Being happy/ comfortable with your weight/ size

Well I wasn't happy when I was 3st less than I am now and now I'd love to be that size again ?

Have you thought more about trying to tone up those area instead, rather than just keeping the weight down?

Oh dear ?

I do as much exercise as I can - I cycle to work and back every day which is admittedly only 2.5 miles but it's hilly! And I walk for half an hour at lunchtime. I wore my knee cartilage out running & taking weird hormones about 8 years ago so any more than this irritates them and they're sore.

I probably could cut out the odd high fat treat and some boozing if I'm honest...

I am finally happy wih my weight and how I look. I am 9st 5 and feel that this is right for my build and height. Like you any less than this is too hard to mantain. I think its also about tone - I am now training four days a week and think this is helping me mantain as well as keeping up the healthy eating diet that I have been following.

Unfortunately I don't there is an easy answer!

At my thinnest I was a bit over 9st. I loved it, but given I'm 5'8 and big-boned it was really too thin - my boobs disappeared and became teabag-like ? I only got to that weight on the heartbreak diet - 6 months of eating almost nothing.

Now I'm 10st or thereabouts and really fit. I'd prefer to be smaller, but being able to eat what I like makes up for it - as does feeling really proud of my body because of running.

At my lowest I was 9st4lb. I didn't maintain it for long. I am currently 11st5 and a size 12/14 and i'm not at all happy but thinking to before I had MissSun I was 10st, a size 10 but still felt like I needed to lose more so i'm not really sure i'll ever be satisfied.

I'd just like to be 10st anything really and stop thinking about everything I ate. I'd also like MrSun to be happy because he's always on about his struggle to lose, despite only being a 32inch waist which isn't big for a man by any means.

I've tried the Beyond Chocolate approach which is fab in theory and I did ok for about a week and then I couldn't stop my greediness from taking hold. I really don't want to be watching what I eat for the next 40 odd years though. It's depressing thinking about it.

I am currently overweight, I am 5ft 4 and weigh 10st 13, have lost 7lb in the last 4 weeks. I am aiming to get somewhere around 9st but the only way I can hope to maintain when I get there is to exercise like mad as I love my food too much. Anyway when I met my now husband I was a size 10, before I went to university/during uni I was an size 8-10 and I was never particularly content with my size and weight then. I think for me it relates to fitness, I was small but wasn't particularly active or fit and I have a super fit, super active sister so I think what will make me more happy and comfortable will be to get fit rather than just lose weight. With this in mind I have signed up to do a 10k run and am training for that and then once I have done that, hopefully I will have discovered a love of running and carry that on but i am also doing a swim challenge too so with any luck by the end of this year my fitness should be vastly improved, my body tone also improved and I should be within a normal weight range with a normal bmi.

I've only just decided to lose weight this week. I'm 12st on the dot, 5'5 and a size 12-14. I'm actually generally happy with how I look because I know i dress to suit my shape. I hated having to lose some weight to fit into a bridesmaid's dress recently and I'm also not a fan of the idea of wearing a bikini this summer...

The thing is, when I see photos of myself, I think I look fat. Even though I don't when I look in the mirror (i must have a GREAT mirror!). So I've decided to lose weight so that it's not something I even think about anymore, so that my weight is no longer an 'issue' - so I can wear really slinky dresses and a bikini with no panic. I'm ashamed to say I weigh 12st as it seems really high. I want to be 9.5st by Christmas so I'm just going to take it slowly and work much harder to excercise.

I'm hoping that I'll be happy with myself when I'm 9.5st. I'm hoping that the things that annoy me just now will no longer be an issue. I hope it's all worth it.

Haha, me too, do as much exercise as i can... but it really doesnt matter so much, i mean, i still love the 'imperfect' myself ?, wish you all the best!

Hickory, I can sort of relate to that. I look in the mirror and think I look alright and i'm not miserable but i'm not happy either. I hate buying size 14's but have had to recently because of my thick thighs and that's been the biggest annoyance.

I just can't seem to stick at anything (diet wise) long enough to shift it.

SUnset21 - I've never been able to stick at anything diet-wise either. Mind you, I was between 9-10 stone until MrH and I moved in together 3 years ago and it's crept on since them, I'm at my heaviest now so I guess this is the spur to make me.

My mum and sister have recently (in the past 8 weeks) lost 12 and 13 lbs on SW and really rave about it. They only/mostly do green days (is that the carb one?) and are always munching big plates of pasta or heaped jacket potatoes and delighted with the diet (and weightloss). I've decided not to do it though because I don't want to 'diet to lose weight' - I just want to be a slimmer and healthier person and I know if I did a target-based 'diet', I'd hit my target and go back to 'normal' eating (plus, I just can't see how what they do is healthy, even though they're following the plan to the letter).
So my plan has been just cutting right back on 'habit'-food (bit of brie after dinner, piece of cake at lunch, wine on a Friday, too much bread) and also cutting portion sizes. So far, I don't feel deprived at all and hopefully with the extra exercise, this will just because a new way of life and not a 'diet'.

Hickory that sounds like a good plan to me! I've been doing something similar - just trying to only eat when I'm hungry and not eat loads of stuff just because it's there! I have lost nearly a stone in 6 weeks by not eating rubbish (given that you have eat 3500 calories over your expenditure to put on a pound I have been eating a lot of rubbish!). Need to tackle the more exercise thing now!

My problem is accepting that I will always be a pear shape with larger bottom and thighs but a smaller pear shape if I lose weight - I think I'm secretly hoping that I'll turn into a Kate Moss shape overnight!

I've read Beyond Chocolate and you know what I am tired of feeling unhappy because I don't weigh less. I've actually lost the desire to check on the scales and I was doing it every day until a couple of weeks ago. I weigh more than most of you and am a size 16/18 but I am tired of feeling miserable. Those negative voices in my head are so unpleasant and the first time the other night I'd tried Paul McKenna's suggestion of repeating the vile things I said to myself in a stupid voice and I didn't pay any attention to the internal dialogue in the end.

I am eating what I want and trying to do it consciously and slowly. I have lost a couple of pounds because my upper midriff is slightly smaller and that has made a huge boost to my confidence. I got wolf whistled by a builder the other day. I can't remember the last time it happened it was so long ago. I ain't the prettiest girl in the street but I wasn't beaten with the ugly stick either LOL!

I must admit I hate photo's of myself. I never come across as very photogenic and what narks me the most is what I see in the pics isn't what I see in the mirror and I hate that they don't represent me the best way! But still on the whole I am trying to accept who I am. I am never going to be 9st but then I don't think I really want to be. I will still have wobbly bits and faded stretch marks from my kids but I try and remind myself that when people die they don't wish that they'd spent more time making themselves feel bad about how they look. Sounds cliched but there you go.