different things, I am more worried about offending dad by not having the question asked! I love Sam's idea though, I think I will ask the registrar to do that. It's good to hear that I'm not the only person who feels this way

It's never even occurred to me. I am a bit too laid back to be offended by it tbh.

WSS

Of all the things to do with the wedding etc I had never even thought about this being something I'd want to change - I'm not anyone's property of course but it'd feel like I was taking something away from my dad if he couldn't do his bit - he's always joked that he can't wait to give me away but he couldn't find anyone to take me lol I think it's quite nice as a traditional thing, dad's and daughters have that special bond and it's a big moment for the dads to hand their little girl over to someone else who is now going to protect her and love her - it may be overly sentimental and out dated but I think it'll be one of the most special moments of the day for my dad and I wouldn't ever think of getting rid of it.

But that's just me ?